Need advice for fighting the temptation..

[Grace K]

My friend at church noticed I do not have a boyfriend (her word) yet, and she set (also her word) me up with a boy she knows. He will not leave me alone. He started calling me these so called "pet names"(another word of hers) (Babe, Baby ect). I've told him many times I do not wish to see him any longer but he continues. He goes full force on me with his charming personality, and try as I might I seem to have somewhat fallen for him.
The other night he phoned me to tell me he wanted a "picture". I refused to send him anything because I've been getting this weird feeling whenever he talks to me. It's like something dark is eating me from the inside and I really do not like it. I have over heard him calling other people his "wifey" but when I ask he simply tells me that it is what God wants, that the feeling is God filling me with his warmth and I that am not to question him...

I am just looking for any advice anyone would be kind enough to give me. It just feels weird and wrong...Please help me, I feel like my soul is being taken away from me as I write this..

[BelieverInGod]

Re: Need advice for fighting the temptation..

My friend at church noticed I do not have a boyfriend (her word) yet, and she set (also her word) me up with a boy she knows. He will not leave me alone. He started calling me these so called "pet names"(another word of hers) (Babe, Baby ect). I've told him many times I do not wish to see him any longer but he continues. He goes full force on me with his charming personality, and try as I might I seem to have somewhat fallen for him.
The other night he phoned me to tell me he wanted a "picture". I refused to send him anything because I've been getting this weird feeling whenever he talks to me. It's like something dark is eating me from the inside and I really do not like it. I have over heard him calling other people his "wifey" but when I ask he simply tells me that it is what God wants, that the feeling is God filling me with his warmth and I that am not to question him...

I am just looking for any advice anyone would be kind enough to give me. It just feels weird and wrong...Please help me, I feel like my soul is being taken away from me as I write this..

As unlady like as it sounds, some of these men have to be smacked on the nose like an errant puppy. Now I'm not saying that you should ever treat a True Christian(TM) man this way, but I'm assuming that you are rejecting him because he's unsaved trash.

If he gets too close physically. Pepper spray is always efficient.
For the phone, I would suggest using a call display, if he does something like borrow your friends phone (how nice is this friend that "set you up"?) then just bluntly say "I don't want to talk to you" and hang up.

I'm sorry, I get a little confused with the young women on the board, but where is your father in all of this? He is the one who should be checking out this boys background. Perhaps speak to your pastor about his advances.

[TheLordSavedMe]

Re: Need advice for fighting the temptation..

My friend at church noticed I do not have a boyfriend (her word) yet, and she set (also her word) me up with a boy she knows. He will not leave me alone. He started calling me these so called "pet names"(another word of hers) (Babe, Baby ect). I've told him many times I do not wish to see him any longer but he continues. He goes full force on me with his charming personality, and try as I might I seem to have somewhat fallen for him.
The other night he phoned me to tell me he wanted a "picture". I refused to send him anything because I've been getting this weird feeling whenever he talks to me. It's like something dark is eating me from the inside and I really do not like it. I have over heard him calling other people his "wifey" but when I ask he simply tells me that it is what God wants, that the feeling is God filling me with his warmth and I that am not to question him...

I am just looking for any advice anyone would be kind enough to give me. It just feels weird and wrong...Please help me, I feel like my soul is being taken away from me as I write this..

I think he just wants to, you know, do stuff with you.

And you shouldn't do that until you're married or JESUS will send you to HELL FOREVER!

Once you're married, then you do have to do stuff with your husband, even if you don't want to, cuz that's how GOD makes you get a baby!





Tammi

[Grace K]

Re: Need advice for fighting the temptation..

I have not allowed him to get anywhere near me, but everytime I see him I get the feeling again and I feel like its kind of breaking me down. My father was catlick and I left and live with the Pastor of my Baptist church. We both thought she was a good friend and he told me I could trust her...but now I'm not so sure..
I will take pepper spray next time I see him..if he tries to make me fall into sin I will spray him and tell him that hell's fires will be 1,000,000,000 times worse!! Thank you for the advice! It really helps

[Nanaaa]

Re: Need advice for fighting the temptation..

Oh poor girl, if he makes you feel bad in anyway you know he's not good enough for you. And especially if he asks you to send some (dirty?) pictures and calls other people his wifer, he's definitely not worthy of your time. If you are still underage (and even if you weren't) you don't have to have a boyfriend no matter what your friend says. There's the time and place (and the right person) for that. Enjoy your life and someday the right guy will come on your way. Just tell him you just want to be friends or simply ask him not to contact you anymore. It might feel like a hard thing to do but I think that when you do it, you'll feel relieved!

Good luck girl!