My new Maid...Advice?

[Alexandria Puckett]

As some of you may know, I happen to be blessed with twin boys, praise Him! However, my husband, sweet man he is, insisted we get a maid to do the housework so that i don't hurt the babies continuing with my work into my pregnancy. I am only about six months in, and when I tried to protest he forbade me from being in the house while she cleans. So now, every day I have some strange woman in my house cleaning while I'm out with my husband while he runs errands.
I am so upset. I don't mind and am in fact grateful that he wants to help the babies grow properly, but now I'm only cooking twice a day, TWICE! And I have no control over not only my main duty as a wife, but my favorite activity ( behind prayer and reading His word)! It bothers me...And i'm positive I'm a bother to my husband, when we go into the bank or the hardware store and there I am round and clutching my bible in one hand and the back of his shirt in the other like some overfed puppy.
Perhaps there is something I could do to occupy myself without thinking of my housework? Or being less of an annoyance to my wonderful Johnathan?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated, i know I'm a bit of a whiner, and i apologize for that.
Thanks for listening.

[Paragon of virtue]

Re: My new Maid...Advice?

If it's okay with your husband you could practice disciplining your maid as you will soon discipline your children. You could inspect everything she does around the house and then give her a beating for the things that she has done wrong. If you have decided to hire a messican or nigra maid you can give them a daily beating for being messican or nigra. Additionally, regardless of race you can still give your maid an occasional 'maintenance' beating even if she is doing a good job. Again, I must emphasize that you clear everything with your husband first. When I come home from work I usually like to beat the hired help myself, and I prefer to start with a fresh canvas, but some guys are okay working with something that is already bruised--it's a personal preference, it's always better to measure twice and cut once.

[Dr Laurence Niles]

Re: My new Maid...Advice?

If it's okay with your husband you could practice disciplining your maid as you will soon discipline your children. You could inspect everything she does around the house and then give her a beating for the things that she has done wrong. If you have decided to hire a messican or nigra maid you can give them a daily beating for being messican or nigra. Additionally, regardless of race you can still give your maid an occasional 'maintenance' beating even if she is doing a good job. Again, I must emphasize that you clear everything with your husband first. When I come home from work I usually like to beat the hired help myself, and I prefer to start with a fresh canvas, but some guys are okay working with something that is already bruised--it's a personal preference, it's always better to measure twice and cut once.

Be very careful want beating one's slave. The Bible (as ever) gives us firm guidelines that all honest Christians should abide by.

Exodus 21:20 And if a man smite his servant, or his maid, with a rod, and he die under his hand; he shall be surely punished. 21 Notwithstanding, if he continue a day or two, he shall not be punished: for he is his money.

For goodness sake don't beat them to death

But if they live for a bit then die? Don't be too annoyed; it's only money, after all

Swings and roundabouts.

YIC

[Mary Thompson]

Re: My new Maid...Advice?

As some of you may know, I happen to be blessed with twin boys, praise Him! However, my husband, sweet man he is, insisted we get a maid to do the housework so that i don't hurt the babies continuing with my work into my pregnancy. I am only about six months in, and when I tried to protest he forbade me from being in the house while she cleans. So now, every day I have some strange woman in my house cleaning while I'm out with my husband while he runs errands.
I am so upset. I don't mind and am in fact grateful that he wants to help the babies grow properly, but now I'm only cooking twice a day, TWICE! And I have no control over not only my main duty as a wife, but my favorite activity ( behind prayer and reading His word)! It bothers me...And i'm positive I'm a bother to my husband, when we go into the bank or the hardware store and there I am round and clutching my bible in one hand and the back of his shirt in the other like some overfed puppy.
Perhaps there is something I could do to occupy myself without thinking of my housework? Or being less of an annoyance to my wonderful Johnathan?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated, i know I'm a bit of a whiner, and i apologize for that.
Thanks for listening.

Hello there! I'm pregnant too, but I do the opposite of what you do, I do EXTRA housework, because my dear husband asks it of me, and surely by obeying God's word extra carefully while being pregnant my newborns will be (hopefully) less prone to sin, as you may know, being pregnant can sometimes make us whine and be emotional, a very stressful time for the husband. You must take a minute and picture how hard it is to be a husband, he works so hard during the day and he comes home to whining and a constant flow of complaints, there is one solution: Stop whining. Whenever you expeirence pain and discomfit, immediatly thank God for it, remind yourself it is God's punishment and that you deserve it. As for what to do with all your spare time, there is never too much time spent in solitary prayer or pick your favourite Bible book and start reading, never too much time spent in praise of Lord Almighty .
I know it is a Christian wife's dream to cook and clean and pick after her Godly man, but you're wasting time and energy brooding about it, it's like a little holiday from housework, you have more time to relax why are you tense? And I know you are fretting about the maid, but let me ask you this, if you're husband chose her why are you suspicious?
Yours in Christ,
Mary Thompson.

[Alexandria Puckett]

Re: My new Maid...Advice?

Hello there! I'm pregnant too, but I do the opposite of what you do, I do EXTRA housework, because my dear husband asks it of me, and surely by obeying God's word extra carefully while being pregnant my newborns will be (hopefully) less prone to sin, as you may know, being pregnant can sometimes make us whine and be emotional, a very stressful time for the husband. You must take a minute and picture how hard it is to be a husband, he works so hard during the day and he comes home to whining and a constant flow of complaints, there is one solution: Stop whining. Whenever you expeirence pain and discomfit, immediatly thank God for it, remind yourself it is God's punishment and that you deserve it. As for what to do with all your spare time, there is never too much time spent in solitary prayer or pick your favourite Bible book and start reading, never too much time spent in praise of Lord Almighty .
I know it is a Christian wife's dream to cook and clean and pick after her Godly man, but you're wasting time and energy brooding about it, it's like a little holiday from housework, you have more time to relax why are you tense? And I know you are fretting about the maid, but let me ask you this, if you're husband chose her why are you suspicious?
Yours in Christ,
Mary Thompson.

Well Thank you! That was very insightful! Though i'm not suspicious of the girl at all, she seems nice enough. It's just that I would rather be cleaning than tagging after my John. My little Bible is always in my hand though, and prayer keeps me quiet.
Thank you again.

[Alexandria Puckett]

Re: My new Maid...Advice?

Thank you for your advice! I'll be sure instill that in my husband's home. I'm sure he wouldn't mind me correcting the maid if she does wrong, after all, her only purpose to me is to clean, so this is wonderful advice!
It will be good practice for my boys!

[Hairyscottishdemon]

Re: My new Maid...Advice?

are you high?.... enjoy the break.

[Alexandria Puckett]

Re: My new Maid...Advice?

are you high?.... enjoy the break.

I beg your pardon?
Well... I am HIGH in my faith of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior.
My love for him is in the HIGHEST!
He is the HIGHEST being and Almighty God!
Praise him!

[Mary Thompson]

Re: My new Maid...Advice?

I beg your pardon?
Well... I am HIGH in my faith of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior.
My love for him is in the HIGHEST!
He is the HIGHEST being and Almighty God!
Praise him!

I think you mean:
PRAISE HIM!!!

[Alexandria Puckett]

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I think you mean:
PRAISE HIM!!!

Ha! Oh my goodness, I did not mean to type that!
I'm such a silly.
Praise Him, praise Him, praaaaaise Him!

[Mary Thompson]

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Ha! Oh my goodness, I did not mean to type that!
I'm such a silly.
Praise Him, praise Him, praaaaaise Him!

Now that is more like it , He the Lord is so mighty and loving He deserves capitals.

[Dr Laurence Niles]

Re: My new Maid...Advice?

Well Thank you! That was very insightful! Though i'm not suspicious of the girl at all, she seems nice enough. It's just that I would rather be cleaning than tagging after my John. My little Bible is always in my hand though, and prayer keeps me quiet.
Thank you again.

Maybe you should be suspicious. No doubt she has designs on your husband. Is she younger than you?

YIC

[Mary Thompson]

Re: My new Maid...Advice?

Maybe you should be suspicious. No doubt she has designs on your husband. Is she younger than you?

YIC

She should trust that her husband has good enough judgment to pick a good, Christian maid but be cautious of her, she should find out more about her, go undercover if she has to .

[James Hutchins]

Re: My new Maid...Advice?

At the Hutchins home, we have strict guidelines for the hiring of all female and male employees what work inside the home. I take the prospective new employee to the cabin on the edge of the property for a weekend of fevered Bible discussion and laying of hands. Once I know Jesus has come to coat us in His Thick Love and has Blessed us with a Holy Bond of Trust will I consider the hiring. I put these sessions on DVD as a reminder to the employee that God has a permanent record. I electronically blur my face as I am camera shy.

As far as your feeling useless, Mrs. Puckett, I suggest you do your normal wifely duties. Mrs. Hutchins (along with my countless female daughters) still cooks all the meals, cleans the house, wash the cars, pitch the hay, slop all the animals, do any painting that needs to be done, mends fences. Idle hands are the devils playground.
There has never been a single word of malcontent about me hiring a maid to maintain my bath or travel with me to clean my soiled clothes. Instead, the lifting of the burden is appreciated. My wife, Mrs. Hutchins does not have to deal with the confusion of leaving the home and seeing the inside of the Landover Westin or the suite at the Bellagio. Instead, she has the unending constant comfort of the whitewashed walls of the barn and peach walls of the kitchen, every single day.

[Alexandria Puckett]

Re: My new Maid...Advice?

At the Hutchins home, we have strict guidelines for the hiring of all female and male employees what work inside the home. I take the prospective new employee to the cabin on the edge of the property for a weekend of fevered Bible discussion and laying of hands. Once I know Jesus has come to coat us in His Thick Love and has Blessed us with a Holy Bond of Trust will I consider the hiring. I put these sessions on DVD as a reminder to the employee that God has a permanent record. I electronically blur my face as I am camera shy.

As far as your feeling useless, Mrs. Puckett, I suggest you do your normal wifely duties. Mrs. Hutchins (along with my countless female daughters) still cooks all the meals, cleans the house, wash the cars, pitch the hay, slop all the animals, do any painting that needs to be done, mends fences. Idle hands are the devils playground.
There has never been a single word of malcontent about me hiring a maid to maintain my bath or travel with me to clean my soiled clothes. Instead, the lifting of the burden is appreciated. My wife, Mrs. Hutchins does not have to deal with the confusion of leaving the home and seeing the inside of the Landover Westin or the suite at the Bellagio. Instead, she has the unending constant comfort of the whitewashed walls of the barn and peach walls of the kitchen, every single day.

Well, that was beautifully put, sir! Thank you. I will ask if my husband might consider that. I've seen her praying, but I've also seen her with beads in her old hands. Apparently John met her at the library when he was gathering recipe books he would like me to see (Which she does now) so I am pretty sure she's on old Papist. And I do agree, idle hands and what not. Though I am not allowed in the house when she is cleaning as per my punishment for questioning his hiring her in the first place, and he doesn't really like when I clean behind her. Thank you nonetheless.
And praise Him for giving you the gift of bringing His word to the unsaved! I'm sure He is smiling on you for your goodwill.