[KirsiK]

Dear Brothersand Sisters in Christ,

I have aproblem with the heading of this topic: Wives!! Stay in your abusive marriage!!As I see it, the role of a woman is expressed very clearly in Ephesians 5:22-24:

“Wives, obeyyour husbands as you obey the Lord. The husband is the head of the wife, justas Christ is the head of the church people. The church is his body and he savedit. Wives should obey their husbands in everything, just as the church peopleobey Christ.”

However, Ephesians5:25 say:

“Husbands,love your wives, just as Christ loved the church people. He gave his life forthe church.”

If you love aperson, you do not abuse her. If you, as the Head of the household, abuse her,then you do not just wrong her but also God.

That said, Ido not think that a wife should divorce or leave her husband (unless there is areal danger that he might seriously injure her or kill her). After all, in herwedding vows she did promise to “love, honour and obey”… “for better for worse”.Abuse is definitely “for worse”, but she promised to stay with him also duringthose periods of life. What she should do is pray. What her congregationspreacher and members can do is to try to talk with the husband, explaining tohim his responsibilities as a good Christian husband.

Abuse is notok. A man who abuses his wife is failing his duty as a good Christian husband.However, domestic discipline is NOT abuse. We women are by nature irrational,emotional, unreasonable, sinful, illogical, moody, bitchy, stubborn, pridefuland often generally “difficult”. We start arguments for no reason and we oftendo stupid decisions. The Good Book is very clear in the fact that men aresuperior to women. So, there is no doubt that when we get one of our tantrumsthe best “medicine” is a good spanking or a good trashing with our husbandsbelt on our bare buttocks, humbling us through our screams, crying and pain. Inother words, a good deserved beating is not abuse, but something that every manshould give his wife when needed. It is for her own best and necessary for aharmonic family life.

SincerelyYours,
Sister Kirsi