Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

[Faith_Machine]

If you're like most True Christian™ parents, you don't allow your daughter to date at all. That safeguard, of course, is intended to prevent your daughter from fornicating with boys.*

It never occurred to me, however, that dating within the sanctity of the family unit might be permissible, and perhaps even serve as a healthy outlet for the energy your daughter might otherwise expend on trying to "hook up" with males she is not related to.

I got this revelation today from reading a conversation currently taking place on Dr. Laura Schlesinger's Facebook page:



You can join the conversation here:

Dr. Laura's Facebook

Now, obviously, Dr. Laura is still in her pre-perfected, pre-Christian state, but that lady has a solid understanding of Old Testament law, and I have a strong feeling she will soon blossom into belief in our Lord, much as a butterfly inevitably emerges from a cocoon.

Just the same, I would be very interested to hear your opinions on whether daddy/daughter dating is based on sound Biblical principles.

I am a bit concerned that many of Dr. Laura's respondents seem to think it's a great idea for fathers to repeatedly tell their daughters how beautiful and special they are. The Bible does prescribe a very different kind of training:

Proverbs 31:30

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

Dads, I'd be especially interested in hearing from you regarding your idea of the perfect date: If you were to take your daughter out on a date, how would you go about filling the evening with activities and experiences which specifically teach her to fear the Lord?




*Naturally, several hours of farm work will also accomplish this goal, but in these post-agrarian, post-industrial times, how many families live on or near a farm?

[Jedediah]

Re: Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

While I do like the idea of keeping children from forming extra-familial relationships with people their own age, I am concerned that being too nice to a daughter would get in the way of cultivating the intra-familial hatred that Jesus preached.

Luke 14:26
If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.

Instead of telling daughters how beautiful and special they are, perhaps fathers could use the occasion to belittle them and reinforce their innate worthlessness that can only be corrected through faith in Christ.

[Faith_Machine]

Re: Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

That's a good point, Jedediah!

I'm kind of surprised nobody else has chimed in. Landover dads, I'm really very interested in having each of you design your ideal daddy/daughter date! Where would you take her, and what would you do during this special evening to really drive home the message that she is to fear the LORD?

[Rev. M. Rodimer]

Re: Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

Instead of telling daughters how beautiful and special they are, perhaps fathers could use the occasion to belittle them and reinforce their innate worthlessness that can only be corrected through faith in Christ.

Brother, that's an excellent point. It would help the young lady to learn her place, so she wouldn't try to place inappropriate demands upon her future husband.

[Faith_Machine]

Re: Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

Do you have a daughter, Reverend Rodimer? What kind of date would you take her on in order to instill in her a proper fear of the Lord?

[Rev. M. Rodimer]

Re: Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

Do you have a daughter, Reverend Rodimer? What kind of date would you take her on in order to instill in her a proper fear of the Lord?

I've never married, Brother FM, and have never fornicated, so I'm reasonably certain that I have no daughters. I do have two nieces, however, and often have them over individually for "Uncle RevRod" nights!

In a typical evening, the niece in question will prepare a nice dinner for me; tell me how she's doing at school; practice light conversation -- you know, ask how my day was, see what sort of things I want from the store, what kind of pie I'd like her to make that night for the next day -- and she will read the Bible aloud for me. She'll also usually play piano and maybe sing hymns for Jesus. (One's singing will send you to Heaven! The other . . . well, it's a "joyful noise", for sure.)

After dinner and dessert, she'll clean up and demonstrate her housekeeping skills. Sometimes, I'll have her practice mending (darning socks, that sort of thing).

It's like my very own Home Economics course for each of my nieces. I want them to have happy marriages, and all this practice should be a great help to them!

I may be spoiling them a bit, but that's what uncles are for, isn't it?

[Faith_Machine]

Re: Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

Oh, that sounds very nice! I'll bet they look forward to it all week.

Do you think either of them gets jealous of the other when it's not her night to be visiting with you? Maybe you could avoid this by entertaining both of them at the same time?

[Deaner]

Re: Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

While the secular community would obviously turn this type of discussion into a sexual, fornicating, slimy, greasy, germ infested conversation; it is obvious they are missing the point.

What a father needs to teach his daughter is submissiveness, obedience, rubbing her daddys feet and what a well timed smack across the face means.

This is Christianity, this is love... this is what we are meant to be as fathers. We are not to be viewed as some sperm filled monsters lusting after the firm young bodies of our daughters. This is an outrage.

We must learn and also teach the secular perverts that a firm smack across our daughters firm buttocks over and over and over again until they are nice and red is what Christianity is all about. Not some sex induced thought process brought on by satan. May God grant strength to us all in these matters.

[TheLordSavedMe]

Re: Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

I wish my Daddy would've spent more time with me sober. And my stupid Mom's boyfriend was such a jerk and a pervert!

If I had a True Christian(tm) Daddy, I'm sure I would've been saved waaaaaaaaay sooner!









Tammi

[Mary Etheldreda]

Re: Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

I'm confused. Why would a Daddy go on a "date" with his daughter in preparation of marriage?

My husband never takes me out.

Preparation is more helpful when it includes such skills as how to sort laundry, how to stretch a dollar, how to clean the grout between the tiles and how to keep the bathroom from smelling like urine.

[Deaner]

Re: Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

I wish my Daddy would've spent more time with me sober. And my stupid Mom's boyfriend was such a jerk and a pervert!

If I had a True Christian™ Daddy, I'm sure I would've been saved waaaaaaaaay sooner!


Tammi

My soul weeps at the treatment you have received Sister Tammi.

Being sober is the only way you can feel the powerfull gushing of the Lord's love spewing thru your insides as your Daddy whispers your Saviour's sweet love in your ear.

The length and magnitude of His love as you are gently carressed and prodded is the only thing that can bring that sweet safety you deserve and that our Lord has professed for you.

I am on my knees praying the our Sweet Baby Jesus may only bring you to this glorious salvation and healing which can only be experienced thru a daughter and her Daddy. My prayers are with you sweet child. God bless.

Your servant in Christ;

Deaner

[Faith_Machine]

Re: Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

I'm confused. Why would a Daddy go on a "date" with his daughter in preparation of marriage?

My husband never takes me out.

Preparation is more helpful when it includes such skills as how to sort laundry, how to stretch a dollar, how to clean the grout between the tiles and how to keep the bathroom from smelling like urine.

That last one's simple: Instead of leaving the toilet seat down, and thus enabling girls to never develop proper pee control, you have to remove the toilet seat altogether. This is the only way of making sure they'll learn how to to control their urine stream while properly hovering over a toilet.

No man wants a bride who's going to turn into a screaming shrew the minute he forgets to put the toilet seat down; he wants a wife who knows how to quietly play the bathroom cards she's been dealt, and not make a puddly mess in the process.

[Deaner]

Re: Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

I'm confused. Why would a Daddy go on a "date" with his daughter in preparation of marriage?

My husband never takes me out.

Preparation is more helpful when it includes such skills as how to sort laundry, how to stretch a dollar, how to clean the grout between the tiles and how to keep the bathroom from smelling like urine.

It is confusing isn't it Sister Mary? But dating and feeling true love from a man (like your father) helps you to feel love in doing the more mundane tasks as making the toilet not smell like urine and rubbing your Daddy's feet after a long day at work supervising the field negroes.

Jesus wants you to feel loved in everything you do. That is why He has put a man to supervise and look over you when you get frustated.

Christ does not expect a simple minded woman to understand everything which is why he created man first and created women from one of our useless rib bones.

[Mary Etheldreda]

Re: Father/daughter dating: The key to raising virtuous young ladies?

Christ does not expect a simple minded woman to understand everything which is why he created man first and created women from one of our useless rib bones.

Well it's no secret I don't understand, but clearly God doesn't want me to understand, just to trust.

And trust I shall because the Holy Bible tells me God's ways are perfect!

He is the Rock, his work is perfect: for all his ways are judgment: a God of truth and without iniquity, just and right is he.
Deuteronomy 32:4

As for God, his way is perfect: the word of the LORD is tried: he is a buckler to all those that trust in him.
Psalm 18:30

...the LORD is upright: he is my rock, and there is no unrighteousness in him.
Psalm 92:15

As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the LORD is tried: he is a buckler to all them that trust in him.
2 Samuel 22:3

(I don't know what a "buckler" is, but it must be good if God is one)

[Dr Laurence Niles]

I may be spoiling them a bit, but that's what uncles are for, isn't it?

I would suggest subtly undermining their self confidence and seeking to isolate them from their other social connections. This avoids the possibility of spoiling her and her future husband will thank you for saving him a good couple of months work

YIC
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