My EX-faincé's infidelities MY FAULT?! Surely NOT?!

[María Gálvez-Villalobos]

Hello all,

I ask you this cos I'm no see this nothing like the bad tonguers of my ex-church (Jehová Witness, like my ex-fiancé and my family) have been spread rumors and wrong gossips saying that...well, let me esplain from the estart.

Ok, I feel I am ready to share with you my bad esperience with my ex-fiancé that were promise to be marry whit me.

This was near 1 year ago when my world came downwards onto me and was like wow! a huge disaster what I just couldn’t believing it.

Like you know I was educate all my life like Jehová Witness and all my family also. We always went at church meetings and I met Paco (my ex) when we was 21 and we got promise be marry whit each other.
We went out together and to church meetand (I thinked anyway – stupid me) we were very very loving each other like total perfect ypu what I mean?

We look for house first. This were last year. We decide to use estate agents for start show us houses – we finded a apartament in the end we like and when Paco go to finalizate deal with estate agent when I were working one day.

That day work were slow and boreing and my boss let me to go see the house and finalizate deal so I could give him surprise and be happy ever after together so I decide go whit the key I had be given and be there when deal finalizate and when I get to house to give him the surprise IT WAS HE WHO GAVE ME ONE!

I find my Paco…¡Dios!...in compromise position* with big chesty blonde agent.

(*In a room whit no clothes and doing the’ ñaca ñaca’).

Imagine my ‘ARRGGGHGH’ and ‘GRRrrrrrrrrrrr’ and ‘I kkill you and make you eunuch!!!!!!’Is only natural no? Rest of scene very ugly so…
So I go crazy and lucky for Paco there no rusty breadknife in apartment. Anyways I leaved and went talk whit my sisters Angustias and Montse.

I don’t answered his calls. He don’t went at my house either – scared from us, especially me.

After, when I speak whit father of Paco (church elder) he say whole thing my fault!!! He insinuate because I not give Paco some ‘feminine attentions’ and keep him happy and interested in loving me that THIS was the reason that Paco go look for other ‘attentions’.!!

I don’t killed or castrate this Paco’s father but I were very angry. Is natural this. My grandfather want to cut him off the bollocks too.

This was moment I realise this witness of Jehová is all lies because all people agree with the Paco’s father instead of condemate Pacos’s infidelity!

I spended many months in a spiritual desert and sleeping myself crying in the nights and asking God the Lord in Heavens Above why and why why why. I losed a lot of weight – I’m 1metre 75 tall, 60 kg and my weight falled to 50kg, I was like a stick with chest bumps and head my grandmother said me this a lot.

Anyway, thanks to a friend Trini (María de la Santísima Trinidad – near like my name whit out the Juana part so we call her Trini or Mari Trini) and I find out of Baptist Church she said I should looked for this on internet and I discover KJV so this convenced me for look for the sign and I came here. And Jesus came on me when I finded this Landover Church I think, or at the least it felt like that.

Problem I have is that I remember all the thing Paco try with me for get ‘attentions’ and howI think or realise NOW the times he was really trying get me to make triqui triqui and ñaca-ñaca with him etc (I’m too ashamed to talk about) but it make me think that Paco just like all Spanish men and be obsesionated with the sex all time and the sex at the morning and the sex at the afternoon and the sex at the night and the sex in the picnics and the sex always trying to tell me that this were ok but I don’t was so stupid thanks God.

My question is: were I in right to be chaste pure girl and think in Jesus and not be slave to the sex-obsesionate Paco and be pure and virgin before I marry with man of my dreams?

- Were Paco’s infidelitys (I later discover there was many many like at the least 15 other girls he did ñaca-ñaca whit) a sign of his weakness and sin and God will punish him?
- Or was the infidelity MY fault like said the false crsitians of Paco’s Jehova Witness father and congregation?
- I am the victim surely? I keeped myself the virginity and purity as clean as the snow and pure and I am still a virgin but Paco was the promiscuous monkey-pig, no?

I would like some reassurancings on this things because I can’t get this out of my head even though I am accepting Jesus and the KJV1611as True Cristian girl.

Thankings in advance,

Please help me clear this right up me, YIC,Mari Juana

[Sophia Chipman]

Re: My EX-faincé's infidelities MY FAULT?! Surely NOT?!

Hello all,

I ask you this cos I'm no see this nothing like the bad tonguers of my ex-church (Jehová Witness, like my ex-fiancé and my family) have been spread rumors and wrong gossips saying that...well, let me esplain from the estart.

Ok, I feel I am ready to share with you my bad esperience with my ex-fiancé that were promise to be marry whit me.

This was near 1 year ago when my world came downwards onto me and was like wow! a huge disaster what I just couldn’t believing it.

Like you know I was educate all my life like Jehová Witness and all my family also. We always went at church meetings and I met Paco (my ex) when we was 21 and we got promise be marry whit each other.
We went out together and to church meetand (I thinked anyway – stupid me) we were very very loving each other like total perfect ypu what I mean?

We look for house first. This were last year. We decide to use estate agents for start show us houses – we finded a apartament in the end we like and when Paco go to finalizate deal with estate agent when I were working one day.

That day work were slow and boreing and my boss let me to go see the house and finalizate deal so I could give him surprise and be happy ever after together so I decide go whit the key I had be given and be there when deal finalizate and when I get to house to give him the surprise IT WAS HE WHO GAVE ME ONE!

I find my Paco…¡Dios!...in compromise position* with big chesty blonde agent.

(*In a room whit no clothes and doing the’ ñaca ñaca’).

Imagine my ‘ARRGGGHGH’ and ‘GRRrrrrrrrrrrr’ and ‘I kkill you and make you eunuch!!!!!!’Is only natural no? Rest of scene very ugly so…
So I go crazy and lucky for Paco there no rusty breadknife in apartment. Anyways I leaved and went talk whit my sisters Angustias and Montse.

I don’t answered his calls. He don’t went at my house either – scared from us, especially me.

After, when I speak whit father of Paco (church elder) he say whole thing my fault!!! He insinuate because I not give Paco some ‘feminine attentions’ and keep him happy and interested in loving me that THIS was the reason that Paco go look for other ‘attentions’.!!

I don’t killed or castrate this Paco’s father but I were very angry. Is natural this. My grandfather want to cut him off the bollocks too.

This was moment I realise this witness of Jehová is all lies because all people agree with the Paco’s father instead of condemate Pacos’s infidelity!

I spended many months in a spiritual desert and sleeping myself crying in the nights and asking God the Lord in Heavens Above why and why why why. I losed a lot of weight – I’m 1metre 75 tall, 60 kg and my weight falled to 50kg, I was like a stick with chest bumps and head my grandmother said me this a lot.

Anyway, thanks to a friend Trini (María de la Santísima Trinidad – near like my name whit out the Juana part so we call her Trini or Mari Trini) and I find out of Baptist Church she said I should looked for this on internet and I discover KJV so this convenced me for look for the sign and I came here. And Jesus came on me when I finded this Landover Church I think, or at the least it felt like that.

Problem I have is that I remember all the thing Paco try with me for get ‘attentions’ and howI think or realise NOW the times he was really trying get me to make triqui triqui and ñaca-ñaca with him etc (I’m too ashamed to talk about) but it make me think that Paco just like all Spanish men and be obsesionated with the sex all time and the sex at the morning and the sex at the afternoon and the sex at the night and the sex in the picnics and the sex always trying to tell me that this were ok but I don’t was so stupid thanks God.

My question is: were I in right to be chaste pure girl and think in Jesus and not be slave to the sex-obsesionate Paco and be pure and virgin before I marry with man of my dreams?

- Were Paco’s infidelitys (I later discover there was many many like at the least 15 other girls he did ñaca-ñaca whit) a sign of his weakness and sin and God will punish him?
- Or was the infidelity MY fault like said the false crsitians of Paco’s Jehova Witness father and congregation?
- I am the victim surely? I keeped myself the virginity and purity as clean as the snow and pure and I am still a virgin but Paco was the promiscuous monkey-pig, no?

I would like some reassurancings on this things because I can’t get this out of my head even though I am accepting Jesus and the KJV1611as True Cristian girl.

Thankings in advance,

Please help me clear this right up me, YIC,Mari Juana

Hm.. maybe you shouldn't have gotten engaged with him then...

[Rev. M. Rodimer]

Re: My EX-faincé's infidelities MY FAULT?! Surely NOT?!

Mari, it's a good thing that you saved your virginity for your wedding night. However, there is nothing in the Bible that says a man has to be a virgin on his wedding night . . . In fact, seeing as he was not yet married, Paco did not commit adultery (unless one of the women was married, of course). He did fornicate, which is a sin, but is not a valid reason for a woman to reject a man (unless they are married, in which case it becomes adultery).

HOWEVER . . . Paco was a Jehovah's Witless. Had you married him, you might never have come to Jesus! So, you now have the chance to be Saved(c) instead of burning in Hell for all eternity.

Seems some good came from your temper after all!

[María Gálvez-Villalobos]

Re: My EX-faincé's infidelities MY FAULT?! Surely NOT?!

Mari, it's a good thing that you saved your virginity for your wedding night. However, there is nothing in the Bible that says a man has to be a virgin on his wedding night . . . In fact, seeing as he was not yet married, Paco did not commit adultery (unless one of the women was married, of course). He did fornicate, which is a sin, but is not a valid reason for a woman to reject a man (unless they are married, in which case it becomes adultery).

HOWEVER . . . Paco was a Jehovah's Witless. Had you married him, you might never have come to Jesus! So, you now have the chance to be Saved© instead of burning in Hell for all eternity.

Seems some good came from your temper after all!

Praise at the Lord Mr Rodimer! Is true this!!!

But Paco is still a pig in anybody's book I'm think.

YIC, Mari.

[JustGotSaved]

Re: My EX-faincé's infidelities MY FAULT?! Surely NOT?!

Mary, you saw a naked man? His epeenis? Your Eyes! You have carnal knowledge of Paco's pico?! I hate to think that you've been so spoiled and have had such a thing right there in front of you and not in a photo (which is bad enough of course).


I'd have to ask a pastor but doesn't that mean you have to marry him anyway?

[María Gálvez-Villalobos]

Re: My EX-faincé's infidelities MY FAULT?! Surely NOT?!

Mary, you saw a naked man? His epeenis? Your Eyes! You have carnal knowledge of Paco's pico?! I hate to think that you've been so spoiled and have had such a thing right there in front of you and not in a photo (which is bad enough of course).


I'd have to ask a pastor but doesn't that mean you have to marry him anyway?

Well I've saw nudist beaches before that Paco took me there 'by accidental' so is no shock really, and remember I went at school in normal school and we done biology and also Spain is a sex-obsesionate country anyway, so the magazines and some TV estations etc...so I know how the 'pichurri' should look.

But Paco protected his 'packet' whit the sheets and runned onto the bathroom while I attacked the harlot whore and chase her out house before I leaved crying.

So having saw a 'pichurri' was no part of the escene.

YIC, Mari.

[James Hutchins]

Re: My EX-faincé's infidelities MY FAULT?! Surely NOT?!

Perhaps your pie was left sitting in the sun too long? Maybe it tastes too sour? Too crusty?
A man does not see other womem unless something you did forced him. Try to win him back. Beg him to forgive you.

[Rev. M. Rodimer]

Re: My EX-faincé's infidelities MY FAULT?! Surely NOT?!

Perhaps your pie was left sitting in the sun too long? Maybe it tastes too sour? Too crusty?
A man does not see other womem unless something you did forced him. Try to win him back. Beg him to forgive you.

Pssst . . . Paco is a Jehovah's Witless.

[María Gálvez-Villalobos]

Re: My EX-faincé's infidelities MY FAULT?! Surely NOT?!

Pssst . . . Paco is a Jehovah's Witless.

Exactly! I wouldn't touch another Jehova Wtiness whit a big long stick what farmers use for unblock the drains of the cow's shed. No even if you payed to me!

I'm looking for good virtuous Cristian man.

YIC, Mari.

[wait_what]

Re: My EX-faincé's infidelities MY FAULT?! Surely NOT?!

This is definitely no fault of your own. You are lucky to be rid of that heathen.

While, as has been mentioned, you are not to blame it is not his offense against you. You were not his wife, therefore his sin is between him and God only.

Now, sister, I would recommend learning English well enough that a good TC man can find you attractive enough to wed. Then and only then will the goodness of your decision to deny Paco your virtue be fully realized.

[María Gálvez-Villalobos]

Re: My EX-faincé's infidelities MY FAULT?! Surely NOT?!

This is definitely no fault of your own. You are lucky to be rid of that heathen.

While, as has been mentioned, you are not to blame it is not his offense against you. You were not his wife, therefore his sin is between him and God only.

Now, sister, I would recommend learning English well enough that a good TC man can find you attractive enough to wed. Then and only then will the goodness of your decision to deny Paco your virtue be fully realized.

Thank you Mr WW - like you can to see, my english is improve a lot lastly so I think I'm in the way to the right track.

YIC, Mari.

[wait_what]

Re: My EX-faincé's infidelities MY FAULT?! Surely NOT?!

Thank you Mr WW - like you can to see, my english is improve a lot lastly so I think I'm in the way to the right track.

YIC, Mari.

Your American is getting a bit better. If you ever need to speak in your native tongue, I would be happy to help you. I speak Spanish fluently. Have you read your KJV 1611 cover to cover yet?