A member of our church, who shall remain unnamed, recently came to me for guidance, because her teenaged daughter had “come out” to her as “ace,” or “asexual.”
This church member had many questions, and was understandably confused. But at the same time, she was telling herself this might be some kind of blessing.
Why? Because her daughter had explained that being asexual meant she was not sexually attracted to anybody, and therefore felt no need or desire to engage in sex.
In the “anything goes” society we’re living in, what parent of a teenaged girl wouldn’t celebrate if they learned that girl was uninterested in sex, right?
Sadly, if your teenager announces he or she is part of the asexual community, that is no cause for elation. To understand why, you must first understand the claims “ace” people make about themselves.
I direct your attention to the following cynical piece of ace recruitment propaganda:
|Asexuality is a sexual orientation, like being straight or gay. When someone is straight, they’re interested in people of a different gender. When someone is gay, they’re into the same gender. But when someone is asexual, or “ace” as it’s called, they’re not really into anyone in that way. They simply don’t experience sexual attraction. Asexuality isn’t something that needs to be “fixed” or “cured”, it’s just a part of who you are.|
Now then, we know God doesn’t want us to have sex before marriage (see Hebrews 13:4), and He doesn’t want us having sex fantasies. In fact, He hates us having sex fantasies so much, that in His view, the mere act of thinking sexual thoughts about somebody means you have committed adultery with that person (see Matthew 5:28).
So, you might be thinking, what a blessing it would be to be free of such urges! How Godly it must be to be one of these “ace” people, who is never driven to distraction by impure thoughts about a member of the opposite sex!
What a truly wonderful opportunity it would be, to be “ace,” and not have the temptation to fornicate coming between you and your God! Right?
You see, God designed us to have sexual urges specifically because He wants us to experience the long journey of transcendent faith that enables some of us to refrain from sins of the flesh!
What good is your chasteness to God if you never had to work at it?
Why would the Lord prize your purity if you didn’t need to exercise supreme self-control in order to maintain it?
God tells us our sexual urges are built right in, because He wants to see us contain those urges by being married and by controlling ourselves:
|1 Corinthians 7:8-9
I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
How fair and how pleasant art thou, O love, for delights!
I said, I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of the boughs thereof: now also thy breasts shall be as clusters of the vine, and the smell of thy nose like apples;
And the roof of thy mouth like the best wine for my beloved, that goeth down sweetly, causing the lips of those that are asleep to speak.
I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me.
Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see if the vine flourish, whether the tender grape appear, and the pomegranates bud forth: there will I give thee my loves.
Nay, a young person who feels no attraction to members of the opposite sex, and who is not vexed by the urge to engage in sexual procreation, is a broken individual. They are defective, and will never know the joy of winning a brave struggle within themselves to preserve their sexual purity for God!
With that understanding, there is an important truth you need to know about the asexual movement:
Asexuality is a total scam, and most teens who “identify” as “ace” are sexually active.
To understand this scam, you need to understand the Gay Agenda. You see, the militant gays have a problem: Numbers. They want their little social movement to gain as much political power as it possibly can, and that means growing their membership.
But that’s kind of hard to accomplish when, at the most, only ten percent of the human population is homosexual.
And that’s being generous. If fact, if you look at the best data we have, only 3.8 percent of Americans are gay, lesbian or transgender.
Aggressive efforts to turn normal people gay nothwithstanding, this is a huge problem for the gay lobby. They needed to find some way of welcoming more people into the LGBT fold so they came up with “ace,” a hip, cool, new identity any teenager could claim if they wanted to feel special.
(For previous examples of this, please see the “gender-fluid” and “non-binary” labels, which are two completely made-up, phoney-baloney identities that allow young people to enjoy all the privileges associated with being transgender, but not do the hard work of actually transitioning to the opposite gender.)
For examples of how meaningless the “ace” label really is, I again direct you to the asexuality recruitment materials I earlier linked to.
I have emphasized certain key phrases in bold:
|What If I’ve…?
A lot of people doubt that they’re asexual because of something they do or have done. Usually, this doubt is silly. Asexuality is about attraction, not action. In other words, it’s how you feel, not what you do.
You can be asexual even if you think someone is good looking. It’s possible to think that someone is cute or beautiful without being sexually attracted to them, in the same way it’s possible to think a puppy is cute or a painting is beautiful.
You can be asexual even if you’re dating. Romantic attraction is separate from sexual attraction. Many asexuals are interested in relationships, even if they’re not interested in sex.
You can be asexual even if you’ve kissed someone. Kissing can be an expression of affection, but it doesn’t have to be sexual in nature.
You can be asexual even if you’ve fallen in love. Love and sex are not the same thing. Being in love with someone doesn’t necessarily mean you’re interested in sex, as well.
You can be asexual even if you get aroused. Getting “wet” or getting “hard” is just your body doing what it’s supposed to do. Getting aroused doesn’t have to mean you’re sexually attracted to someone or something.
You can be asexual even if you touch yourself. Maybe you do it to relieve stress. Or maybe you do it because it feels good. Whatever the reason, masturbating does not mean that you can’t be asexual.
You can be asexual even if you’re curious about sex. Curiosity is not desire. Wondering what sex is like does not mean that you’re feeling sexual attraction.
You can be asexual even if you’ve had sex. I know, it sounds strange, but having sex doesn’t mean you can’t be asexual. Some aces are curious. Some aces think it’s what they’re supposed to do. And some aces even like it.
And you can be asexual even if you haven’t done any of those things. Some asexuals are aromantic, meaning they’re not interested in romantic relationships. Some asexuals don’t masturbate. Some asexuals never want to have sex.
So you see, just as any man can now claim to be a transgender woman (and gain access to women’s bathrooms and locker rooms) without even bothering to wear a dress or “transition,” anybody can claim to be “asexual,” even if they regularly experience lust and/or engage in sexual intercourse.
And because the leaders of the LGBT movement have now expanded it to LGBTQIA (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning, intersex, and asexual), BOOM, presto-change-o, even if you have never in your life experienced one single, solitary homosexual urge, congratulations, you too can now claim membership in the queer community!
Now then, regarding the unnamed lady from our church, I have been counseling her daughter, and what I learned after several intensive, private conversations was most illuminating.
As it happens, this girl had been aware of her father’s desire to see her married off and starting a family by the time she was sixteen, and she confessed to me that the thought of pregnancy and childbirth were absolutely terrifying to her.
So, in this poor, misguided, frightened young lady’s mind, claiming to be asexual looked like a winning strategy for avoiding marriage and motherhood!
Naturally, I went to her parents and told them everything she had told me.
Her father was NOT happy, but he instituted a regimen of correction, rebuke, and prayer, and I feel confident we will see this lass married and expecting her first baby well before her sixteenth birthday!
Nobar King (20-01-2018 10:29 AM): It's obvious that this girl just wants attention, like all other teenagers. ...
Basilissa (20-01-2018 10:41 PM): Thank you, Brother Faith. I must say, I find it very confusing, all of these "LGBTQIA" - I had to copy and paste that from your post, this is too long and confusing to remember! Couldn't we agree on an ...
Ezekiel Bathfire (22-01-2018 02:34 PM): Your informative and instructive sermon caused me to think of M't:19:12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of ...
Faith_Machine (22-01-2018 06:28 PM): Thank you, brother Bathfire. You have explained this dynamic so much better than I ever could have! ...
James Hutchins (22-01-2018 09:08 PM): S-E-X is something I do not think about, it was an obligation (like going to Church or taking out the trash) that I had to do to show God that I will do anything for Him. Now that my wife is missing (if ...
Faith_Machine (22-01-2018 10:16 PM): Mr. Hutchins, you have sired many children, and I'm sure the Lord is well pleased with your good work. As for these nutjobs who have sex with cars, I suppose the LGBT activists will happily welcome them ...
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