[southerngirl97]

My appologies Ma'am I should have paid more attention to what I had written

[Lostandalone]

I am widowed and miss my husband very much...we did not have an y children. I must admit that I do miss the discipline he gave me often and from his loving heart.
When he felt it was needed, he believed in the proven old fashioned spanking! Bare bottom and he would begin with his hand and finish with his belt.
After it was always caresses, holding me and talking in his soft tender voice. Oh how I miss that!

[Basilissa]

Originally Posted by Lostandalone

I am widowed and miss my husband very much...we did not have an y children.

I hope it's not too late for you to get married again and have some children, for the sake of your immortal soul!


1 Timothy 2:15 Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.

[Scoutman03]

Domestic discipline? More like Domestic Abuse. She can straight up press charges if she chose to.

[KirsiK]

DearBrother`s and Sister`s in Christ,

Three yearsago brother “Sword of Christ” asked a question that I feel is very interesting:

“when thehusband is placed in the position when he has to apply corporal punishment toan unruly wife should he do it in front of the kids?”

I know thatI join the conversation very late, but I think the question is so interestingand important that I would like to write something about it anyway.

As I seeit, the question can be divided into three parts: 1) should the children KNOWthat daddy is spanking mommy? 2) Should the children HEAR when daddy isspanking mommy? And 3) should the children SEE daddy spank mommy?

As I seeit, the children should definitely know that daddy spanks mommy. To try to keepit a secret from the children is not very practical, but especially it is likelying to the children. A parent should always be honest to his/her children. Besides,children are smart and figure things out, so I do not think that the parentscould keep it a secret for very long anyway. Perhaps what is most important, isthat trying to keep it a secret is like the parents should be ashamed of their ChristianDomestic Discipline lifestyle. A life style that I personally feel is naturaland as God intended.

So, thechildren should know that daddy spanks mommy, but should they hear thespankings? Yes, I think they should. To be open about daddy spanking mommy, butthen only do it when the children are not at home makes it seem like theparents consider the discipline as something wrong and dirty. So, I see nothingwrong in the children hearing the smacking and cracking sounds as daddies hand,belt, hairbrush, paddle, cane, switch or what ever other tool he uses lands onmommies bare buttocks mixed with mommies screams, howling and crying.

But shouldthe children only hear daddy spank mommy and never see him do it? Of course notevery spanking has to happen openly in front of the children. Sometimes thespankings can happen in the privacy of the parent`s bedroom, but I see nothingwrong in some of the spankings also taking place also in front of the children.After all, in a Christian Domestic Discipline family spanking should be anormal form of discipline that doesn`t have to be hidden from other familymembers.

As SisterHandmaiden said:

“I thinkthat the children can learn a great deal from witnessing this sort of behavior.They will learn basic methodology, of course, as in how hard to hit, how manyblows to land, and the proper prayerful attitude to assume before administeringthe discipline.”

I agreewith Sister Handmaiden. The parents task is to prepare the children for theirroles as adults, so in a Christian Domestic Discipline family it is animportant part of the upbringing to introduce the children to the disciplinepart of a marriage.

Like SisterAnne Sayne says:

“It's greatto do it in front of the kids. It will teach the boys what to do when they'rewives act up in the future, and the girls will learn lessons on husbandsubmission.”

Yes, Iagree fully. It shows the sons what their role will be as future husbands andfathers and it shows the daughters that they are never too old for properdiscipline. That can be a good and valuable lesson for the daughters,especially when they are in their teenage years.

SincerelyYours,
Sister KirsiK

[Isabella White]

Originally Posted by KirsiK

DearBrother`s and Sister`s in Christ ... random babbling ..

SincerelyYours,
Sister KirsiK

Dear Miss Kirsik: I would like to welcome you to . But, somehow or another, you have managed to bypass our Introduction Forum, which is where we like all of our newcomers to visit when they arrive here. The link is here:

https://www.landoverbaptist.net/forumdisplay.php?f=16

Please note the requirements that are clearly displayed at the top of that page:

Attention Unsaved Trash: This the ONLY subforum you can start threads in. Here is where you introduce yourself. Tell us what church you go to and what your favorite Bible verse is and how you came to find Jesus.

We look forward to your proper introductory message.

Sincerely, Isabella W.

[Kyrre Eliasen]

Originally Posted by Scoutman03

Domestic discipline? More like Domestic Abuse. She can straight up press charges if she chose to.

To put women and children in their place is my job and it hurts me more than them but i have to do it because of Jesus.

[Basilissa]

Originally Posted by Kyrre Eliasen

To put women and children in their place is my job

How many wives do you pretend to have, sweetie?

[Patty M]

Originally Posted by southerngirl97

Speaking from a childs (19) point of view I think it is important. Seeing my mother punished has made me a better girl as I have learnt what it correct behavior.

He has always punished the women in the household in front of everyone. My 2 brother if they are to receive punishment do so if the private of his study

I am in Tennessee too. My mother and I were both disciplined in front of my brothers by my Father too. As teenagers my brothers below 15 assisted my Father by moving furniture such as end tables or fetching the strap or paddle. While either my mother or I waited naked facing the wall. from age 15-16 my brothers were allowed to pick what ever paddle was to be used. At age 17 my brothers were then allowed to discipline my mother or I if our Father was not home. If our Father was not home and brother had to discipline us we were disciplined by our Father too when our Father came home.

[PeterCrackhead]

Originally Posted by Patty M

I am in Tennessee too. My mother and I were both disciplined in front of my brothers by my Father too. As teenagers my brothers below 15 assisted my Father by moving furniture such as end tables or fetching the strap or paddle. While either my mother or I waited naked facing the wall. from age 15-16 my brothers were allowed to pick what ever paddle was to be used. At age 17 my brothers were then allowed to discipline my mother or I if our Father was not home. If our Father was not home and brother had to discipline us we were disciplined by our Father too when our Father came home.

So, you think it is normal for teenage boys to beat their mother and sisters?

[bobbyj1970]

Is there a venue where someone as knowledgeable as yourself could teach and mentor husbands the details of proper punishments? I feel these should be learned correctly by the husband before passing this on to children.


Thank you.

Originally Posted by Alvin Moss

I agree that the children must witness everything that is part of family life. It is the job of the parents to raise up responsible citizens and teach the youth the things they need to know. It may be a small detail, but I believe it is important to know such things as when to apply discipline, what discipline is appropriate, how many blows for what offense and what instruments may be used. Should a club be used, or is a belt sufficient? These details are taught through observation, much as language, gestures and so on.

[Mary Etheldreda]

Originally Posted by Patty M

I am in Tennessee too. My mother and I were both disciplined in front of my brothers by my Father too. As teenagers my brothers below 15 assisted my Father by moving furniture such as end tables or fetching the strap or paddle. While either my mother or I waited naked facing the wall. from age 15-16 my brothers were allowed to pick what ever paddle was to be used. At age 17 my brothers were then allowed to discipline my mother or I if our Father was not home. If our Father was not home and brother had to discipline us we were disciplined by our Father too when our Father came home.

My dear, incest hasn't been fashionable since Noah and his sons banged the handful of women who survived the Flood. Your father sounds like he has a Jewish fetish if he's going that far back in the Bible.

[KerryYoung]

This is really helpful, and interesting to see the different viewpoints. I also feel it has brought me to a place of repentance. My husband feels that there should be openness around discipline with a view to teaching the next generation and I have disagreed, respectfully, on this. I think this thread has convinced me that it is not healthy to hide things within the family.