Hello everyone!

[ElicaMParadise]

I'm Elica, a concerned Christian housewife. Recently my children have been acting strange and I have come here to get some answers.

Excuse me for lack of knowlage of information about internet and/or bad grammar/spelling, I'm not actually American and my husband wants me t stay at home.

[Mary Etheldreda]

Re: Hello everyone!

Hello Mrs. Paradise, and welcome to our friendly forum! I'm sorry to hear your children are acting out. Have you tried taking away their "currency"? You see, when directing a child's character, it's often helpful too find out what is most valuable to them. We call that their "currency." For some children it's toys. For others it's physical activities - getting to play sports. For still others, it may be privileges like being able to leave the home for certain, appropriate and chaperoned activities. For most children, affection is a strong currency. Take their currency away, that is, break or burn all their personal belongings as they watch, sequester them to the basement for six weeks (so they cannot get to their sports teams or the park), withhold all affection (ignore them completely and lavish the good children with all kinds of affection), and they'll soon get the picture that you are in charge, and that it behooves them to be obedient.

Of course, many parents find corporal punishment is successful, but I find that by shaking things up, the children never know what to expect.

[Gospel of Truth]

Re: Hello everyone!

I'm Elica, a concerned Christian housewife. Recently my children have been acting strange and I have come here to get some answers.

Excuse me for lack of knowlage of information about internet and/or bad grammar/spelling, I'm not actually American and my husband wants me t stay at home.

Oh hi Elica.

I am also not American, but I have been made most welcome so far. Mostly.

Hi Mary.

[Dr Laurence Niles]

Re: Hello everyone!

I'm Elica, a concerned Christian housewife. Recently my children have been acting strange and I have come here to get some answers.

Excuse me for lack of knowlage of information about internet and/or bad grammar/spelling, I'm not actually American and my husband wants me t stay at home.

Sister Mary is quite correct. The key with discipline with children in inconsistency. If a child knows there are firm boundaries and consistent rules they will quickly learn how to 'game' the system.

The ideal situation to strive for is one where the child has no idea when a bout of punishment will happen. This sometimes means delivering a punishment where there has been no perceived transgression.

This may seem arbitrary and unfair but consider God: how many times have apparently decent people been crushed in an auto wreck, stung to death by killer bees or poisoned by lead piping?

From a limited point of view God can seem arbitrary, vindictive and spiteful in His selection of punishment regimes for people.

If you act like God the child will be so confused that it will inevitably see you as an object of fear and awe. Promise a reward for good conduct, but here is the trick: never deliver this reward, ever! And blame them EVERY SINGLE TIME for the none appearance of the reward.

With random, severe punishments and the promise of a reward that never materialises the child will soon be totally dependent on you.

Hope this helps.

Yours In Christ.

[WWJDnow]

Re: Hello everyone!

I'm Elica, a concerned Christian housewife. Recently my children have been acting strange and I have come here to get some answers.

Hi, Elica, and welcome.

Have you tried beating and chastening your children? That's what the Bible tells us to do:

He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Proverbs 13:24

[Faith_Machine]

Re: Hello everyone!

Hello Mrs. Paradise, I'm sure you and the women here will have lots to gab about. Who is your husband, and when may I exchange salutations with him?

[ElicaMParadise]

Re: Hello everyone!

Thank you all for yo it advise, I tried to lecture them about a few of the things I've read on these forums.

It is all about my twin daughters, both age 15. I don't want to be too harsh on them so even after they got angry at me I gave them some time to think about what I've said. I'm yet to find out how they reacted to that.

My husband is in England for business at the moment.

[Dr Laurence Niles]

Re: Hello everyone!

When using any kind of punishment the key is to cause the maximum amount of psychological distress with the minimum amount of actual physical pain or blemish.

When developing this method of parenting as part of my PhD I used the verbalisations of paedophiles. Children would instinctively become distressed when subjected to the the sound of a paedophile's voice played continuously to them on a loop.

As luck would have it this meant we had a convenient source of child distressing audio in the music of that dispicable Michael Jackson. The looks of horror and disgust on the children's faces when that renowned paedophile dastardly Michael Jackson's music was played was perfect. They soon learnt no to 'play the game' but to shape up as decent God fearing little angels.

After all, who better to scare a child witless than evil Michael Jackson?

Playing the music of wicked Michael Jackson also had the benefit of rooting out those with paedophilic tendencies as the kids who were unaffected by gross Michael Jackson's evil child rape music were later shown to be enthusiasts of perverse sexual practices and were latter arrested.

These children would never be able to survive in a normal juvenile delinquency prison, for obvious reasons: but that's where they are going: Glory!

God bless