Greetings - Lost and Found

[Dantrague]

Greetings everyone,
I recently stumbled upon this site by pure chance(so it would seem, tho I'm led to believe it be no coincidence at all) and felt I may have found a home here among you.

I recently finished serving a term of 3 years of punishment of man's law for past transgressions and it was there in prison that I believe I found Jesus

So here's my story:
I was born 27 years ago to a drunken/high mother who, in my opinion, had to business having children in Denver, CO. I was raised by said mother and father (unmarried till I was 3) when my mother left him (tho I cant blame her, he was a cripple after an accident I was told) where she promptly dropped me off at some relatives because she couldn't "handle" me, which later proved to her desire to continue her drug and alcohol use unfettered. I was bounced from relative to relative till I was 11 when my mother decided to show up one day to re-claim me, joy of joys

Long story short, I lived a life of lying, stealing and rebellion against my mother and this new man in her life (unmarried again) that would beat me ruthlessly just for the sheer pleasure of it (as when it started I hadn't yet started my life if sin).

Now don't get me wrong this is not a pity party by any means, simply a back-story. Ultimately that life of sin led me to pursue a career of dealing in drugs as I felt it was my only avenue to generate income, which ultimately led to many incarcerations in the county jail and ending in prison time. Also during that tie of my life as a sinner I met and married a "highschool" sweetheart and have since fathered 2 soldiers for Jesus (a boy and a girl, my son is the eldest, AFTER marriage, unlike my mother)

Since being released from prison, I am questioning my life with my wife as her views of Christ are not the same as mine, shes episcopal (catholic "lite" as she terms it) and unsure as what to do with my family, marriage as well as difficulties with regaining employment, so please I implore you for advice as to what I should do. I pray daily for the strength form Jesus to allow me to find the answer. Through reading other posts I have included my (not necessarily favorite but most insightful quote from the bible to me)

Galatians 5:19-21


19Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, 20Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,
21Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

[James Hutchins]

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Son, we are mighty glad to have you here. Your testimony is not unlike scores of others who have passed under God's Golden Arches (r).
I assume you have a KJV1611 Bible and belong to a local Baptist Church. What Church and the Pastors name please, maybe I can put in a good word for you.

Your wife is a problem. She is the mother of your children. Divorce for you, while not out of the question, does add a black mark/burden to the little ones. Has your wife ever thought of running off? Perhaps, joining the circus? These things do happen.
My first wife left me, we found a type written note telling the police that she had left the children (no mention of me) to become a clown and join the circus.
Who was I to stand in the way of her dream. 10 years later, they found her in a well. Apparently she was not looking where she was walking and had fallen in backward. Such a shame

[Dantrague]

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Unfortunately, I've yet to find a suitable church to attend, all my local parishes are either catholick (mindless drones if you ask me), methodist, episcopal ad moron (mormon). So I do my best reading my bible (yes its the one I got whilst in prison and brought it home with me)

As for my wife, its a bigger problem than one would think. She has no intentions of just running off and leaveing the kids behind, in fact she desires a divorce (do to my jail times) but in no way wants me to have the kids, which I obviously cannot allow. She's gone do far as to say shes scared of me taking the kids and running off with them (which, sinful tho it may be, I have contemplated it).Also shes of the liberal minded despite the upbringing of her old world italian life (they believe the woman do as the man directs weather its her brother, father or husband) so that's another difficulty

[James Dewitt]

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Its sounds as if you come from that Mary worshiping state called Louisiana. There sure are a lot of swamps full of masty creatures down there.

You say your wife is a dago, and knows her place, yet you let her run the roost . Who wears the pants in your HOME? I sounds as if you are a little confused as to the roll of the woman.

[Noah Dint]

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Greetings everyone,
I recently stumbled upon this site by pure chance(so it would seem, tho I'm led to believe it be no coincidence at all) and felt I may have found a home here among you.

I recently finished serving a term of 3 years of punishment of man's law for past transgressions and it was there in prison that I believe I found Jesus

So here's my story:
I was born 27 years ago to a drunken/high mother...

I hear a lot of "It's not my fault...." in your introduction. I also see many places that the ball was in your hands and you made the wrong decisions.

Are you finished making bad decisions and ready to make some smart choices?

Jesus has been there asking to be your friend along. Such a shame you decided you didn't need him when you actually needed him most.

I wonder what he will say now?

[Professor Bessemer]

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We seem to be getting visited by quite a few men who have non-believing partners of late. I will simply post some scripture as a response to yet another question that the Lord has already answered.

If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
Luke 14:26

[Dantrague]

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Its sounds as if you come from that Mary worshiping state called Louisiana. There sure are a lot of swamps full of masty creatures down there.

You say your wife is a dago, and knows her place, yet you let her run the roost . Who wears the pants in your HOME? I sounds as if you are a little confused as to the roll of the woman.

No I come from western NY, as to the role of the woman in my home, when we first got together I was lost and had not been Saved so was blindly following what I "thought" was a good life...how wrong I was. Now as for me correcting the situation in my home, I have the threat of parole over my head now, while dealing with the mother would be ideal, I fear it would be bad for my little ones.

[Dantrague]

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I hear a lot of "It's not my fault...." in your introduction. I also see many places that the ball was in your hands and you made the wrong decisions.

Are you finished making bad decisions and ready to make some smart choices?

Jesus has been there asking to be your friend along. Such a shame you decided you didn't need him when you actually needed him most.

I wonder what he will say now?

I agree with the fact of me making the wrong decisions, I am just regretful that I didn't come to Jesus and ask to be saved until I was in prison. Tho as I understand it as long as I have not sinned against worshiping Him (worshiping another false god) I will be forgiven and shall be Saved.

I am, however, thankful that I am able to ask for His friendship and forgiveness and glad to be shown a better life, as well as lead my children to Him as it should be.

[Paul Jeffery]

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My first wife left me, we found a type written note telling the police that she had left the children (no mention of me) to become a clown and join the circus.
Who was I to stand in the way of her dream. 10 years later, they found her in a well. Apparently she was not looking where she was walking and had fallen in backward. Such a shame

My heart aches to imagine how painful that whole turn of events must have been for you, Brother Hutchins. I've heard of many instances, not unlike yours, where wives just run off, inexplicably, to join circuses, carnivals, Green Peace, the ACLU, convents, and are simply never heard from again. It's always tragic, especially when there are children involved. But God blessed children with a resiliency we adults just don't have. They are able to bounce back from the grief of losing their mothers, whether they ever resurface or not. If they're taught well and dicsiplined thoughout the course of their lives, they soon learn what their roles will be, what role their mothers should've been willing to assume, and what role Jesus will play in their lives. They learn about consequences and rewards. Praise God for children and good, Godly parents who understand the meaning of the word 'parent' as a verb.

Keep your eye on the ball, Dantrague. Jesus will be with you every step of the way.

[Dantrague]

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Its sounds as if you come from that Mary worshiping state called Louisiana. There sure are a lot of swamps full of masty creatures down there.

You say your wife is a dago, and knows her place, yet you let her run the roost . Who wears the pants in your HOME? I sounds as if you are a little confused as to the roll of the woman.

Seems as there is not an edit function on these boards, as for her being a dago and knowing her place, I believe you misunderstood what I said:

Also shes of the liberal minded despite the upbringing of her old world italian life

She does NOT know her place, and words will not suffice it to her to learn it, and parole limits what I am able to accomplish, not to mention the fact I would rather not have a wife that will be spending eternity in Hell.

[James Dewitt]

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If I may make a some what small suggestion. PUT on the pants( BE the Man of the family)
you tell your dago wife that she will change her ways and become a Christian. Seek out a Baptist Church ( we can help you find one) and JOIN it. Do it for your self, and the soles of your children. Jesus is waiting for you, don't be rude answer his call. Do not blame others for your bad choices, it's time to MAN up.

[Dantrague]

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While I wholeheartedly agree with this sentiment, short of beating it into her will not suffice, and as I said I have the birden of parole over my head and so I cannot do as is needed to be done (yet) Unless of course I want to lose my children and let her besmirch their souls as well and take them to eternal Hell with her!

[James Dewitt]

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While I wholeheartedly agree with this sentiment, short of beating it into her will not suffice, and as I said I have the birden of parole over my head and so I cannot do as is needed to be done (yet) Unless of course I want to lose my children and let her besmirch their souls as well and take them to eternal Hell with her!

So lets look at this in a different light. You will not do anything to correct the problem, due to the fact you are on parole. Yet you know your wife is leading you and your children to eternal damnation. You made a series of bad choices that led to your being imprisoned, and now for the fear of becoming imprisoned again, you are willing to let bad choices go unchanged. Except now it involves your children and their Salvation.

What will you tell Jesus, I let my children down and its not my fault?

[Dantrague]

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So lets look at this in a different light. You will not do anything to correct the problem, due to the fact you are on parole. Yet you know your wife is leading you and your children to eternal damnation. You made a series of bad choices that led to your being imprisoned, and now for the fear of becoming imprisoned again, you are willing to let bad choices go unchanged. Except now it involves your children and their Salvation.

What will you tell Jesus, I let my children down and its not my fault?

Again I think you are misunderstanding me, I am not being led astray by any means, it is her that is following the wrong path. If I am understanding what you are saying correctly, and I think I am, I am to do whatever is necessary to bring her back to her rightful place, which of course will lead to be being imprisoned again ( Which I have NO problem with mind you, that I can handle as God will see me through that ordeal) but during that time of my new imprisonment she will divorce me and file for sole custody of the children, which of course she will win because of my past record then I lose my children. Is this what you are suggesting I do?

I have complete faith that He will provide for me, its Unsaved man that will interfere.

[Dantrague]

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However, through contemplating this discussion, I believe I have come to the revalation that the above scenario just MAY be the plan Jesus has for me after all...perhaps Jesus sees the fact that my children and wife will burn in Hell and do not want me to risk the same fate trying to save them, but I wonder if that too is wrong? To NOT save someone especially children of my loins that have yet to fully realize the True Gospel?