Oh Miss Dolli. That’s horrible! If it was one of your sons that was still alive I would shrug my shoulders and say boys will be boys. But this is your 13 year old daughter. A whoopin would set her straight. If you need a Bible verse to justify your whoopin just use Ephesians 6:4. I think it’s okay for you to do this since you are recently widowed so raising the kids and discipline falls on you more now.
If you feel you are unable to lay the whoopin on your daughter yourself, my Pa would be more than happy to. He’s administered whoopins to several kids in my town who’ve misbehaved in the eyes of God.