Need Accountability Partner

[Paul the Foreigner]

Greetings brothers.
I read some articles about importance of Accountability.

9 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: 10 If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! 11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? 12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

A study was once done to determine the true value of team effort. The study revealed that one horse pulling alone was able to pull 2,500 pounds. The test was then repeated with two horses pulling together; it was found that the two horses were able to pull 12,500 pounds! Two horses together could pull 5 times the weight that one horse alone could pull!

Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Galatians 6:1

But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness. Hebrews 3:13


I am searching an Accountability Partner. I am searching a strong christian friend who has Skype or MSN and we can speak each other Daily if possible.
I made a decision to stop masturbation and impure thoughts, but I often have temptations, this is why I need help from Brothers.

" Here are some guidelines to follow when you initiate accountability with your partner:

1. You agree to openness and honesty. Bondage to sexual impurity brings deception with it, and some of us have been deceptive for years. If we want to find freedom, we must start with honesty, even if it is humbling. If your accountability partner asks how you are doing, and you have just fallen into sexual sin, you must honestly admit it.
2. You agree to prepare a list of the circumstances that are likely to lead you into sexual impurity, and make a plan for dealing with each one. Ask your accountability partner to comment on your plan and hold you accountable to it.
3. You agree to give your partner freedom to ask the hard questions, without taking offense—questions like "Have you seen any pornography today?" or "Did you break off that sinful relationship completely, as you said you would?"
4. You agree to initiate communication daily for the first 30 days, as much as is possible. "
   

If you agree with these points above and you can help me, please write me on MSN or Skype, if you would be my Accountability Partner.

[PRIVATE INFO REMOVED: THIS IS NOT A PICK UP BAR!]

I hope some can help me, that would be great.

God Bless You brothers.

[Dr. Warren Wierdsbe]

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Dear Pud Puller,
We are not some twelve-step program designed to keep you from sinning. When someone is saved, they are no longer able to sin, so therefore you are in need of a good shot of JESUS in your soul!

1 John 3
2Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is.

3And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure.

4Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law.

5And ye know that he was manifested to take away our sins; and in him is no sin.

6Whosoever abideth in him sinneth not: whosoever sinneth hath not seen him, neither known him.

7Little children, let no man deceive you: he that doeth righteousness is righteous, even as he is righteous.

8He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil.

9Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God.

Therefore if you want to stop sinning you must be born of God. If you only want to stop abusing yourself, I would suggest you read this thread:

http://www.landoverbaptist.net/showthread.php?t=27906

[Faith_Machine]

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Paul, I commend you for wanting to stop sodomizing yourself! I personally am all too familiar with the shame of backsliding and relapse, and it is only by the grace of God, and with the help of Landover's pastors and fellowship, that I have gone for almost nine months without masturbating.

But hey, who's counting? I'm not taking things one day at a time: I have made a permanent, lifelong commitment to not touching myself.

And so should you.

[Faith_Machine]

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I feel there is great symbolic significance in the fact that nine months is the normal gestation period for a baby in its mother's womb. When I officially hit that nine month mark at the end of December, I will truly feel reborn.

Though nothing as stomach-churning as childbirth will be occurring; just me, fully emerging from the darkness that has shrouded my past, basking in the warm glow of God's sunshine!

2 Corinthians 5:17

17Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

[Paul the Foreigner]

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Paul, I commend you for wanting to stop sodomizing yourself! I personally am all too familiar with the shame of backsliding and relapse, and it is only by the grace of God, and with the help of Landover's pastors and fellowship, that I have gone for almost nine months without masturbating.

But hey, who's counting? I'm not taking things one day at a time: I have made a permanent, lifelong commitment to not touching myself.

And so should you.

I made a lifelong commitment many times, but I don't have strong will.
I could not resist masturbation. After one week purity, I feel like my body explode, and I cannot command to my hands.
I feel guilty after that and I am embittered.
You can say, Gos always sees me, so He is my accountability partner, and you are right.
But many times I forget this.

For example. I never feel temptíations when I am in group or in street. Because others see me, and I don't touch myself then.
This is why I need accountability partner, who can daily ask me on MSN or Skype about masturbation, and who daily reminds me that my genital is NOT mine.

Please, let me quote a christian woman (a widow), who overcame masturbation and lust:

" Masturbation also became a major struggle for me. The turning point in being able to gain victory in this area was when I finally decided to make myself accountable to the ladies in my small prayer group. They were very understanding and this accountability helped me to gain control of this area of my life. Masturbation can become enslaving very quickly. "

Anyway, you are right, too. You can make a commitment, but it helps only if you have strong will. But I cannot command myself, this is why i need help.

[Faith_Machine]

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Paul, it's been my own experience that "cannot" is a word we use when we're trying not to take responsibility for our sinning. It's not that you "cannot" stop your hand from wrapping itself around your engorged member and massaging it until you're covered in a sticky, white, pool of dying, microscopic babies:

It's that you choose not to stop yourself.

Just as the secret to quitting smoking is as simple as not putting cigarettes in your mouth, the secret to avoiding masturbation is as simple as not putting your hand on your Johnson!

Oh, and also not rubbing it up against objects, such as women on crowded buses.

[Pastor Ed Lowman]

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I made a lifelong commitment many times, but I don't have strong will.
I could not resist masturbation. After one week purity, I feel like my body explode, and I cannot command to my hands.
I feel guilty after that and I am embittered.
You can say, Gos always sees me, so He is my accountability partner, and you are right.
But many times I forget this.

For example. I never feel temptíations when I am in group or in street. Because others see me, and I don't touch myself then.
This is why I need accountability partner, who can daily ask me on MSN or Skype about masturbation, and who daily reminds me that my genital is NOT mine.

Please, let me quote a christian woman (a widow), who overcame masturbation and lust:

" Masturbation also became a major struggle for me. The turning point in being able to gain victory in this area was when I finally decided to make myself accountable to the ladies in my small prayer group. They were very understanding and this accountability helped me to gain control of this area of my life. Masturbation can become enslaving very quickly. "

Anyway, you are right, too. You can make a commitment, but it helps only if you have strong will. But I cannot command myself, this is why i need help.

What the devil is this?

Friend, Jesus IS your accountability partner, and so are the brethren (See James 5:16). I know he doesn't talk to you and it's often as if he doesn't exist, but he does.

When you faulter, you can open up a new thread each time and expose the gritty details of just how you made baby Jesus - and all the angels - cry.

But with regard to widowers and the elderly, this isn't an issue. See here...

http://www.landoverbaptist.org/news1100/masturbation.html

Recent male widowers 65 or older can defile their bodies without fear of eternity in Hell. Only, they must think about Jesus when they commit the act.

Pastor Ed

[Didymus Much]

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...Please, let me quote a christian woman (a widow), who overcame masturbation and lust:...

So you're listening to some unnamed woman instead of Jesus.

Please, let me quote Jesus on how to overcome masturbation and lust:

Matthew 5:30 "And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. "

Youtube video should be adequate proof of your sincerity to follow Jesus' commands.

[Faith_Machine]

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When you faulter, you can open up a new thread each time and expose the gritty details of just how you made baby Jesus - and all the angels - cry.

This is a really good idea!