[BelieverInGod]

Re: Help - my husband beat me up - what can I do?

Repented harlot? i was a harlot? i thought you couldnt be a virgin and a harlot, but ok? thanks?

Okay, so you're also self centred. Before making any judgments, would you look at the name of the person who posted above you. Her name (on here) is Repented Harlot.

well i know u do all you can for your boys, but if you dont take care of yourself, who will take care of them the way a mother does? they say the house is at the mothers feet. if you fall ur family will suffer.

I am taking a stand. By staying where I am I can afford to actually take care of my boys rather than forcing them to live in a rat infested hole while I work 2 full time jobs just to keep a roof over their head.

your going through what my grandmother went through many years ago. she took a stand and showed her strength as a women. i learned that women are to be greatly respected. after all, we keep the world populated.

You do realize that we need men to do that right? Or do you think we pick babies from the cabbage patch under the blue moon?

the men in my family know that laying hands on a women is wrong and i think laying hands on anyone is bad. have you talked to him and told him how you feel/ maybe he can tell you what bothers him and you can tell him what bothers you.

Oh, goodie, then maybe we could knit a quilt together and talk about our feelings. I'm getting the feeling that you were not raised in a Christian home. The Bible is very specific about the roles that we are to take. Even if I did leave my husband, I would probably not divorce him (unless he asked for it) and I would definitely not remarry. I just couldn't, it would be so wrong.

1 Corinthians 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

So it is Christ's job to rebuke my husband if he is wrong, and it is my husbands duty to rebuke me if I am wrong.

Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord

I am to submit to my husband.

its alwasy best to look at each others opinion and both come to a compromise. u shouldnt do all the compromising. its a marriage after all and your both partners in this world till death do u part, under god and all the angels that helped bring you two together and helped give you the family that you have now. its lovly that you want to work things out. that shows you are strong and loyal to your family. i'm happy for you because you have this to keep you going and you dont give up. keep trying for your sons, you strong women of god.

Thank you? I'm a little confused by your statements.

[theonetheonlyme]

Re: Help - my husband beat me up - what can I do?

Thank you sister handmaiden for the tip, to be honest he's not a puncher and he has never given me a black eye. In fact I have never had a bruise that I couldn't explain away with a shrug and a comment about large dogs or clumsiness. I'm rather glad though, because the idea of putting a leech on my eye gives me the absolute willies.

Sister Repented Harlot, yes I did spend a lot of time in prayer. Thank you for that scripture. If things become too much for me at a future time I will follow that Biblical advice and ask to take some time away for fasting and prayer.


I realize that you are an underaged poster so have no idea of what goes on in a marriage. There's an old saying that your happiness no longer matters as soon as you have children, this is true. Everything I do, I do for my boys. Should I send them to public school because it's easier than teaching them at home? Should I plop them in front of the TV because it's easier than dealing with them? Should I feed them freezer food because it's easier than cooking a proper meal? Then why should I force them into poverty?


I'm doing my best to keep everything on an even keel. He is the head of the family, I have to remember this. I guess because I married so late in life I got set in my ways. I'm really trying to break that habit and become much more submissive.

Repented harlot? i was a harlot? i thought you couldnt be a virgin and a harlot, but ok? thanks? well i know u do all you can for your boys, but if you dont take care of yourself, who will take care of them the way a mother does? they say the house is at the mothers feet. if you fall ur family will suffer. your going through what my grandmother went through many years ago. she took a stand and showed her strength as a women. i learned that women are to be greatly respected. after all, we keep the world populated. the men in my family know that laying hands on a women is wrong and i think laying hands on anyone is bad. have you talked to him and told him how you feel/ maybe he can tell you what bothers him and you can tell him what bothers you. its alwasy best to look at each others opinion and both come to a compromise. u shouldnt do all the compromising. its a marriage after all and your both partners in this world till death do u part, under god and all the angels that helped bring you two together and helped give you the family that you have now. its lovly that you want to work things out. that shows you are strong and loyal to your family. i'm happy for you because you have this to keep you going and you dont give up. keep trying for your sons, you strong women of god.

[BelieverInGod]

Re: Help - my husband beat me up - what can I do?

Thank you sister handmaiden for the tip, to be honest he's not a puncher and he has never given me a black eye. In fact I have never had a bruise that I couldn't explain away with a shrug and a comment about large dogs or clumsiness. I'm rather glad though, because the idea of putting a leech on my eye gives me the absolute willies.

Sister Repented Harlot, yes I did spend a lot of time in prayer. Thank you for that scripture. If things become too much for me at a future time I will follow that Biblical advice and ask to take some time away for fasting and prayer.

u shouldn't have to try and do anything. u seem like a good wife and good person in general. what ever makes u happy is what you should do,

I realize that you are an underaged poster so have no idea of what goes on in a marriage. There's an old saying that your happiness no longer matters as soon as you have children, this is true. Everything I do, I do for my boys. Should I send them to public school because it's easier than teaching them at home? Should I plop them in front of the TV because it's easier than dealing with them? Should I feed them freezer food because it's easier than cooking a proper meal? Then why should I force them into poverty?

but i honestly think you shouldn't of put up with it. just put your foot down and draw a line. he married you so he should always respect u and love u as you are because you are. at least he is showing some remorse and its good that he is seeking help. god forbid he do this agin. u'll both be in my prayers. i hope your marriage goes just as you want it to from now on.

I'm doing my best to keep everything on an even keel. He is the head of the family, I have to remember this. I guess because I married so late in life I got set in my ways. I'm really trying to break that habit and become much more submissive.

[theonetheonlyme]

Re: Help - my husband beat me up - what can I do?

Actually I've gone home. He's promised it won't happen again, he's talking to the pastors, and he did see a counsellor for a while.

Anyway, I looked at my options and what's a few punches compared to having to live in poverty? I'll just try my best not to make him mad.

u shouldn't have to try and do anything. u seem like a good wife and good person in general. what ever makes u happy is what you should do, but i honestly think you shouldn't of put up with it. just put your foot down and draw a line. he married you so he should always respect u and love u as you are because you are. at least he is showing some remorse and its good that he is seeking help. god forbid he do this agin. u'll both be in my prayers. i hope your marriage goes just as you want it to from now on.

[repented harlot70]

Re: Help - my husband beat me up - what can I do?

You did the right thing, both by separating and going back.

1 Cor. 7:3-5

3Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

I hope I am not wrong to believe that you prayed and fasted. You are such a Proverbs 31 lady that I just naturally know that is what you did. Ultimately, you are God's property first and your husband as head of the household will be answering to the Lord. Would not want to be in his shoes.

[handmaiden]

Re: Help - my husband beat me up - what can I do?

Sister, if you do receive any insignificant slaps or punches because you've slipped up in being all you can be for The Lord and your lord husband, you can always apply leeches to the new bruises. This seems like the sort of thing that a Godly woman should do, because going about brazenly with bruises on your face or whatever is sort of like tattling. You need to respect your husband's dignity above all else.

I know leeches seem extreme but make up isn't always adequate to the task and there are always concerns about the evils of face painting. Leeches are not contraindicated in the Bible.

Mildly Helpfully Yours,

Handmaiden

p.s. You know if my husband had been more sincere in the Lord and had taken the trouble to beat me, I would be living in a nice town and too full of life to be sitting here typing right now.

[BelieverInGod]

Re: Help - my husband beat me up - what can I do?

Sister, being a defenseless woman who can't earn a living AND raise children, you make a valid point. What would you do if something were to happen to Seth? He could have a heart attack, or a stroke, or the brakes on his car could fail, or he could trip on a toy and fall down the stairs, breaking his neck and fracturing his skull. Where would you be then?

Sister, have you made sure he has adequate life insurance? Maybe it would be a good idea to get together with Seth and a Christian financial advisor to make sure your financial house is in order! Surely, Seth doesn't want to risk his sons being handed off to a Catholic orphanage where they will be turned into raging homosexuals and Mary-worshippers!

Yes we are both incredibly well insured. If either one of us die, the mortgage as well as all the other bills are paid off, and I'm not going to say how much, but we both have a substantial amount in life insurance. His is especially high if he dies while on the road working.

If both of us passed away, the children are to go live with his brother who is still living on the family farmland.

Not that I want to see any harm come to him.

[Rev. M. Rodimer]

Re: Help - my husband beat me up - what can I do?

Actually I've gone home. He's promised it won't happen again, he's talking to the pastors, and he did see a counsellor for a while.

Anyway, I looked at my options and what's a few punches compared to having to live in poverty? I'll just try my best not to make him mad.

Sister, being a defenseless woman who can't earn a living AND raise children, you make a valid point. What would you do if something were to happen to Seth? He could have a heart attack, or a stroke, or the brakes on his car could fail, or he could trip on a toy and fall down the stairs, breaking his neck and fracturing his skull. Where would you be then?

Sister, have you made sure he has adequate life insurance? Maybe it would be a good idea to get together with Seth and a Christian financial advisor to make sure your financial house is in order! Surely, Seth doesn't want to risk his sons being handed off to a Catholic orphanage where they will be turned into raging homosexuals and Mary-worshippers!

[BelieverInGod]

Re: Help - my husband beat me up - what can I do?

its over. you should just leave him. what he did was just so wrong!

Actually I've gone home. He's promised it won't happen again, he's talking to the pastors, and he did see a counsellor for a while.

Anyway, I looked at my options and what's a few punches compared to having to live in poverty? I'll just try my best not to make him mad.

[theonetheonlyme]

Re: Help - my husband beat me up - what can I do?

I left my husband last night. I just couldn't take it anymore. So I packed up the boys and I'm staying in my brothers apartment until I get my head straightened out and figure out what to do. Last night was just the last straw.

I had made a nice Easter dinner with a glazed ham, sweet potatoes, and some side vegetables in a cheese sauce. About 6:00 I did the call for dinner, well the boys came, but no husband. We sat there waiting for half an hour and no response. So I went down to his office to see what the hell was going on. I caught him pleasuring himself while having "online chat sex". I couldn't believe it! In our own house! So I freaked out, I killed the power bar to the computer and then the fight really started, he twisted my arm, shoved me out of the room. It turned into a fist fight and I grabbed the boys and left.

My brother is going over there later today to pick up my stuff. I don't know what I'm going to do about the dogs, we can't have them at my brothers place (it's crowded enough in a one bedroom apartment with just the humans) I'm afraid he'll hurt them just to get even with me.

I don't know what to do, or where to turn. Please help.

its over. you should just leave him. what he did was just so wrong!

[BelieverInGod]

Re: I left last night

You read too fast. I said coffee add stress to your system. Then i said, Redbull make ppl be more violent. This is why we always come down to an never ending argument. You don't understand me, you refuse to take your time to understand what i say because you see me as an unsaved trash with a woman avatar.

You say that you drink more coffee then your husband, i don't see the need at all. I suggest you to use your Sunday to meditate and work out to be healthy instead of going to church. I don't ask you to not go to church at all, but you can use your free time for your own good instead.

No I read your whole thread, you accused my husband of being a drunk, of doing drugs, and drinking coffee/red bull the magical rage chemicals.

Then you tell me to skip church to go meditate like some chink. What kind of workout should I do? Tai-Chi? And you don't think a days worth of housework is exercise enough? I don't know how many stairs I climb in a day, but I can tell you it's a lot more than anybody doing 20 minutes on a stair master are doing, and they're not lugging vacuums, laundry, children, and whatever else needs to be moved while they're doing it.

Have you looked at the ingredients of Red Bull? It's caffeine, yep that's it, caffeine and sugar. I've tried them because there are days I need the extra boost, and I found it absolutely useless. There's no magic rage chemical in it. As for your football friend, that sounds more like steroids than Red Bull.

[Seth Campbell]

Re: I left last night

Lol, inst it obvious? I didnt chose my Avatar and i cannot even change it.

Your kind always come on here and say that, it's tiresome really. I chose my original avatar and then changed it to the photo it is now. I had no problems.

I suggest thee instead. Myself, i keep it coming with water only.

You suggest me instead? What are you talking about?

For the meditate part, i was being sarcastic. I should had say relaxing so my bad.

I doubt very highly that you were being sarcastic, I think you're backpedaling so the Pastors don't smack you.

Still, working out keep you being healthy and less asleep. Myself, i never felt the need to drink coffee.

Sleep isn't that good for you boy, it makes you lazy.

Proverbs 6:4 Give not sleep to thine eyes, nor slumber to thine eyelids.
9 How long wilt thou sleep, O sluggard? when wilt thou arise out of thy sleep?
10 Yet a little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to sleep:
11 So shall thy poverty come as one that travelleth, and thy want as an armed man.

I go to church, but a protestant kind of church. You see, we do not believe in your Flat earth. As a protestant christian, thats might be why i protest a lot. I also have an Atheist side, but i am still more on the bible side.

So why are you here? Why waste your time at a false church? I suspect that you feel guilty about going to a cherry-picking church and want to come onto our board to bring more into your slothful lifestyle.

[Sidoain]

Re: I left last night

Boy, what business is it of yours how much coffee I drink? You are unsaved trash, and that ain't no picture of a woman, that's a picture of a sissified momma's boy who hasn't been out of his basement in months. Anyway, if you hate the picture so much, why did you choose it?

So what if she drinks more coffee than me? She's at home where the pot is. And you're actually suggesting that my wife MEDITATE RATHER THAN GO TO CHURCH? You ain't no Christian boy, no matter what you say, you are a lying heathen here to destroy families and cast doubt on weak Christians.

You're a sick twisted boy and I think you should get yourself off to your nearest Baptist church rather than worrying what's happening in my household.

Lol, inst it obvious? I didnt chose my Avatar and i cannot even change it.

I suggest thee instead. Myself, i keep it coming with water only. For the meditate part, i was being sarcastic. I should had say relaxing so my bad. Still, working out keep you being healthy and less asleep. Myself, i never felt the need to drink coffee.

I go to church, but a protestant kind of church. You see, we do not believe in your Flat earth. As a protestant christian, thats might be why i protest a lot. I also have an Atheist side, but i am still more on the bible side.

[Seth Campbell]

Re: I left last night

You read too fast. I said coffee add stress to your system. Then i said, Redbull make ppl be more violent. This is why we always come down to an never ending argument. You don't understand me, you refuse to take your time to understand what i say because you see me as an unsaved trash with a woman avatar.

You say that you drink more coffee then your husband, i don't see the need at all. I suggest you to use your Sunday to meditate and work out to be healthy instead of going to church. I don't ask you to not go to church at all, but you can use your free time for your own good instead.

Boy, what business is it of yours how much coffee I drink? You are unsaved trash, and that ain't no picture of a woman, that's a picture of a sissified momma's boy who hasn't been out of his basement in months. Anyway, if you hate the picture so much, why did you choose it?

So what if she drinks more coffee than me? She's at home where the pot is. And you're actually suggesting that my wife MEDITATE RATHER THAN GO TO CHURCH? You ain't no Christian boy, no matter what you say, you are a lying heathen here to destroy families and cast doubt on weak Christians.

You're a sick twisted boy and I think you should get yourself off to your nearest Baptist church rather than worrying what's happening in my household.

[Sidoain]

Re: I left last night

You have got to be kidding. Coffee makes people violent? What a liebral lie. I drink way more coffee than he does, why am I not beating the crap out of him?

You read too fast. I said coffee add stress to your system. Then i said, Redbull make ppl be more violent. This is why we always come down to an never ending argument. You don't understand me, you refuse to take your time to understand what i say because you see me as an unsaved trash with a woman avatar.

You say that you drink more coffee then your husband, i don't see the need at all. I suggest you to use your Sunday to meditate and work out to be healthy instead of going to church. I don't ask you to not go to church at all, but you can use your free time for your own good instead.