Help! I am an Old Maid and Only One Man Will Take Me.

[Helen MacGowan]

my name is Helen and i'm 17, i live in st johns, newfoundland and my family are all baptists, but i'm starting to question this since i'm now being forced into a marriage to a guy that's nearly twice my age.
he's 30 and he's already been married, but his wife died of cancer a couple years ago, and i feel bad for her and stuff, but i don't like him.
he's a totaly jerk, i've only met him once and he's loud, obnoxious, full of himself, and just an all around jerk. He looks at me like i'm his and that i'm an object and i just don't like that. now i'm being forced to marry him.
all my friends at school are looking at colleges and stuff and i'm being forced to marry. i dont want to, especially not to him. i'm only 17, i've never been out of newfoundland and i simply can't stand him.
my friends parents have offered to take me in, but i'm scared that if i run away, they'd come after me.
i'm only a year away from graduating high school and now i'm going to have to spending the rest of my life cleaning and cooking for this sad excuse of a man. i hate him. i really do. i didn't like him when i met him and now that i have to marry him, i hate him even more.

[Mary Etheldreda]

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Tell us your favorite Bible verse, Helen. How has Jesus blessed you this day?

[Capt. Aaron Portway]

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You're 17 and not married yet? You should feel honored that a Godly man will have you. You're a little long in the tooth. You need to start producing Soldiers for Christ ASAP. Stop your whining and start obeying God, your future husband, and your parents! Glory!

[Helen MacGowan]

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You're 17 and not married yet? You should feel honored that a Godly man will have you. You're a little long in the tooth. You need to start producing Soldiers for Christ ASAP. Stop your whining and start obeying God, your future husband, and your parents! Glory!

the legal age is 16 with parental consent.
i'm not spending the rest of my life with him. i don't like him, i don't think he likes me that much either. i think he only likes me because i'm "pretty".
the wedding's been set for July, so it's going to be fast. I'm not doing it. I will not walk down that aisle.
and producing soldiers? i don't even want to think about that!!! i'm scared of that the most!

[Capt. Aaron Portway]

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the legal age is 16 with parental consent.
i'm not spending the rest of my life with him. i don't like him, i don't think he likes me that much either. i think he only likes me because i'm "pretty".
the wedding's been set for July, so it's going to be fast. I'm not doing it. I will not walk down that aisle.
and producing soldiers? i don't even want to think about that!!! i'm scared of that the most!

Then you'll be damned to Hell I'm afraid.

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.
Exodus 20:12

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.

But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.

For Adam was first formed, then Eve.

And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.

Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
1st Timothy 2:11-15

[James Hutchins]

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Helen, God gave you life, your parents supported you for 17 years. Isn't it time to do a little pay back? Why are you so selfish and greedy. You kids today 'it is all about Meeeee!!!'
You should thank God, your parents and this fine fellow for putting up with your nonsense. You mother was a whore, how else were you born. As was her mother (your grandmother).
During the first century, however, it appears to have been the general rule that young people who were "of age" could arrange their own marriages. A girl was considered of age at twelve years and one day. The minimum age for marriage at twelve years for the girl (Younger is fine if she is especially fertile), and thirteen years for the boy. A boy should certainly be wed by the time he was eighteen to twenty. Betrothal was a vital part of marriage in biblical times. Once a young man had chosen his prospective bride, and she had consented (if of age), a formal declaration of marital intent was made in the presence of two witnesses. The couple was then betrothed. The betrothal period was fixed by law. For a maiden, it was from ten months to a year; for a widow, three months. From the time of her betrothal until the marriage actually took place, a woman was treated as if she were actually married. The betrothal could not be dissolved except by divorce; breach of faithfulness was regarded as adultery.
1 Corinthians 7:1-40


7 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
17 But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.
18 Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised.
19 Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God.
20 Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called.
21 Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather.
22 For he that is called in the Lord, being a servant, is the Lord's freeman: likewise also he that is called, being free, is Christ's servant.
23 Ye are bought with a price; be not ye the servants of men.
24 Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God.
25 Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.
26 I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.
27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
29 But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;
30 And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not;
31 And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away.
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.
37 Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.
38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.
39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.

[Mary Etheldreda]

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8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

What a timely reminder, Brother Hutchins. This young lady has the opportunity to be a blessing to a Christian man, a means for him to escape the burning embers of Hell. Her response ought not be a pitiful whimper but a sense of purpose.

But now, O LORD, thou art our father; we are the clay, and thou our potter; and we all are the work of thy hand.
Iaiah 64:8

[Nobar King]

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You could try getting raped by someone else:

Scripture:
Deuteronomy 22:28-29 (King James Version) If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.

[Helen MacGowan]

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i've decided i'm taking my friends offer.
i mean, i pretty much live there anyways, and they're family is so nice. his mum just said that i'd have to watch over the little kids with him (he has four younger siblings) when his parents aren't home. they have a room for me and everything. the only downside is that they speak french in their house and while my french is good, it's not my favourite language. but asides from that...
i mean i can still go to school, i don't have to marry some 30 year old creeper, and his dad has even offered to teach me to drive (I already have my beginners, but my dad would hardly go out with me)!
i don't care what my parents think, even my mum says i'm too young anyways (my mums side isn't baptist). and my cousin who is like my sister even said that if they cause me any problems, she'll come over here and i can live in Ontario with her. While i'd rather not go all the way to Ontario, i've gotta do what i've gotta do.

[Capt. Aaron Portway]

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i've decided i'm taking my friends offer.
i mean, i pretty much live there anyways, and they're family is so nice. his mum just said that i'd have to watch over the little kids with him (he has four younger siblings) when his parents aren't home. they have a room for me and everything. the only downside is that they speak french in their house and while my french is good, it's not my favourite language. but asides from that...
i mean i can still go to school, i don't have to marry some 30 year old creeper, and his dad has even offered to teach me to drive (I already have my beginners, but my dad would hardly go out with me)!
i don't care what my parents think, even my mum says i'm too young anyways (my mums side isn't baptist). and my cousin who is like my sister even said that if they cause me any problems, she'll come over here and i can live in Ontario with her. While i'd rather not go all the way to Ontario, i've gotta do what i've gotta do.

Enjoy Hell you selfish slut!

[Fleur-de-lis]

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I don't know about the laws where you are, but in Louisiana, at 17, you can legally leave home without your parents' permission, and you cannot be forced to marry against your will.
You're welcome to come to my house.

[James Hutchins]

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I don't know about the laws where you are, but in Louisiana, at 17, you can legally leave home without your parents' permission, and you cannot be forced to marry against your will.
You're welcome to come to my house.

Please, do not seduce young girls and add them to your lezbo 'harem'. I am sure the last thing this empty headed girl wants is a lesson on 'How to be a Stanley Steamer'.
I'd offer to let her come to my house and have tea with Mrs. Hutchins but there are too many females here as it is.

[Rev. M. Rodimer]

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my name is Helen and i'm 17, i live in st johns, newfoundland and my family are all baptists,

Except for your mother's side, as you will report later

but i'm starting to question this since

So am I, given that you said your mother's side of the family aren't Baptists, which means you lied in saying your family are all Baptists.

i hate him. i really do. i didn't like him when i met him and now that i have to marry him, i hate him even more.

What makes you think marriage is about love?

[Fleur-de-lis]

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Please, do not seduce young girls and add them to your lezbo 'harem'. I am sure the last thing this empty headed girl wants is a lesson on 'How to be a Stanley Steamer'.
I'd offer to let her come to my house and have tea with Mrs. Hutchins but there are too many females here as it is.

I don't want sex with her. I like men. I just don't want to see her forced into a life of misery pumping out babies for some guy she can't stand.

[Rev. M. Rodimer]

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I don't want sex with her. I like men. I just don't want to see her forced into a life of misery pumping out babies for some guy she can't stand.

She hasn't even given him a proper chance yet.

So, Helen, why do you hate Jesus?