[FoundGirlJNB]

Re: Please help for my sin!

I mean I posted out of synch again, not that I did the act again.

Sure you did Nicole...
You and me are apparently more alike than I even thought...
Unfortunately I cannot give you useful advise on how to conquer this ordeal. Just know that I know what you are going though. And I hope you get help before you get to where I am where your own palm is no longer satisfactory!!

[Nicole1Happy]

Re: Please help for my sin!

So is it okay to actually do the act? Because it wets my hand and makes me shiver. I only use the shower and sometimes when I feel the urge I go for a shower to help cool me off but also on sometimes, I do the act. What is the fluid I experience afterwards? I only do it in my home. I don't try it elsewhere. One of the worse is in the mornings when wearing pyjamas.

And to Lostgirlny. I mostly feel a range of emotions. Really tense, nervous. It dulls during the act and it feels good at points. Afterwards it waves over in just pure guilt and shame.

[TheLordSavedMe]

Re: Please help for my sin!

Sure you did Nicole...
You and me are apparently more alike than I even thought...
Unfortunately I cannot give you useful advise on how to conquer this ordeal. Just know that I know what you are going though. And I hope you get help before you get to where I am where your own palm is no longer satisfactory!!

Wow, and I thought I was naughty! Do lots of unsaved girls do this stuff? I had no idea!

Is this the same thing as "emming"? Cuz I've heard some girls talk about emming at The Pita Pit, and I just pretended I knew what they were talking about. I thought emming was drugs or something.

Tammi

[Professor Bessemer]

Re: Please help for my sin!

So is it okay to actually do the act? Because it wets my hand and makes me shiver. I only use the shower and sometimes when I feel the urge I go for a shower to help cool me off but also on sometimes, I do the act. What is the fluid I experience afterwards? I only do it in my home. I don't try it elsewhere. One of the worse is in the mornings when wearing pyjamas.

And to Lostgirlny. I mostly feel a range of emotions. Really tense, nervous. It dulls during the act and it feels good at points. Afterwards it waves over in just pure guilt and shame.

I did not mean to suggest that it is OK to touch yourself in this way, I just thought I could spare you some time doing laundry if you are overcome by your urges.

Not to change the subject completely, but are you from outside of the United States Nicole? You seem to type with a bit of a foreign flavor. Where are you from?

As to the touching, I think you need to taper off. Stopping completely might cause your urges to build to such a state as you might be compelled to actually lose your virginity. And that would be a shame. As it is, you are still savable.

[FoundGirlJNB]

Re: Please help for my sin!

So is it okay to actually do the act? Because it wets my hand and makes me shiver.

And to Lostgirlny. I mostly feel a range of emotions. Really tense, nervous. It dulls during the act and it feels good at points. Afterwards it waves over in just pure guilt and shame.

I am not the one to say whether this is right or wrong, all I know is you are now where I was when it started for me... For me, my urges and "wetness" just got worse. I cannot explain it to you, as you will not be able to comprehend at your current state.

The dulling during the the act is normal - but do yourself a favor and try practice for this to not go away too quickly. With lots of work you will be able to last longer in this act, which in turn will give you more first hand time to decide whether what you are doing is right or wrong.

Guilt and shame is also normal, but this will either fade soon, or get less. In time to come (so to speak) you will only feel the guilt for a few minutes after the act...

I hope this was helpful to you... If you have any further questions, feel free to ask, or do whatever!!!

[Nicole1Happy]

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Ah I see. Thank you I don't want to continue with it but I understand the idea of reducing the damage. I'm originally russian blood but born in united kingdom.

I don't want to lose my virginity until the right man chooses me for marriage but I have been doing this far more when I was young. I really like the idea that I'm saveable.

Thank you Lostgirlny. That has helped put the whole act into perspective. I suppose my biggest worry of it all is when i'm going through it, I start enjoying the feeling.

[FoundGirlJNB]

Re: Please help for my sin!

my biggest worry of it all is when i'm going through it, I start enjoying the feeling.

I understand. It is a joyous experience. I agree with the rest of the good advise (we both) got here tonight. Eliminate the future consequences by learning to control it now!!!

Enjoy it! Why not! When you find yourself in a dilemma where you need more than what you know now, please please please let someone know. Like they advised, get help from a pastor or reverend!!! May I recommend the good Pastor Ezekiel??

He is helping me and even though my counseling only started recently, I can feel the growth in my soul...
Hang in there. There are people here who can help people like us!!!

[Nicole1Happy]

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Thank you so much for the nice advice. I would very much like to receive help. I'm glad i'm not alone in this. I've also been doing this for many years no and i'm concerned how deep rooted it is.

[Professor Bessemer]

Re: Please help for my sin!

I am glad I could be of help dear. Feel free to contact me or a Pastor here if you need more guidance.

[Nicole1Happy]

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I can't thank you enough for offering your time to listen and respond to me It means a lot to me and would be glad to help back if I ever could. I would really enjoy hearing some guidance on how to fully stop myself.

[Original Gothster]

Re: Please help for my sin!

Girl, nobody can stop completely. Trust me, unless you're a nun or whatever, all chicks do it. And hell, it's better than having some dude you can barely stand making a mess all over you, I'll tell you that.

It's a sin I guess, from what they all say here, but it's not like your killing babies or anything. The stuff I've done would freak you out, for sure, and I hear I can still be saved. So whatever, you diddle yourself now and then. Don't let it get you down babe, we all do it. The ones that say they don't are liars, and that's a sin too!

[Nicole1Happy]

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Thank for the kind words Orginal Gothster. I really have a fear of these acts sending me somewhere bad. I don't a hell sentence. It can be really depressing sometimes to because I just don't know what to think and I spend the day just going over it in my head and worrying. I have felt a little better hearing what has been said on the matter.

I really feel I owe you and the rest a big thanks.

[Dr. Warren Wierdsbe]

Re: Please help for my sin!

I can't thank you enough for offering your time to listen and respond to me It means a lot to me and would be glad to help back if I ever could. I would really enjoy hearing some guidance on how to fully stop myself.

Nicole,
I want to thank you for posting and being so open and honest. Really. Mary Therese and Mary Claire have pointed out to me just how much they appreciate your forthrightness and we have had a wonderful midday worship session.

In Christ,
Warren

[Nicole1Happy]

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Nicole,
I want to thank you for posting and being so open and honest. Really. Mary Therese and Mary Claire have pointed out to me just how much they appreciate your forthrightness and we have had a wonderful midday worship session.

In Christ,
Warren

I'm very glad I was able to offer some form of happiness through this

[James Hutchins]

Re: Please help for my sin!

That's very handy to know I never knew what the green blocks were. Also another question that bothers me. How much of a sin is touching myself? I know that any sin is bad but how far have I gone?

Nicole, No sinner is going to Hell if they repent well before they die. If you honestly repent (God knows when you've been naughty, he knows when you've been nice) and live a pure life, you will go to Heaven.
I have heard of people who only repented on their deathbeds. God Himself booted these false Christians downstairs.
I've heard countless stories of people who had lived horrible lives. These people repented in time and turned their life around.
Stop sinning
Read the Bible
Do whatever your Pastor tells you to do.