[OldJamaica]

Re: Discipline Of The Wife

Brothers in Christ,

This is what works for me in dealing with the wife in my Christian home. Feel free to share your methodologies and experience in the matter. Here’s my top 5:

1.) Explain the rules of the relationship, her conduct and her role in the home. God lays down His rules in the Bible and it’s only fair that we fully explain our rules to the woman. Do not leave any wiggle room for a “misunderstanding”. I find it helpful to keep a spreadsheet on my desktop and update as needed with the offense and the appropriate punishment. If she asks why we get to make the rules, resist the temptation to back hand her (for the time being) and open your KJV Bible:

1 Corinthians 11:3: "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God."

If she does not fully agree with such clear and concise scripture, a backhand is in order. Repeat until she agrees with Jesus.

2.) Choose your methods for punishment in advance so she knows exactly what she stands to lose or the level of pain associated with each category of infraction. As an example, if she makes a snotty remark that the lawn needs mowing one week and gets a kick in the behind, and the next week you simply confiscate her crossword puzzle book for the same offense, you are sending mixed messages and failing in your duty to be as clear as God’s Word.

3.) Never argue or show weakness. As we know, the woman is as crafty as the serpent and will often resist her discipline with subtle comments that only slightly irritate you. If you allow this, it will escalate into a verbal confrontation and she may provoke you to the point that you lose all control. We do NOT want this to ever happen. Instead, the second the sassmouth starts back talking, administer the appropriate punishment and put an end to it. Remind her that Jesus didn’t mince words and you won’t either.

4.) Be fair. The punishment should fit the crime. Yes, overcooking the prime rib would, at first thought, call for a belt to the face, but control your tempers Brothers. We often need a quick prayer to get His advice. A more appropriate punishment in this case might be banning her use of the telephone for the next year. But don’t be too soft either. If she takes twenty dollars of your hard earned money with your ATM card to buy a new wardrobe, the belt should come off.

5.) Have compassion. If, after the discipline, she whimpers more than two days in her closet, let her out because she obviously isn’t reading the Bible anyway. Put her in her bed and start reading the Bible from Genesis 1 again to her. Emphasize that God made Adam first, Eve from Adam, the trickery of the woman, etc. She should soon see why she got herself in such a mess.

In Christ!

How is what you're saying anything different from this ?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-Tw7WhH_aQ&feature=share

[Pastor Ezekiel]

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1 Corinthians 11:3
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

Did you not notice that you are posting in a CLEARLY MARKED section of the forum called MEN ONLY?

Please make a thread of your own in the "Introductions" section of the forum, so that we can properly greet you. Tell us about yourself, your church, and how you came to find Jesus.

And if you're here to flame us, better take a look at THIS before making an even bigger ass out of yourself.

I will pray that the Holy Spirit enter you and chase the demons out of your rectum and let Jesus fill you with His Grace. If you use your God-given free will to reject Christ and His temporary death on the cross for my sins, then you are sending yourself to hellfire.

[godluvswomen]

Re: Discipline Of The Wife

That's completely irrelevant. All that matters is how much we love God!

You say you love God huh??? What about the scripture that says to honor your wife and give yourself to her like Christ gave Himself to the church? I don't remember anywhere even in the KJV bible where Christ slapped or even condoned slapping a women, you sir need to reread the scriptures!

As for the fool who said he keeps a spreadsheet of things his wife does and the punishment allotted for each wrongdoing, ... did Jesus ever keep a spreadsheet of our sins and wrongdoings??? I think not, Jesus said I will remember their sins no more!

Do you think Jesus would slap His mother? No!!

You guys are definitely in a cult, I fear for your souls... Lord forgive them they know not what they do.

[Pastor Ezekiel]

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Please make a thread of your own in the "Introductions" section of the forum, so that we can properly greet you. Tell us about yourself, your church, and how you came to find Jesus.

And if you're here to flame us, better take a look at THIS before making an even bigger ass out of yourself.

I will pray that the Holy Spirit enter you and chase the demons out of your rectum and let Jesus fill you with His Grace. If you use your God-given free will to reject Christ and His temporary death on the cross for my sins, then you are sending yourself to hellfire.

[His slave rebecca]

Re: Discipline Of The Wife

Don't speak without permission.
Keep your looks up for your Husband.
Allow Him to marry as many wives as He wishes.
Never disagree with Him. He is wise and we are dumb.
Never enjoy intercourse and never say no to Him.
Allow Him to punish you as He sees fit. Thank Him for it after.
Have every meal on the table in time. Make sure it's warm.
Give up any financial rights you may have to Him.
Accept that you are property and can be sold, whipped etc.
Give up your daughters to your visitors.
Never leave your house unless for DIRE necessity. Life or death.
Do not watch tv. Your only entertainment should be cooking and reading the Bible. Maybe sing if your Husband allows.
What you want doesn't matter. Your sole purpose is to please your Master.
Prostrate to Him whenever He walks into a room. Crawl to Him and kiss His feet until He asks you to stop.
Offer Him your body as a means of letting Him get out His frustration on you, His servant through corporal punishment or other means.
Pray to God every day to understand the limitations of a woman and to better serve your Lords.
Understand that you have no right to anything not even your children. They are His to do with as He sees fit.
Let Him beat you in front of the children if necessary, especially to instill in His daughters and Sons the position of a woman in His house.

[Paragon of virtue]

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The best advise here!!!!!!
Never ever strike anyone, unless in self defence or to defend the vulnerable. Not only is it a disgraceful cowardly act, but completely illegal. If you want someone to obey your Christian rules, then ask her if she will accept, accept her as your equal and if she can't obey your said rules, respect her decision, if you cant live with her unless she obeys then the relationship won't work. But for "gods" sake don't beat anyone. Please!!!!

[Pastor Ezekiel]

Re: Discipline Of The Wife

The best advise here!!!!!!
Never ever strike anyone, unless in self defence or to defend the vulnerable. Not only is it a disgraceful cowardly act, but completely illegal. If you want someone to obey your Christian rules, then ask her if she will accept, accept her as your equal and if she can't obey your said rules, respect her decision, if you cant live with her unless she obeys then the relationship won't work. But for "gods" sake don't beat anyone. Please!!!!

That's not what God says.

Prov 20:30 The blueness of a wound cleanseth away evil: so do stripes the inward parts of the belly.

[Eddie James]

Re: Discipline Of The Wife

The best advise here!!!!!!
Never ever strike anyone, unless in self defence or to defend the vulnerable. Not only is it a disgraceful cowardly act, but completely illegal. If you want someone to obey your Christian rules, then ask her if she will accept, accept her as your equal and if she can't obey your said rules, respect her decision, if you cant live with her unless she obeys then the relationship won't work. But for "gods" sake don't beat anyone. Please!!!!

[Seth Campbell]

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there are sites all over the net for this..just type implements for discipline in the search engine implements of discipline as lite as spanking to as heavy as sadism will pop up..take your pick, explore, choose and order all kinds of pain giving implements..i'm sure your wife will be thrilled..

WHAT PART OF MENS ONLY SECTION DO YOU MISUNDERSTAND YOU SICK LITTLE PERVERT!

[janet the skanky slut]

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there are sites all over the net for this..just type implements for discipline in the search engine implements of discipline as lite as spanking to as heavy as sadism will pop up..take your pick, explore, choose and order all kinds of pain giving implements..i'm sure your wife will be thrilled..

[Jackson Lockwood.III]

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Beating your wife does not show love. Hurting anyone actually is the opposite of love. And God teaches that husbands should love their wives and to put their wife's life before his own.

A woman is not a man's property.

I honestly hope and pray to God above that nothing as weak, pathetic, spineless and sickeningly inane as you is ever birthed from one of my wives. (long story not explaining it here)

The Spartans....they had the right idea about weeding out the sick, weak, stupid and unfit early.
In short--you.

[James Hutchins]

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Now what kind of a question is that? You do have your handbook, the KJV 1611 Bible, what does it say?

It is clear, the rod must be strong enough to draw blood as we see here in Exodus:

Exodus 7:19
And the LORD spake unto Moses, Say unto Aaron, Take thy rod, and stretch out thine hand upon the waters of Egypt, upon their streams, upon their rivers, and upon their ponds, and upon all their pools of water, that they may become blood; and that there may be blood throughout all the land of Egypt, both in vessels of wood, and in vessels of stone.

But God does not define what we should use. Not yet anyways.

In Jeremiah, God suggests the branch of an almond tree

Jeremiah 1:11
Moreover the word of the LORD came unto me, saying, Jeremiah, what seest thou? And I said, I see a rod of an almond tree.

I do not know about you, but they are really quite soft and more suitable for a boy to use on a girl when courting.

God realizes how soft almond branches are and refines the thought somewhat in Genesis:

Genesis 30:37
And Jacob took him rods of green poplar, and of the hazel and chestnut tree; and pilled white strakes in them, and made the white appear which was in the rods.

Now, green poplar does not break but it is a soft wood, really more suited towards infants and small children. Now we are getting somewhere!

In Ezekiel, God realizes the branches from nut trees may not work:

Ezekiel 19:12
But she was plucked up in fury, she was cast down to the ground, and the east wind dried up her fruit: her strong rods were broken and withered; the fire consumed them.

Obviously wood does not last and what if the wife sets the kitchen on fire and your rod is in there. Such a quandary!

In Numbers, you can see God intends your rod to be strong enough to destroy stone:

Number 20:11
And Moses lifted up his hand, and with his rod he smote the rock twice: and the water came out abundantly, and the congregation drank, and their beasts also.

But God does not define the material. Did He expect us to guess what material was strong enough to crush stone?

In calming Psalm God gives a good hint:

Pslam 2:9
Thou shalt break them with a rod of iron; thou shalt dash them in pieces like a potter's vessel.

Ah, 'Iron', maybe that is what we need!

In Relevation, God 'nails it down with these two fine passages:

Relevation 19:15
And out of his mouth goeth a sharp sword, that with it he should smite the nations: and he shall rule them with a rod of iron: and he treadeth the winepress of the fierceness and wrath of Almighty God.
Relevation 2:27
And he shall rule them with a rod of iron; as the vessels of a potter shall they be broken to shivers: even as I received of my Father.

Well that settles it, the rod should be made of iron. See how simple God makes it? Now like most men, I really enjoy holdng on to my rod, swinging it about with a firm grip.

Here are a few fancy ones if you are one of those people that likes to put on airs:


I am a simple man, here is a picture of mine near my front door.

[New Creation (Recalcitrant)]

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If she does not seem 110% repentant, then the problem is you, not her. You have a responsibility to ensure she fully agrees with your statement of the error of her ways. It does not matter if she thinks was is right, it only matters what you think. She must arrive at the point where all she can blubber is 'I am so sorry' or falls asleep/passes out.
Keep in mind too, you will not find out about all her transgressions. I find it handy to wake my wife from a sound sleep and scream "How dare you!!!" and work with her until I get an apology. You may not account for all the missed times but at least she'll realize she cannot get away with them.

The bottom line is, get involved with her life, share, show that you care. It is the corner stone of a solid marriage.

Great advice. Currently, I discipline my wife with my belt, and occassionally, my hand. Do you know who I could go to about advice on the best discipline devices or spanking rods?

[James Hutchins]

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That makes sense- if I don't know she's truly repentant I can't really forgive her. Thanks James.

If she does not seem 110% repentant, then the problem is you, not her. You have a responsibility to ensure she fully agrees with your statement of the error of her ways. It does not matter if she thinks was is right, it only matters what you think. She must arrive at the point where all she can blubber is 'I am so sorry' or falls asleep/passes out.
Keep in mind too, you will not find out about all her transgressions. I find it handy to wake my wife from a sound sleep and scream "How dare you!!!" and work with her until I get an apology. You may not account for all the missed times but at least she'll realize she cannot get away with them.

The bottom line is, get involved with her life, share, show that you care. It is the corner stone of a solid marriage.

[New Creation (Recalcitrant)]

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""Spare the rod, spoil the child."

No, by correcting you are showing your loved one you really care. Words flow in one ear and out the other, especially if it is a female. A good bruise lasts for weeks.
I feel if she accepts her correction, she may have earned some forgiveness. If I provide forgiveness, it is after the weeping has ceased and the problem 100% rectified. If she is being especially ornery, I might consolidate all the incidents and multiple corrections, following up with a single forgiveness, say at the end of the month. A man only has so much energy.

That makes sense- if I don't know she's truly repentant I can't really forgive her. Thanks James.