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Mrs. Elizabeth Johnson 07-03-2015 09:39 PM

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Originally Posted by SoldierofChrist (Post 1150287)
When I am taken as a wife I will remember that he shall only beat me because he loves me and it is God's will for him to do so.

The bible tells us it is not only okay but necessary to physically discipline our children. And let's be honest lady. Sometimes our weak delicate minds are no better than that of a child. Thank God for putting men to watch over us!

Proverbs 23:13-14 "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell"

Lily, remember to capitalize "Bible" unless you are referring to a mock one. You must respect the Lord, after all. "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction." Proverbs 1:7

MitzaLizalor 07-05-2015 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs. Elizabeth Johnson (Post 1150311)
Lily, remember to capitalize "Bible" unless you are referring to a mock one. You must respect the Lord, after all. "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction." Proverbs 1:7

I found that encouraging, Mrs Johnson. In these last days there are so many wilful sinners aorund "OOoo!!" they say, "look what she's doing.." and then they all wanna do the same thing or have a competition to see who can do it even worse obviously they have no source of instruction which is set out so plainly in The Bible:

I CORINTHIANS 14 KJV
34b-35a [women] are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home..

If asked about ownership they would just laugh in my face and probably spit. They like spitting but it's the least of their vices I'm afraid, indeed they spell out their baser obsessions in some detail. It makes me feel rather wobbly on my feet and appreciate the wonderful resource we have in our Pastoral Team here at Landover (for those still single) and the sound treatment available to us at any time of Scripture.






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Mrs. Elizabeth Johnson 07-05-2015 10:51 PM

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My dear sister,

Your bravery for Christ astounds me! You are such a light to these women! I wanted to share the below verses to encourage you.

Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution. -- 2 Timothy 3:12
If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before [it hated] you. -- John 15:12
Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ For [it is] better, if the will of God be so, that ye suffer for well doing, than for evil doing. -- 1 Peter 3:16-17
Blessed are ye, when men shall hate you, and when they shall separate you [from their company], and shall reproach [you], and cast out your name as evil, for the Son of man's sake. -- Luke 6:22

Yours in Him,
Elizabeth

MitzaLizalor 07-05-2015 11:27 PM

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They are very ignorant. Like all non-Christians.

Mrs. Elizabeth Johnson 07-07-2015 04:50 AM

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Originally Posted by MitzaLizalor (Post 1150508)
They are very ignorant. Like all non-Christians.

Jesus is the light to the world, after all. Also, His word is the giver of all knowledge. "For the LORD giveth wisdom: out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding." Proverbs 2:6

Raybird 07-10-2015 02:01 PM

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Hello Everybody

I am a newby to this website. My wife and I have been practicing CDD for about 3 years now.

In reading the above posts, I find it very sad that there are so many misguided people out there.

My wife used to be ill tempered and impatient. We have nearly divorced a
couple of times. Then she went on a religious retreat and came back a changed woman. She finally opened the door and let Jesus in her life. it was so wonderful

Anyway, a couple of weeks later, I approached her with CDD. I showed her the website, showed her some things in the bible, and asked if this was something she would like to try. She eventually agreed.

We made up the contract and started our new life together. It was the best decision we ever made.

I've got a maintenance program and boot camp incorporated in the contract. I would like to share ideas with all of you.

Do any of you practice boot camp or do maintenance?
If so, tell me about how you do things.
We have boot camp next week and maybe I can get some new ideas

Take care,

Raybird

John Creeser 07-10-2015 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Raybird (Post 1151079)
Hello Everybody

I am a newby to this website. My wife and I have been practicing CDD for about 3 years now.

In reading the above posts, I find it very sad that there are so many misguided people out there.

My wife used to be ill tempered and impatient. We have nearly divorced a
couple of times. Then she went on a religious retreat and came back a changed woman. She finally opened the door and let Jesus in her life. it was so wonderful

Anyway, a couple of weeks later, I approached her with CDD. I showed her the website, showed her some things in the bible, and asked if this was something she would like to try. She eventually agreed.

We made up the contract and started our new life together. It was the best decision we ever made.

I've got a maintenance program and boot camp incorporated in the contract. I would like to share ideas with all of you.

Do any of you practice boot camp or do maintenance?
If so, tell me about how you do things.
We have boot camp next week and maybe I can get some new ideas

Take care,

Raybird

Greetings Raybird,

The only boot camp my wife has received is the steel toe of my work boots.

As a courtesy, we ask that before you continue, that you properly introduce yourself in the introductions thread.

In Christ,

John

Pastor Ezekiel 07-11-2015 01:53 AM

Re: Wives!! Stay in your abusive marriage!!
 
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Originally Posted by Raybird (Post 1151079)
Hello Everybody

I am a newby to this website. My wife and I have been practicing CDD for about 3 years now.

In reading the above posts, I find it very sad that there are so many misguided people out there.

My wife used to be ill tempered and impatient. We have nearly divorced a
couple of times. Then she went on a religious retreat and came back a changed woman. She finally opened the door and let Jesus in her life. it was so wonderful

Anyway, a couple of weeks later, I approached her with CDD. I showed her the website, showed her some things in the bible, and asked if this was something she would like to try. She eventually agreed.

We made up the contract and started our new life together. It was the best decision we ever made.

I've got a maintenance program and boot camp incorporated in the contract. I would like to share ideas with all of you.

Do any of you practice boot camp or do maintenance?
If so, tell me about how you do things.
We have boot camp next week and maybe I can get some new ideas

Take care,

Raybird

Please make a thread of your own in the "Introductions" section of the forum, so that we can properly greet you. Tell us about yourself, your church, and how you came to find Jesus.

And if you're here to flame us, better take a look at THIS before making an even bigger ass out of yourself. :rtfm:

I will pray that the Holy Spirit enter you and chase the demons out of your rectum and let Jesus fill you with His Grace. If you use your God-given free will to reject Christ and His temporary death on the cross for my sins, then you are sending yourself to hellfire. :sinner:

PrincessSnowWhite 01-14-2016 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by OliveOilMom (Post 864063)
When a good, CHRISTIAN husband corrects his wife he does it out of love and obedience to the LORD!



wait so you're saying its okay for a man to beat his wife?

PrincessSnowWhite 01-14-2016 06:11 PM

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if my husband came at me and thought it was his responsibility to discipline me, i'd have serious problems with that.

the whole spanking thing? that seems terribly inappropriate and behavior that enforces a parent-child relationship, not a husband-wife one.


honestly i'm kinda creeped out that grown males are spanking their wives to get them to "obey"

Elmer G. White 01-14-2016 06:31 PM

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Originally Posted by PrincessSnowWhite (Post 1172052)
if my husband came at me and thought it was his responsibility to discipline me, i'd have serious problems with that.

the whole spanking thing? that seems terribly inappropriate and behavior that enforces a parent-child relationship, not a husband-wife one.

honestly i'm kinda creeped out that grown males are spanking their wives to get them to "obey"

Miss White,

How nice that we share our last name! That said, I must admit that domestic discipline and the rod have always been displeasing to me. The act of spanking is tiresome and to tell you the truth, I would much rather let the woman decide some things and concentrate on my Prayer duties.

But I can't. Jesus prohibits it (Ephesians 5:22-23).

In addition, the Good book tells us that women are by definition vile and repulsive Creatures, and the author of the following verses had a large sample upon which he made his conclusions as dictated by the Holy Spirit. His experiment was well conducted with good sample power and statistical force. These verses are most reliable. This is the Word of God:

Ecclesiastes 7:26-28
And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart [is] snares and nets, [and] her hands [as] bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her. Behold, this have I found, saith the preacher, [counting] one by one, to find out the account: Which yet my soul seeketh, but I find not: one man among a thousand have I found; but a woman among all those have I not found.


Women are more bitter than death (on Earth that is, obviously, eventually death is the Glorious Gate to Life Eternal).

Thus, I do what I must. I obey Jesus.

:jesus:

Yours in Christ,

Elmer :bye:

Pastor Ezekiel 01-15-2016 04:18 AM

Re: Wives!! Stay in your abusive marriage!!
 
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Originally Posted by PrincessSnowWhite (Post 1172052)
if my husband came at me and thought it was his responsibility to discipline me, i'd have serious problems with that.

the whole spanking thing? that seems terribly inappropriate and behavior that enforces a parent-child relationship, not a husband-wife one.


honestly i'm kinda creeped out that grown males are spanking their wives to get them to "obey"

Obviously you're not a Christian. So then why are you here? :huh:

Des 01-15-2016 08:39 AM

Re: Wives!! Stay in your abusive marriage!!
 
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Originally Posted by PrincessSnowWhite (Post 1172052)

honestly i'm kinda creeped out that grown males are spanking their wives to get them to "obey"

This is where I take a little liberty with the Biblical instructions. First, spanking is not specified, and the Bible mentions other forms of discipline including whips, rods, and canes.

Now what is a cattle prod other than a modern extension of a rod? We have taken the simple goad once used on cattle and women and attached a battery to give it a bit of a tickle. It stands to reason then that a cattle prod is a handy discipline tool, especially when the man has had an exhausting day of teleconferences and check signing and really isn't up to the task of flagellating the missus (or the dining room maid, chambermaid, etc) for neglecting or under-performing her duties.

And what is the next step from the cattle prod? Why the shock collar, of course! The logical successor to the cattle prod which is the logical successor of the rod makes the perfect discipline tool. And not only that, you can dial it down on the remote in order to give them a milder attention getting buzz. No need to yell for service when you can 'buzz' for it, right?

I'm not saying this should take the place of a thick rattan cane, a kangaroo hide flogger, or a trusty riding crop. What I'm saying is that we have plenty of tools at our disposal for keeping lazy and scatterbrained women in check. Its what God wants. And what God wants, God gets.

YIC

Sister Truth 01-16-2016 11:21 AM

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Originally Posted by PrincessSnowWhite (Post 1172051)
wait so you're saying its okay for a man to beat his wife?

How dare you insult my hard working, Christian husband whom lovingly takes time out of his day to properly discipline me?! Then again, you are probably a practicing homer, so what would you know about a Proper Christian household?

CreepingDeath 01-21-2016 04:59 PM

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Do not stay in a relationship where your husband is beating you. That is sick and disgusting. No one should be beat for wrongdoings. Can we think like humans for a minute? Think of your daughter. Do you want her husband to beat her? Do you want your daughter to be bruised and beaten for saying one wrong word? If you believe husbands should beat their wives and stay with an abusive spouse you are not thinking of your children or your children's children. You are thinking of the Lord, but the Lord is testing you and your strength. If you believe abusive relationships are okay you believe rape is okay. You believe that you can beat your children and they can beat theirs. You are teaching your sons it is okay to treat a woman disrespectfully, you are teaching your sons they are dominant over their wife, whom they should be loyal to and respect. It is not okay for someone to lay a hand on you in a bad way and you are teaching them they can treat women however they want. You have to teach them right. Your son will end up in jail if he beats a woman. He will end up in jail for rape. Consider the law and your kids in this.

Mary Etheldreda 01-21-2016 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by CreepingDeath (Post 1172580)
Do not stay in a relationship where your husband is beating you. That is sick and disgusting. No one should be beat for wrongdoings. Can we think like humans for a minute? Think of your daughter. Do you want her husband to beat her? Do you want your daughter to be bruised and beaten for saying one wrong word? If you believe husbands should beat their wives and stay with an abusive spouse you are not thinking of your children or your children's children. You are thinking of the Lord, but the Lord is testing you and your strength. If you believe abusive relationships are okay you believe rape is okay. You believe that you can beat your children and they can beat theirs. You are teaching your sons it is okay to treat a woman disrespectfully, you are teaching your sons they are dominant over their wife, whom they should be loyal to and respect. It is not okay for someone to lay a hand on you in a bad way and you are teaching them they can treat women however they want. You have to teach them right. Your son will end up in jail if he beats a woman. He will end up in jail for rape. Consider the law and your kids in this.

You forget yourself and speak like a 21st century feminist, not a Bible Believing Christian. You see, True Christians™ know how to stay safe in today's world fraught with such dangers as rape, terrorism, and the witty barbs of Jon Stewart.

We are teaching our children it's important to read the Holy Bible, believe the Holy Bible, and follow the Holy Bible, as it is the only way to do our duty (Ecclesiastes 12:13). Our children know that the LORD often uses physical reminders when reprimanding those whom He loves (Deuteronomy 8:5; Psalm 94:12; Lamentations 3:39; Revelation 3:19). In the same way, the husband reprimands the wife whom He loves (1 Corinthians 11:3).
For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to the evil. Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? do that which is good, and thou shalt have praise of the same:

For he is the minister of God to thee for good. But if thou do that which is evil, be afraid; for he beareth not the sword in vain: for he is the minister of God, a revenger to execute wrath upon him that doeth evil.

Romans 13:3-4
Do you deny the husband is to rule over the wife?
Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
Genesis 3:16
I think the real issue here is that you're afraid to give up your autonomy. You're afraid to give up control. What you don't know is that the moment you do that, you leave yourself open to attacks by Satan. Stay under the umbrella of authority as God designed for the benefit of women, and you will be safe.
https://s15-us2.ixquick.com/cgi-bin/...d24d839ffd6c83

H. Montague Worthington 01-21-2016 08:22 PM

Re: Wives!! Stay in your abusive marriage!!
 
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Originally Posted by PrincessSnowWhite (Post 1172052)
if my husband came at me and thought it was his responsibility to discipline me, i'd have serious problems with that.

the whole spanking thing? that seems terribly inappropriate and behavior that enforces a parent-child relationship, not a husband-wife one.

honestly i'm kinda creeped out that grown males are spanking their wives to get them to "obey"

It figures that someone so resistant to the rules of society that they refuse to begin sentences with a capital letter would not understand that spanking women is sometimes necessary to get them in line. Besides, spanking isn't the only way to do do it-- a sock in the jaw, dragging her by the neck down a flight of marble stairs, tripping her as she meekly walks by you, slamming a door on her wrist, slapping her face so hard it leaves a perfect red shape of your hand for an hour or two, hanging her by her arms while tied behind her, or grabbing her by the hair and shoving a hot iron against her cheek is also pretty effective.

Des 01-22-2016 04:38 AM

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Originally Posted by CreepingDeath (Post 1172580)
If you believe abusive relationships are okay you believe rape is okay.

Don't even get me started on the subject of rape, young lady! Women these days wouldn't know a rape if they were bit by a rape.

Did he buy you dinner? Not rape
Did he take you to the movies? Not rape
Did you invite him into your home? Not rape
Did you not explicitly and repeatedly say "No!"? Not rape
Did you drink alcohol? Not rape
Were you at a public place like a frat party? Not rape
Were you dressed like a whore? Not rape
Did your body language suggest flirtation? Not rape
Did you get pregnant? Not rape

The list goes on and on. I could write a book. I should write a book.

More rape facts


Rape is exceedingly rare
Most rapists are Negro
1 in 2 men will be falsely accused of rape
You are more likely to be struck by lightning than to be raped
You are more likely to win the lottery twice than to be raped
Feminazi Lib Art teachers tell girls to accuse boys of rape
Rape never occurs in True Christian homes
Obedience to God and parents prevents rape


Hope this was helpful.

Mrs. Elizabeth Johnson 01-23-2016 04:32 AM

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Mr. Des is right! I stayed obedient to my parents and to the Lord's commands, behaving a modest, demure manner, and when I was married to my husband, it was never right. According to the Lord, "The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband" as stated in 1 Corinthians 4:7. I am not my own, the Lord bought me with His most precious and holy Blood, and then he put me under the care and subjugation of my husband, who leads me to Heaven.

Mei Saeki 05-10-2016 03:13 AM

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In regard to divorce, Jesus stated that it is because of the hardness of people's hearts that God allowed divorce in the first place (Mark 10:2 - 12). God is looking for a commitment from people whom He has called to His way of life. We live in a throw-away world. The minute something does not work, it immediately gets tossed out when it could have perhaps been fixed. We should do all we possibly can to save a marriage before ending it. The effects of a broken home last for many years.That said, in the case of spousal abuse, we must also consider that our bodies and minds are the temple of God. One should not remain in an abusive home if they can help it. Physical, mental or emotional mistreatment in any marriage is UNACCEPTABLE to our Father. If one is truly converted to him and His way of life, they will become his temple. He will live in them and walk among them in Spirit, be their God, and they will be His people.The New Covenant, discussed in several different places in the Bible, is the agreement God offers man so that he can live forever. He looks at the temple of our hearts and minds and welcomes those who by their conscience have been keeping themselves separate (as much as possible) from sin and Satan the devil (the ruler and deceiver of this present evil world - Revelation 12:9). This separation includes honoring out spouse as our heavenly Father wants us to do.Our Father commands us to be holy, pure, and not to defile ourselves with sin (2Corinthians 6:17, 1Corinthians 3:16 - 17). When a person is converted they are willing to keep a commitment to him and walk in His ways (Psalm 119:165, Proverbs 6:23). True Christians must put him first in their life (Deuteronomy 30:15 - 16).In the New Testament Paul gives us several important principles and addresses the issue of how husbands and wives should treat each other in chapter 7 of 1Corinthians. Paul endorses peace and rejects any kind of spousal mistreatment.


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