How to ask for more severity?

[stubborn_wife]

Dear members,

At first, let me tell you my favorite verse is Colossians 3:18 (as you will understand as you read the rest of my post ). We don't go to church because there is no one in the neighborhood that fits our beliefs, but we have house gatherings.

I turn to you because of a marital issue in which i could use some guidance. My family and friends wouldn't understand so i turn to you, a community with people who do understand the dynamics of marriage . I would have loved to post this in the men's forum, because i need the advice of strict husbands with experience, but i'm not allowed to post there.

As my nickname indicates, i am a woman of strong will. I need my husband to discipline me to stay in line. However, he's a kind and lenient man. Very few times he spanks me if i fail to behave the way a proper wife should. And if he does, he stops after a few swats.
I've asked for him to discipline me harsher and more sternly, but he says i'm not to tell him how to rule me. And of course he is right.
So i started punishing myself (e.g. on the back with a whip), if i feel i need to be disciplined, but that's neither the right thing to do since it enables me to stop when i want to. Of course, corporal punishment should continue beyond that point.

Punishment for my disobedient behavior should really hurt and it should really make me feel submissive and sorry. So what to do now?

How do i encourage him to be more strict, without nagging or making him feel like he doesn't suffice? Or should i continue to administer my own corporal punishment if he won't? And how do i prevent myself from stopping too early?
Thanks for your kind help.

[James Hutchins]

Re: How to ask for more severity?

Well, the simplest way to accomplish what you want is to simply jump down an abandoned well or off a cliff. You can also stand in a field during a thunder storm, holding a giant metal cross and beg God to enter you.

I'll pray God hears your pleas. But do not bother your husband with your 'female issues' I am certain he has enough to worry about what with football season coming.

[Billy Bob Jenkins]

Re: How to ask for more severity?

If your husband will not beat you, he probably does not care about your salvation. Perhaps he feels that you deserve to be tortured for all eternity, or perhaps he hates Jesus.

I hope this helps.

[Nobar King]

Re: How to ask for more severity?

You might try substituting "spank you" for "thank you" in a loving way after getting some discipline.

[Rev. M. Rodimer]

Re: How to ask for more severity?

As my nickname indicates, i am a woman of strong will. I need my husband to discipline me to stay in line.

Why do you hate Jesus?

The Scripture you quote is a command for YOU, not for your husband. YOU are commanded to submit to your husband. YOU are refusing to do so.

Clearly, you are a selfish, narcissistic hussy who expects your husband to manage your salvation for you.

No human can save you. Only you, in unquestioning obedience to Jesus (and your husband), can get you past Heaven's bouncers.

[Mary Etheldreda]

Re: How to ask for more severity?

Punishment for my disobedient behavior should really hurt and it should really make me feel submissive and sorry. So what to do now?

This isn't a BDSM pick-up site.

[Pastor Ezekiel]

Re: How to ask for more severity?

Dear members,

At first, let me tell you my favorite verse is Colossians 3:18 (as you will understand as you read the rest of my post ). We don't go to church because there is no one in the neighborhood that fits our beliefs, but we have house gatherings.

I turn to you because of a marital issue in which i could use some guidance. My family and friends wouldn't understand so i turn to you, a community with people who do understand the dynamics of marriage . I would have loved to post this in the men's forum, because i need the advice of strict husbands with experience, but i'm not allowed to post there.

As my nickname indicates, i am a woman of strong will. I need my husband to discipline me to stay in line. However, he's a kind and lenient man. Very few times he spanks me if i fail to behave the way a proper wife should. And if he does, he stops after a few swats.
I've asked for him to discipline me harsher and more sternly, but he says i'm not to tell him how to rule me. And of course he is right.
So i started punishing myself (e.g. on the back with a whip), if i feel i need to be disciplined, but that's neither the right thing to do since it enables me to stop when i want to. Of course, corporal punishment should continue beyond that point.

Punishment for my disobedient behavior should really hurt and it should really make me feel submissive and sorry. So what to do now?

How do i encourage him to be more strict, without nagging or making him feel like he doesn't suffice? Or should i continue to administer my own corporal punishment if he won't? And how do i prevent myself from stopping too early?
Thanks for your kind help.

Is your husband a fag?

You need some private Christian counseling, lady. Click on the email link at the bottom of my signature and we'll talk. Confidentiality assured, pics a plus.

[stubborn_wife]

Re: How to ask for more severity?

This isn't a BDSM pick-up site.

I'm sure you misunderstood me. I'm not in for picking up, and i'm not in for exchanging pictures with anyone. I'm married, remember?

As for the rest of you: thanks for advice. Maybe the key is indeed that i should not expect from him to keep me in line, but to try harder myself.

[stubborn_wife]

Re: How to ask for more severity?

Is your husband a fag?

You need some private Christian counseling, lady. Click on the email link at the bottom of my signature and we'll talk. Confidentiality assured, pics a plus.

Thank you so much for your kind and selfless offer

However, apparently i loaded the suspicion of a 'pick-up move' on me, and it would be highly inappropriate to involve a pastor in such a thing. I don't want to bear that on my conscience .

[Dr Laurence Niles]

Re: How to ask for more severity?

Dear members,

At first, let me tell you my favorite verse is Colossians 3:18 (as you will understand as you read the rest of my post ). We don't go to church because there is no one in the neighborhood that fits our beliefs, but we have house gatherings.

I turn to you because of a marital issue in which i could use some guidance. My family and friends wouldn't understand so i turn to you, a community with people who do understand the dynamics of marriage . I would have loved to post this in the men's forum, because i need the advice of strict husbands with experience, but i'm not allowed to post there.

As my nickname indicates, i am a woman of strong will. I need my husband to discipline me to stay in line. However, he's a kind and lenient man. Very few times he spanks me if i fail to behave the way a proper wife should. And if he does, he stops after a few swats.
I've asked for him to discipline me harsher and more sternly, but he says i'm not to tell him how to rule me. And of course he is right.
So i started punishing myself (e.g. on the back with a whip), if i feel i need to be disciplined, but that's neither the right thing to do since it enables me to stop when i want to. Of course, corporal punishment should continue beyond that point.

Punishment for my disobedient behavior should really hurt and it should really make me feel submissive and sorry. So what to do now?

How do i encourage him to be more strict, without nagging or making him feel like he doesn't suffice? Or should i continue to administer my own corporal punishment if he won't? And how do i prevent myself from stopping too early?
Thanks for your kind help.

This is all too often a problem with the less manly of men when their wive's sinful nature is not crushed immediately.

There is however a proven way to get your husband to shape up into the dominate Christian manly man that is head of his household as defined by God.

You need to start by becoming as placatory as you possible can. Appease you husband, go out of you way to do what ever you want. This will subtly alter his thinking process into one that expects certain things from you.

Never, ever say 'no'. Every time you do this inculcates him into the notion that you have a right to have a opinion (this is the wrong thing to do).

Every time you say 'yes' (even when you really want to say 'no') you condition him to expect for you to say yes to anything. Never ever make a decision without consulting him, even if it is what clothes to wear or what time to go to bed.

Give this a few weeks of gentle self debasement and dependence on him and then move on to asking him to play on the Atari or 3DO with you. Here is where your natural feminine duplicitous whiles can move into hi gear.

As you will have no skills with such things make a big deal about being rubbish and ask him to 'do the hard bits'. This gets him to understand that HE needs to direct YOU. You now need to start asking for him to 'do the hard bits' in everything in life.

Continue to get things wrong until his frustration is at it's peek. As soon as this happens stop this strategy and begin to nag him about his worst faults (use your shrewish ways to identify this) over and over. Imply he is a failure or has a diminished penile member. Keep doing this while telling he needs to 'be a man' or 'I knew you would never amount to anything or 'your driving skills are sub par', or 'your sibling is better in the marital divan'.

If you can find a riding crop position this near his favourite armchair or ash tray for his pipe.

Soon his vexation will explode and as he has smacked you before he will no doubt take out his righteous rage on your bare bottom. Hopefully with the crop.

Keep belittling him very chance you get and soon your gentle, easy going, spinectomy of a huband will be a fine, stern despot of his household as defined by God in His Heaven.

Do let us know how this goes as I'm thinking of releasing my couples counselling instruction manuals on iTunes and I would like some feedback.

YIC

[Higgins]

Re: How to ask for more severity?

A terrible problem indeed. One that I fear will become more prevalent as our society continues to give women more and more rights, thus allowing them to become more strong-willed than their husbands.

How well off are you and your husband? I only ask because the way that my father taught me how to discipline our nigra slaves employees. He would tell me what they had done, then give them a "verbal" lashing. Why his tongue was so quick that it practically whipped those employees back into shape. Very few had need of any other admonishment. The many other times that he allowed me to give his employees a lashing, I took to it like a fish to water. Perhaps your husband could hire some employees specifically so he may start to gain a proper backbone?