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  • #1

    Is it wrong...?

    Hello Brothers and Sisters,

    Forgive my ignorance, but I am having a tough time in this decision. Recently, a brother from my congregation has approached me and offered to make me his wife. He is a good man but he is also much older than me. (He is in his late 50's while I am in my early 20's) My parents say he is a good Christian man, but I still feel uncertain. I feel if I decline his offer, that the Lord Jesus will find me ungrateful.

    Any and all advice is appreciated.

    Thank You and God bless.
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  • #2
    Re: Is it wrong...?

    Originally posted by Miss.ClaudiaT View Post
    Hello Brothers and Sisters,

    Forgive my ignorance, but I am having a tough time in this decision. Recently, a brother from my congregation has approached me and offered to make me his wife. He is a good man but he is also much older than me. (He is in his late 50's while I am in my early 20's) My parents say he is a good Christian man, but I still feel uncertain. I feel if I decline his offer, that the Lord Jesus will find me ungrateful.

    Any and all advice is appreciated.

    Thank You and God bless.
    i thinks you needs to marrys him lickety-split, cuz you already in your 20s an i been tolded that once i turn 20 i only gots 5 yrs to marrys before i be a old maids

    please marrys him Miss.Claudia, before it to late!

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    • #3
      Re: Is it wrong...?

      No it's not wrong at all. You should marry someone because you love them, and because you think the two of you could have a good, fulfilling life together. Just because a guy is "a good man" doesn't mean he would make a good husband for you. My sister in law is 40 and just gave birth to her third child, so don't believe anyone who says you become an "old maid" after 25... that is THE most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.

      If you're unsure, date the guy, court the guy, do whatever is socially acceptable for you to do to figure out whether or not you're attracted to him and could see yourself having children with him, spending the rest of your life with him, and being happy. This is the biggest decision of your life, and should not be done just because he's a good guy.

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      • #4
        Re: Is it wrong...?

        I would say that your parents are to blame here for not finding you a husband sooner.

        Are you and the gentleman both still virgins?
        I take my orders from Jesus H. Christ, supernatural born US citizen

        Be wary of false Kumbaya Christians who use a highlighter and scissors to read the Bible. God wants us to read the lines, not between the lines. False Christians will go to Hell:
        Matthew 7:22         Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works?
        Matthew 7:23 And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.

        Asking a Christian to prove God exists is like asking him to prove his phone rings because yours doesn't. Make that call yourself! Dial 0800-get-on-your-knees-and-pray.

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        • #5
          Re: Is it wrong...?

          Best to get that heretofore barren womb churning out soldiers for Christ !!!
          Jud 1:15 To execute judgment upon all, and to convince all that are unGodly among them of all their unGodly deeds which they have unGodly committed, and of all their hard [speeches] which unGodly sinners have spoken against him.

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          • #6
            Re: Is it wrong...?

            Why is it necessary for her to have children by such-and-such an age? Since this community seems to enjoy backing things up with scripture, can anyone show me a passage from the Bible that says a woman should have children by such-and-such an age? If the goal of our life is to please God in all that we do, can she not please God just the same whether she has children or not?

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            • #7
              Re: Is it wrong...?

              A woman often has only so many 'productive years'. These must not be squandered.
              Isaiah 45:7 I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the LORD do all these things.
              Amos 3:6 Shall a trumpet be blown in the city, and the people not be afraid? shall there be evil in a city, and the LORD hath not done it?
              Numbers 21:6 And the LORD sent fiery serpents among the people, and they bit the people; and much people of Israel died.
              Matthew 10:34 Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword.
              Matthew 10:35 For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.
              Matthew 10:36 And a man's foes shall be they of his own household.

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              • #8
                Re: Is it wrong...?

                Originally posted by ClaudiaT View Post
                Hello Brothers and Sisters,

                Forgive my ignorance, but I am having a tough time in this decision. Recently, a brother from my congregation has approached me and offered to make me his wife. He is a good man but he is also much older than me. (He is in his late 50's while I am in my early 20's) My parents say he is a good Christian man, but I still feel uncertain. I feel if I decline his offer, that the Lord Jesus will find me ungrateful.

                Any and all advice is appreciated.

                Thank You and God bless.
                You dont have to do what you dont want to m'love. If you don't want to marry him that is fine if you fair enough. Dont feel pressured I am sure there is another great christian man round the corner for you. Plus he is a bit old for you 30 years diffrence that will cause some tension later in the marriage your only young! Live first.
                God bless.

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                • #9
                  Re: Is it wrong...?

                  Define squandering. Where in the Bible does it say that a woman's lot is to bear children?

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                  • #10
                    Re: Is it wrong...?

                    James speaks the truth once again.

                    Even scientists will confirm it is better to start early with children unless you want them to be mongoloids or homersexuals. Also, if you start late, you may end up with only 7 or 8 children.

                    I don't have a Bible quote that springs directly to mind, but you may consider this:

                    Genesis 1:22 And God blessed them, saying, Be fruitful, and multiply, and fill the waters in the seas, and let fowl multiply in the earth.
                    I take my orders from Jesus H. Christ, supernatural born US citizen

                    Be wary of false Kumbaya Christians who use a highlighter and scissors to read the Bible. God wants us to read the lines, not between the lines. False Christians will go to Hell:
                    Matthew 7:22                     Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works?
                    Matthew 7:23 And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.

                    Asking a Christian to prove God exists is like asking him to prove his phone rings because yours doesn't. Make that call yourself! Dial 0800-get-on-your-knees-and-pray.

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                    • #11
                      Re: Is it wrong...?

                      Originally posted by GOD=life View Post
                      James speaks the truth once again.

                      Even scientists will confirm it is better to start early with children unless you want them to be mongoloids or homersexuals. Also, if you start late, you may end up with only 7 or 8 children.

                      I don't have a Bible quote that springs directly to mind, but you may consider this:

                      Genesis 1:22 And God blessed them, saying, Be fruitful, and multiply, and fill the waters in the seas, and let fowl multiply in the earth.
                      How does having a child cause homosexuality? Explain this idiotic consept please!?!

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                      • #12
                        Re: Is it wrong...?

                        Originally posted by jennifer-Jane View Post
                        Live first.
                        Sure, great advice. First be a slut and then try to find an honorable man who will still take you.

                        Next thing we know, the same lady will be starting a thread about how she decided to be a slut and then got raped. Do you see how these things happen? It is so clear. First God sends you a man for you to marry and then you say "no, I want to be a slut". Then the next man God sends will treat you like a slut and then that is the man you must marry.

                        I pray with that you shall find wisdom before this happens!
                        I take my orders from Jesus H. Christ, supernatural born US citizen

                        Be wary of false Kumbaya Christians who use a highlighter and scissors to read the Bible. God wants us to read the lines, not between the lines. False Christians will go to Hell:
                        Matthew 7:22                         Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works?
                        Matthew 7:23 And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.

                        Asking a Christian to prove God exists is like asking him to prove his phone rings because yours doesn't. Make that call yourself! Dial 0800-get-on-your-knees-and-pray.

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                        • #13
                          Re: Is it wrong...?

                          Originally posted by jennifer-Jane View Post
                          How does having a child cause homosexuality? Explain this idiotic consept (sic) please!?!
                          If you are too late with having children, then there is a high probability they will be deformed in various ways. It is medical fact. That's why doctors will do lots of checks to see if your child is a mongoloid or homersexual and stuff like that if you are old.

                          Here, I quote from the very first hit in Google:

                          From medical point of view, a woman is physically ready for childbirth during 20 and 25 years, this is the best period.
                          Exactly how many children can a woman bear in a period of 10-15 years, Ms. Genius?
                          I take my orders from Jesus H. Christ, supernatural born US citizen

                          Be wary of false Kumbaya Christians who use a highlighter and scissors to read the Bible. God wants us to read the lines, not between the lines. False Christians will go to Hell:
                          Matthew 7:22                           Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works?
                          Matthew 7:23 And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.

                          Asking a Christian to prove God exists is like asking him to prove his phone rings because yours doesn't. Make that call yourself! Dial 0800-get-on-your-knees-and-pray.

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                          • #14
                            Re: Is it wrong...?

                            Originally posted by GOD=life View Post
                            Sure, great advice. First be a slut and then try to find an honorable man who will still take you.

                            Next thing we know, the same lady will be starting a thread about how she decided to be a slut and then got raped. Do you see how these things happen? It is so clear. First God sends you a man for you to marry and then you say "no, I want to be a slut". Then the next man God sends will treat you like a slut and then that is the man you must marry.

                            I pray with that you shall find wisdom before this happens!
                            I didnt tell her to sleep around at all you reapporipated what I said. I said Live not sleep around they are too diffrent things. I doubt she has seen the world or gone out with friends live a little first living dosnt have to meen sleeping around. Obviously a 50 year old man is not right for her! She dosnt want to marry him so she shouldnt have to! Also by him being older means a higher risk in downsyndrome and infertalisation also erectile disfuncation she is better off with a younger man.

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                            • #15
                              Re: Is it wrong...?

                              Is the op a virgin? If not - all bets are off and the man is wasting his time.
                              Sinner, you will either TURN from your sins to Jesus or you will BURN for your sins. If you reject the Lord Jesus Christ, you will be tormented in the flames forever without a single, solitary hope. The biggest fool in the world chooses hell. No need to argue with me about this. God said hell is real, your argument is with Him and you won't win that one. You have been warned. Repent or perish.

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