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Originally Posted by Petal
i gots a kwestion about them lady ettiquettes. nows, when 2 ladys show up to churchs on sunday mornings an they both be wearings the same dress, who has to go homes an puts a differint dress on? is it the younger ladys or the lady who not be marrieds to a senior pastors? an what if it be 2 ladys who have them same social standings? cuz i not thinks lord Jesus approves of them christian lady kitty fights
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Excellent question, Petal! Well done!
Pastor's wives always get first choice, but most women in church aren't married to the pastors. There are ways to determine who gets to wear the dress in question.
First you have to look at tithing status. If one is in a lower tithing tier, she must be the one to go home to change. Unless the dress is inexpensive enough that the higher level tither should go home in shame to dress in something more appropriate. Remember, "costly array" as preached against in 1 Timothy 2:9 is subjective! The more money that's available to buy an outfit, the less costly that outfit is!
If they are both equal tithers, then it depends on marital status. A married woman's dress would be picked out for her by her husband, and an unmarried woman's dress picked out for her by her father. While a woman should honor her father (Exodus 20:12), her husband is the head of her just as Christ is the head of the man (1 Corinthians 11:3). Besides, if she's old enough to be considered a woman, why isn't she married yet? There must be something wrong with her! Thus the spinster would be the one who would have to go change.
If they are equal tithers and have the same marital status, the next thing to consider is age. 1 Timothy 5:2 tells us to treat elder women as mothers and the younger as sisters. Going back to Exodus 20:12, we should also honor our mothers, so the older women gets to wear the dress.
But what if both women are equal tithers of the same marital status and age? What then? Normally when one is facing a tough question like this, the only thing to do is ask a pastor. However, considering it's at church on Sunday, the pastors have better things to do than to worry about the petty concerns of women!
The best thing to do in this situation is for the women to speak to the highest ranking member of the Ladies of Landover who is available (unless it's Mrs. Betty Bowers - do NOT bother Mrs. Bowers). I'm senior vice president, so I'd be pleased to help any Platinum or Gold Tithers if my husband, Mr. Whitford, could spare me.