[James Hutchins]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

James Hutchins a little help here, Sister Mary, please.
Some here are resorting to baseless insults, again.
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I am not sure what more you want me to do.
I had the infraction removed, I had my boy read about you and spend sometime out of his busy schedule on you. He will have to stay up an extra half hour tonight to get caught up.
Ralph is quite the catch as you can see. However, a man is only part of a family, certainly the most significant part but he is not the 'be all to end all'.
As his dad, I have to know that you will do your wifely responsibilities. Ralph is a traditional boy, with traditional values. He treasures stability, focus and Godly responsibility. He believes in pulling his weight and expects a wife to do the same according to the simple rules God has laid out in the Bible. Going to Heaven is very important to Ralph. My boy opened up to you, I hope you will do the same in kind. I have to also ask and will need confirmation of, your fathermother having the requisite fifty shekels. Does she have a Dunn & Bradstreet?
YIC
JH

[James Hutchins]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

Hmm, Ralph seems to of a good sort. Might you ask if he would be able to say the lyrics of the song I linked, and Sister Mary posted for all to see, with complete honesty? Would he support my writing career? Does he like to read, not just the Bible but other books? What where his favorite classes in school? Would Ralph treat me as Jesus Christ treated the women he meet and knew? I do not just want a True Christian Man but a good, kind man with a good heart.
Also I am a bit unsure whether having a husband younger then me is a good idea, as many young men not yet 20 have a lack maturity and good sense. Can you tell me a bit more on his personality and how he handles himself in different situations? Is he a young man with good manners and is intelligent?

Now I am asking these question to better know him, and to see if we are even compatible as a couple. There are times that some men and women are simply not good together, they just don't work. I wish to avoid any problems that might come about because of conflicting personalities and mindsets.

Ralph here. What is your name? I am uncomfortable calling by any name other than the one God gave you at birth.
I can certainly say those lyrics but words are nothing without devotion and follow through. Jesus tells us so.
John 5:19
Then answered Jesus and said unto them, Verily, verily, I say unto you, The Son can do nothing of himself, but what he seeth the Father do: for what things soever he doeth, these also doeth the Son likewise.
John 5:30
I can of mine own self do nothing: as I hear, I judge: and my judgment is just; because I seek not mine own will, but the will of the Father which hath sent me.

If you want to write in your spare time, I am fine with that. It is good to have distractions once all your chores are done. I like to play Bible games where we sit around and tell a story and the other person guesses what chapter best illustrates it. My mom loves to sew and she made the leather seats for dads G550. It took her three years as she had to do it by hand and dad is a stickler.

My goal is to live my life exactly as God wants me to. So when ever I have a question, I turn to the Bible for the answer. I guess being a teen is why I do not like all the answers God gives to me but who am I to question Him. He is God and I am just Ralph.

My personal goals is to have a large family, giving dad a bus load of grand kids. To achieve this, I have been working since I was 10 and I was made a partner in the HCS, LLC when I turned 14 once I had the requisite $100K associate partners buy in. At 16 I had earned enough to be a full partner. My goal is to buy a chain of Chick-A-Fil restaurants and have my sons manage them. I am not the farmer Dad is, I like the food service industry.
James 2:14-17
14 What doth it profit, my brethren, though a man say he hath faith, and have not works? can faith save him?
15 If a brother or sister be naked, and destitute of daily food,
16 And one of you say unto them, Depart in peace, be ye warmed and filled; notwithstanding ye give them not those things which are needful to the body; what doth it profit?
17 Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone.

Matthew 25:31-40
31 When the Son of man shall come in his glory, and all the holy angels with him, then shall he sit upon the throne of his glory:
32 And before him shall be gathered all nations: and he shall separate them one from another, as a shepherd divideth his sheep from the goats:
33 And he shall set the sheep on his right hand, but the goats on the left.
34 Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world:
35 For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in:
36 Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me.
37 Then shall the righteous answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, and fed thee? or thirsty, and gave thee drink?
38 When saw we thee a stranger, and took thee in? or naked, and clothed thee?
39 Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto thee?
40 And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me

Well, I have to go. I need to count today's reciepts and speak to some debtors.
Ralph

[StarDreamerNight]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

James Hutchins a little help here, Sister Mary, please.
Some here are resorting to baseless insults, again.
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I am not a whore, it is impossible to be a whore if one is a virgin and has not allowed a man to do more then kiss my cheek. I obey the Law of Chastity, I cannot be a whore. -wonders if there are any here with any intellegence-

I am a faithful, pure daughter of God that follows the words of the Bible and looks to Jesus Christ for guidance. I pray for understanding and truth, as well as pray to my Father for answers on what to do.

[Rev. Edward Clement]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

Deaner has just made an excellent point. It is not financial problems that are the problem in marriages; the problem is lack of Faith, period.

If you tithe, and give Love Offerings the Lord will bless an individual as He promised. Therefore, it does not matter if one is a Farmer or a Lawer. Little becomes much when Jesus is in it.

Admit it, you are digging for gold.

[Deaner]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

Financial problems are the number one reason for conflict in marriage, I simply wish to make sure that my childen and myself can be taken care of. It's common sense.

Obviously you have zero faith in Jesus to take care of you in every circumstance.

You are very weak in the faith whore. Perhaps you are better suited to the comfort of welfare.

[StarDreamerNight]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

Amen Brother Dean. Apparently this little trollip is carry a treasure hunting map, and a shovel in order to be able to gold dig properly, and to get paid for services rendered.

That ain't no Godly marriage, that is a business transaction!

Financial problems are the number one reason for conflict in marriage, I simply wish to make sure that my childen and myself can be taken care of. It's common sense.

[StarDreamerNight]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

Well, excuse us men.

You didn't mention we were applying to marry a whore.

Sighs, wondering how often I will need to go through this, I am not a whore. No man has known me and no man has ever gotten more the a kiss of the cheek nor has any man given me more then a kiss on the cheek.

One cannot be a whore if they obey the Law of Chastity, and I will stay a virgin until I am married.

[Rev. Edward Clement]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

Well, excuse us men.

You didn't mention we were applying to marry a whore.

Amen Brother Dean. Apparently this little trollip is carry a treasure hunting map, and a shovel in order to be able to gold dig properly, and to get paid for services rendered.

That ain't no Godly marriage, that is a business transaction!

[Deaner]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

Also I hope my husband has a better job then farming as such work does not pay the bills nearly as well as they did.

Well, excuse us men.

You didn't mention we were applying to marry a whore.

[Rev. Edward Clement]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

I have already said okay, we have moved one. Please pay attention
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This is how I see love, marriage, and relationships. If an man cannot do what is said in this song then he is not the man for me, as I will be doing the same. The above is the man I am looking for and I will not accept a man that cannot honestly say the words of this song and mean it.

Blatant self-imporatance and a sense of entitlment is fully apparent in your posts, and not just this one, friend.

Fully demonstrated in how you speak to a Man of God(c), you have as of yet, to learn your place, friend.

[StarDreamerNight]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

[QUOTE=Rev. Edward Clement;916913]A heavy feminine attitude of arrogant self-importance and sense of entitlment.QUOTE]

Well then it is a good thing I do not have such.

[Rev. Edward Clement]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

Well then it is a good thing the only discipline I will need is verbal, more then that will never be needed.

Not if you "talk back" like you do here, young lady. A good True-Christian(tm) woman only needs to be told one time and one time only.

A heavy feminine attitude of arrogant self-importance and sense of entitlment does not fly in a True-Christian(tm) marriage.

[StarDreamerNight]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

Well then it is a good thing the only discipline I will need is verbal, more then that will never be needed. Especially since I obey God's Word and will always be honest with my husband, I will also work out any problems that might arise between my husband and myself through discussion and communication.

[Rev. Edward Clement]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

Please, as I have said I haven't let a man do more then kiss my cheek as such I am not a trollop. More from you and I will simply ignore your posts.

Friend,you cannot speak to a Man of God like that.

And please, check your condescending attitude at the door.

I blame that evil pop-noise for this, that lady-blah blah will be the downfall of the character of well behaved young women everywhere; incidently, she also has a preference for flannel shirts as I have heard.

Truly, in these last days, the devil is wondering about as a roaring lion, and convincing young women that they are not to be in submission to their husbands and the devil's servants are the focalpoint of bad taste.

[Mary Etheldreda]

Re: A Candle in the Darkness

Mary Ethelreda,

If you would be so kind could you link once again to that site you showed us when you first joined this forum for how a man of True Christianity should discipline his wayward wife for this trollop's education.

It is my pleasure.



Christian Domestic Discipline.

Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous:
nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.
Hebrews 12:11

Here are some excerpts:

it was generally thought that a man did have the right of enforcement in his home. Could it perhaps be our culture which has changed, rather than anything to do with Scripture, which causes such an outcry against CDD?

Which one has changed drastically over time, especially in the last fifty or so years?

Scripture or culture?

Of course, a man IS supposed to love his wife as himself, but love does not rule out discipline. In fact, the Bible has only good things to say about discipline.

Discipline is associated with love:

As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten...Revelation 3:19a

He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Proverbs 13:24

Discipline is associated with wisdom and understanding:

The rod and reproof give wisdom... Proverbs 29:15

...but a rod is for the back of him that is void of understanding... Proverbs 10:13

Discipline is associated with peace and righteousness:

Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous; nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby... Hebrew 12:11

There is no scripture whatsoever that speaks poorly of discipline, and seeing what good things the Bible tells us come from discipline, it begs the question:

How can a man say he loves his wife and not discipline her when needed?

Men and women are different. But we often just gloss over what those most crucial differences are. Yes, men and women are different physically, and also men and women think differently. But what we often fail to recognize is than men and women sin differently. Men have sin struggles that are typical of men and almost alien to women. Likewise, women struggle with sins that men may not even recognize as being sin issues. Here's a bare-bones sketch of the dynamics:

Women by their peculiar sin nature resist earthly authority and trust.
Women will seek earthly security at the expense of emotional and/or spiritual security.

Rebuke and Lash. This is the harshest discipline a husband should administer, and it should always be done privately and with Godly, Biblical love. Usually, exhortation will have already taken place before this method is used, but there may come situations where this is the first step. The rebuke and lashing should be administered with a calm heart. Talk to your wife, let her know you are serious, and tell her why she is to be disciplined physically.

I can vouch for its Godly mission and its correct association with Holy Scripture, and of course its positive effects in a marriage.