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  • #1

    Wife Has Cancer: Do I Have to Wait for Her to Die Before I Get a New One?

    Sad news, friends.

    Rebekah has been diagnosed with breast cancer, and despite my most fervent prayers, it seems that God still wants to call her home. We're even getting desperate enough to consider secular cancer treatments.

    The thing is, I am still a relatively young man, barely into my 30s. I only have five sons so far, hardly what one could consider to be a full quiver (Psalm 127:3-5). I have been frequenting chatrooms for Quiverfull Singles the last several weeks so that there is as little downtime as possible if/when Jesus finally calls my helpmeet of nine years to Heaven. And I have at least two prospective replacements lined up.

    I have been praying over this and reading the Scriptures, and it seems that as long as I can afford both their upkeep, I would be able to take on another wife under Biblical Law.

    Exodus 21:10
    If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.

    Really, the only thing I can see that is standing in my way is secular law (Hebrews 13:17). However, I have been reading lately about how Newt Gingrich handled two similar situations: When Newt's first wife got cancer, Newt handed her divorce papers in the hospital. When Newt's second wife was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, Newt showed her the door. What I have learned from Brother Newt's example is that sick wives are like crippled packhorses - absolutely useless dead weight.

    While grateful for my helpmeet's years of service, having me wait around for her to die or recover before going on to sire new Soldiers for Christ is simply not fair to me. Even if she makes it, waiting around for a year or two while she gets better is one or two fewer sons I will have a chance to make in my life.

    Jesus tells us that we can only divorce our wives in the case of adultery (Matthew 5:32). I would like to start grooming a prospective new helpmeet, but I cannot see a path forward while honoring God's commandments to obey secular law while only divorcing in the case of adultery.

    What should I do?
    II Thessalonians 1:7-9
    And to you who are troubled rest with us, when the Lord Jesus shall be revealed from heaven with his mighty angels,
    In flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God, and that obey not the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ:
    Who shall be punished with everlasting destruction from the presence of the Lord, and from the glory of his power
    The man who is being progressively sanctified will inescapably sanctify his home, school, politics, economics, science, and all things else by understanding and interpreting all things in terms of the Word of God and by bringing all things under the Dominion of Christ the King. -R.J. Rushdoony
    Tags: breast cancer, christian morality, helpmeet, quiverfull, sick wife
  • #2
    Re: Wife Has Cancer: Do I Have to Wait for Her to Die Before I Get a New One?

    Originally posted by Jedediah View Post
    What should I do?
    Well friend, far be it from me to offer advice, seeing as I'm simply a woman, and a simple one at that, but if your wife is a True Christian™ woman surely she won't have any problems preparing your children for their new mommy and the new siblings she's sure to bring you. Perhaps while your sickly wife still has energy she could show your new fiance your favorite pie recipe and how you like it served. May God bless you finding a new, younger, and healthier wife soon!
    Hello, my name is Mary. I hope to fellowship with you! That is, unless you don't listen to church authority (Deuteronomy 17:12); are a witch (Exodus 22:17); are a homosexual (Leviticus 20:13; Romans 1:24-32); or fortuneteller (Leviticus 20:27) or a snotty kid who hits their dad (Exodus 21:15); or curses their parents (Proverbs 20:20; Leviticus 20:9); an adulterer (Leviticus 20:10); a non-Christian (Exodus 22:19; Deuteronomy 13:7-12; Deuteronomy 17:2-5;Romans 1:24-32); an atheist (2 Chronicles 15:12-13); or false prophet (Zechariah 13:3); from the town of one who worships another, false god (Deuteronomy 13:13-19); were a non-virgin bride (Deuteronomy 22:20-21); or blasphemer (Leviticus 24:10-16), as God calls for your execution and will no doubt send you to Hell, and I have no interest developing a friendship with the Spiritually Walking Dead.

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    • #3
      Re: Wife Has Cancer: Do I Have to Wait for Her to Die Before I Get a New One?

      She's used up, time to move on and find a younger, healthier model.
      Who Will Jesus Damn?

      Here is a partial list from just a few scripture verses:

      Hypocrites (Matthew 24:51), The Unforgiving (Mark 11:26), Homosexuals (Romans 1:26, 27), Fornicators (Romans 1:29), The Wicked (Romans 1:29), The Covetous (Romans 1:29), The Malicious (Romans 1:29), The Envious (Romans 1:29), Murderers (Romans 1:29), The Deceitful (Romans 1:29), Backbiters (Romans 1:30), Haters of God (Romans 1:30), The Despiteful (Romans 1:30), The Proud (Romans 1:30), Boasters (Romans 1:30), Inventors of evil (Romans 1:30), Disobedient to parents (Romans 1:30), Covenant breakers (Romans 1:31), The Unmerciful (Romans 1:31), The Implacable (Romans 1:31), The Unrighteous (1Corinthians 6:9), Idolaters (1Corinthians 6:9), Adulterers (1Corinthians 6:9), The Effeminate (1Corinthians 6:9), Thieves (1Corinthians 6:10), Drunkards (1Corinthians 6:10), Reviler (1Corinthians 6:10), Extortioners (1Corinthians 6:10), The Fearful (Revelation 21:8), The Unbelieving (Revelation 21:8), The Abominable (Revelation 21:8), Whoremongers (Revelation 21:8), Sorcerers (Revelation 21:8), All Liars (Revelation 21:8)

      Need Pastoral Advice? Contact me privately at PastorEzekiel@landoverbaptist.net TODAY!!

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      • #4
        Re: Wife Has Cancer: Do I Have to Wait for Her to Die Before I Get a New One?

        Do like Newt Gingrich and find a new one!

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        • #5
          Re: Wife Has Cancer: Do I Have to Wait for Her to Die Before I Get a New One?

          Brother, I like to think about woman as I do about cars. When they are used up, or develop expensive faults, you go to the showroom to pick the next one.

          I understand your dilemma re: Hebrews 13:17, but I don't think that verse should keep you from weighing your options and do a bit of tire-kicking.

          Sure, you might try to get your current wife pregnant again, but a) there's no guarantee that she'll make it and b) it would - you'll always see - probably be a baby-girl.

          Talk about time wasters...

          I think both God and the KJV are on your side here. Sure, you might have to postpone the new marriage until your current wife goes to heaven passes away, but I would make sure that you can remarry the next day.

          Good luck Brother!
          Psalm 81:10:
          I am the LORD thy God, which brought thee out of the land of Egypt:
          open thy mouth wide, and I will fill it.

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          • #6
            Re: Wife Has Cancer: Do I Have to Wait for Her to Die Before I Get a New One?

            I have considered going ahead and getting her pregnant again. I figure they can hook her up to one of those Terry Schaivo machines at least until the baby comes to term. And at that point, we could let nature run its course and I could trade her in.

            My problem there is that I'm worried the boy (I only make sons) would come out retarded with the AIDS. I'm raising a Christian household, and there is no room for abominations under my roof.

            I'm thinking about going ahead and lining up bornagain_gurl1992 to move in with us and learn how to do the chores, have my dinner ready at 5:30pm every day, change the diapers, and whatnot. Maybe we can even coordinate the wedding and the funeral into one event. I'll check with the Pastors about that.

            I guess I'd still have to wait until after the wedding to get her pregnant though, right?
            II Thessalonians 1:7-9
            And to you who are troubled rest with us, when the Lord Jesus shall be revealed from heaven with his mighty angels,
            In flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God, and that obey not the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ:
            Who shall be punished with everlasting destruction from the presence of the Lord, and from the glory of his power
            The man who is being progressively sanctified will inescapably sanctify his home, school, politics, economics, science, and all things else by understanding and interpreting all things in terms of the Word of God and by bringing all things under the Dominion of Christ the King. -R.J. Rushdoony

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            • #7
              Re: Wife Has Cancer: Do I Have to Wait for Her to Die Before I Get a New One?

              Originally posted by Jedediah View Post
              I guess I'd still have to wait until after the wedding to get her pregnant though, right?
              Brother, I would make sure that any act of sexual reproduction is registered with the government in the form of a marriage license before the fact. Maybe if we keep the bureaucracy busy worrying about our sex lives, they will forget to tax the top 1%, keeping us the richest nation in the world.
              The Only Real Climate Change Will be Hell!

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              • #8
                Re: Wife Has Cancer: Do I Have to Wait for Her to Die Before I Get a New One?

                Even though your wife has breast cancer, telling her to consider secular treatments is just like putting your hand in GOD's face and proclaiming:
                "Sorry GOD, but you're wrong , and I don't think my wife should die".
                Whatever you do, don't let yourself be bullied by your wife into letting her see a Doctor. She'll insist on it, but don't give in, lock her away until the cancer consumes her. GOD wants her dead, he has gifted her the cancer, and it would be inhumane of you to stop her going to Heaven.



                Just my two cents. Once she's dead, get straight back out there big man, there's plenty more fish in the sea.
                6
                A woman came up to me the other day, 12/6/2016 and said:
                "But Mr. Winner, if GOD loves everyone then why is there so much suffering in the world?"

                Because GOD doesn't love everyone. Too many people have this absurd idea in their heads that GOD is all loving.
                If he was all loving, then murderers, thieves and homosexuals would be waiting for you in Heaven.

                GOD doesn't open his gate to just anyone. Being a True Christian™ is like a Queue Jump ticket at Disney, we are guaranteed a ride with JESUS.

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                • #9
                  Re: Wife Has Cancer: Do I Have to Wait for Her to Die Before I Get a New One?

                  Originally posted by Jedediah View Post

                  My problem there is that I'm worried the boy (I only make sons) would come out retarded with the AIDS.
                  I guess you came out retarded if that's how you think you catch the AIDS fool. Everyone knows you can only catch Aids from toilet seats that satan has sat on with his foul decrepid poo hole.
                  Psalm 14:1 The fool hath said in his heart, There is no God. They are corrupt, they have done
                  abominable works, there is none that doeth good.

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                  • #10
                    Re: Wife Has Cancer: Do I Have to Wait for Her to Die Before I Get a New One?

                    Originally posted by dicker View Post
                    I guess you came out retarded if that's how you think you catch the AIDS fool. Everyone knows you can only catch Aids from toilet seats that satan has sat on with his foul decrepid poo hole.
                    You think this because... this is the excuse your mother gave you?

                    Son, making up lies like you do do not fool Gd one Iota. He is well aware of the details of your sordid life. It rains because baby Jesus weeps for your soul.
                    Isaiah 45:7 I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the LORD do all these things.
                    Amos 3:6 Shall a trumpet be blown in the city, and the people not be afraid? shall there be evil in a city, and the LORD hath not done it?
                    Numbers 21:6 And the LORD sent fiery serpents among the people, and they bit the people; and much people of Israel died.
                    Matthew 10:34 Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword.
                    Matthew 10:35 For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.
                    Matthew 10:36 And a man's foes shall be they of his own household.

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                    • #11
                      Re: Wife Has Cancer: Do I Have to Wait for Her to Die Before I Get a New One?

                      Originally posted by dicker View Post
                      Everyone knows you can only catch Aids from toilet seats that satan has sat on with his foul decrepid poo hole.
                      I have no idea about your toilet habits, but I rarely touch toilet seats with my anus. I doubt that Satan has much different way of taking care of his business. However, you are not too much off there. One way you can get AIDS is by touching gaysexual person, or something gaysexual person has touched, so you really can get AIDS from public toilet.

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                      • #12
                        Re: Wife Has Cancer: Do I Have to Wait for Her to Die Before I Get a New One?

                        Brother Jed, I know now is a difficult time with you having to plan both a wedding and a funeral, but I hope we can get together for a prayer breakfast some time.
                        Christians are superior because we possess an understanding that unbelievers lack. It is through the Power of Jesus only the converted mind is able to understand what is going on in the world; what the Communists are really up to; what Satan's intentions are. Most unbelievers do not even believe in Satan and cannot understand his tactics.


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