MARITAL RAPE IS A MYTH!
Friends,
I was reading THIS rather sickening article in the news today, about how some disturbed woman took her husband to court, charging him of marital RAPE ???!
Man sentenced in marital rape case
A Malaysian man who forced his wife to have sex with him has been sentenced to the maximum five years in jail, in what appears to be the country's first successful prosecution under a new law against marital rape.
The New Straits Times reported that the sentence is thought to be the first under a 2007 law that makes it illegal for a husband to cause "fear of death or hurt to his wife ... to have sexual intercourse."
"We hope this will inspire other wives who suffer in silence to come out and seek justice for themselves," Judge Hassan Abdul Ghani was quoted by the Times as saying.
The September 2007 amendment to the penal code that made marital rape a crime was considered a small step toward women's rights in conservative Muslim-dominated Malaysia.
Activists say it doesn't go far enough because the law doesn't stipulate a minimum sentence, which means a man could go to jail for as little as a day even if convicted.
The newspaper said the man had pleaded guilty to treating his wife violently to have sex at their home in April.
Now, I used to think that once you are married, you have consented fully to sex between you whenever your husband likes. I’ve always believed that there are absolutely NO grounds for not having sex, and the man really feels he must have it, and the woman is saying no, shouldn’t the man help himself? Is that a rape? It doesn’t sound like it to me.
Naturally, I did some digging. Surely this sort of thing doesn't happening in OUR Godly country? Women talking their husbands to court, accusing them of rape? It's laughable!
However, during my investigations, I found THIS rather ignorant letter written by a woman, who ‘claimed’ her husband had raped her. Friends, this was actually posted on a ‘supposed’ Christian forum. No doubt this nasty wretch is trying to turn other woman’s heads away from God. It just makes me wonder whether she is actually a Feminist, and she’s saying all this garbage to hurt baby Jesus with her lies! Please read what this selfish and wicked woman said for yourselves -
(WARNING: Apologies in advance, the letter is RATHER long, but I thought you’d like the opportunity to read and comment on it all, and see just how stupid and confused this woman really is.)
“I thought it was just a problem within my marriage of now 20 years. After I was in a serious car accident I needed surgery to save my life. My ribcage was shattered in many places during the crash. Also, my lungs were preforated, and my liver, bladder and rectum were also damaged. I had complications with the surgery. Bladder function took weeks to return and had to wear a catheter and sustained a severe UTI. The OB-GYN also said sex would be painful as sutures were in there, and to wait at least 3 months.
My husband waited just 2 weeks healing time. Yes, to my horror I woke one night to find him tearing my PJ's and panties off. He held my arms down, and had "not so gentle sex" on me. I remember I cried and ask him to stop, but he just laughed. When I asked him again he yelled “Shut your dumb mouth, woman” and punched me hard in the face. He finally did after awhile, but not soon enough. He did damage and the bladder function that had returned was lost. He also broke 2 of my teeth in the attack. I urinated down my legs for a couple of weeks and the pain was horrible, extended the length of time I took a Narcotic. This had happened so often before.
Yes, this was not the first time. But I never knew it was considered marital rape. I knew it was selfish and inconsiderate of him, and I developed depression and a sleep disorder, but never understood the emotional pain it was causing me. Getting out of the shower and being forced, walking into our bedroom and not feeling safe.
I eventually went to a therapist about it, and he called it what it is - rape. I could go to the Police, this is a crime he said. I did not go to the OB-GYN to be checked, as he and my husband are good friends. I could not humiliate myself or my husband. I have protected him for so long. He is known as the "salt of the earth", a" pillar of the community". He also attends Church regularly, and many believe he is a good Christian man – if only they knew!
My husband controls me financially also, the house he built for us is in his parent’s name, I have begged for years to have it put in our name. He built it on the family farm right next door to his parents. I have no say in decisions in the marriage, not even where the house would be, down to the light fixtures. I have invested into this house myself though. I remember paying for some of the cabinets I did not even get to pick out. Other things like that.
I have a problem I realize, I am just too nice and people just run over me. I am learning in therapy how this can shut a person down over the years as it has me. It can take your very will to live and thrive when your hopes and dreams are ignored. I am not allowed to be named on his checking account or even know how much money we do or do not have. I have to ask for money. He used to trade sex for money when he couldn’t coax me round, I quit this along time ago as I felt like a prostitute.
I need to become self supportive. I am only touching on the surface of my torment in this marriage. I need to know something. Anyone reading this, do you believe a wife has the right to say No to sex when is sick, tired or just not in the mood for sex? I cannot live like this any longer. What do you think? I am an intelligent, beautiful woman my oldest daughter and son tell me with a pure heart, but the way this man is treating me is tearing me apart. How many people did not realize marital rape exist?
I would love to know this. If it has shut me down over the years along with financial abuse and control how many others are being affected? I suppose it is the nurse in me that makes me want to reach out to other woman now that I am Aware. I have read most women do not realize how wrong this is because we are raised in a culture that still says men are gender superior to women. How wrong this is. I feel women have tried for years to stop the violence against us, I believe men need to step up to the plate and have a voice. Women cannot end the violence without men understanding just how serious it has become in the USA.
My Marine son, who has been in the war in Iraq and Afghanistan, just returned home from his second tour over there, says he went over there to fight oppression, mainly for the women and children, but who is fighting for the oppression of women and children in the USA? We all need to. When I pulled up this site a porn website popped up, it's title was "see vicious porn rape by husband on wife". How disgusting! With pictures of a woman being raped and tortured. Ironic I think that it popped up with websites to help women who have been victims of violence.”
My husband waited just 2 weeks healing time. Yes, to my horror I woke one night to find him tearing my PJ's and panties off. He held my arms down, and had "not so gentle sex" on me. I remember I cried and ask him to stop, but he just laughed. When I asked him again he yelled “Shut your dumb mouth, woman” and punched me hard in the face. He finally did after awhile, but not soon enough. He did damage and the bladder function that had returned was lost. He also broke 2 of my teeth in the attack. I urinated down my legs for a couple of weeks and the pain was horrible, extended the length of time I took a Narcotic. This had happened so often before.
Yes, this was not the first time. But I never knew it was considered marital rape. I knew it was selfish and inconsiderate of him, and I developed depression and a sleep disorder, but never understood the emotional pain it was causing me. Getting out of the shower and being forced, walking into our bedroom and not feeling safe.
I eventually went to a therapist about it, and he called it what it is - rape. I could go to the Police, this is a crime he said. I did not go to the OB-GYN to be checked, as he and my husband are good friends. I could not humiliate myself or my husband. I have protected him for so long. He is known as the "salt of the earth", a" pillar of the community". He also attends Church regularly, and many believe he is a good Christian man – if only they knew!
My husband controls me financially also, the house he built for us is in his parent’s name, I have begged for years to have it put in our name. He built it on the family farm right next door to his parents. I have no say in decisions in the marriage, not even where the house would be, down to the light fixtures. I have invested into this house myself though. I remember paying for some of the cabinets I did not even get to pick out. Other things like that.
I have a problem I realize, I am just too nice and people just run over me. I am learning in therapy how this can shut a person down over the years as it has me. It can take your very will to live and thrive when your hopes and dreams are ignored. I am not allowed to be named on his checking account or even know how much money we do or do not have. I have to ask for money. He used to trade sex for money when he couldn’t coax me round, I quit this along time ago as I felt like a prostitute.
I need to become self supportive. I am only touching on the surface of my torment in this marriage. I need to know something. Anyone reading this, do you believe a wife has the right to say No to sex when is sick, tired or just not in the mood for sex? I cannot live like this any longer. What do you think? I am an intelligent, beautiful woman my oldest daughter and son tell me with a pure heart, but the way this man is treating me is tearing me apart. How many people did not realize marital rape exist?
I would love to know this. If it has shut me down over the years along with financial abuse and control how many others are being affected? I suppose it is the nurse in me that makes me want to reach out to other woman now that I am Aware. I have read most women do not realize how wrong this is because we are raised in a culture that still says men are gender superior to women. How wrong this is. I feel women have tried for years to stop the violence against us, I believe men need to step up to the plate and have a voice. Women cannot end the violence without men understanding just how serious it has become in the USA.
My Marine son, who has been in the war in Iraq and Afghanistan, just returned home from his second tour over there, says he went over there to fight oppression, mainly for the women and children, but who is fighting for the oppression of women and children in the USA? We all need to. When I pulled up this site a porn website popped up, it's title was "see vicious porn rape by husband on wife". How disgusting! With pictures of a woman being raped and tortured. Ironic I think that it popped up with websites to help women who have been victims of violence.”
Carefully notice this woman didn’t believe she had actually been ‘raped’ until her so-called ‘therapist’ suggested it. No doubt this therapist is some sort of feminist and man-hater. Also notice she even admits to surfing the internet for porn, yet she denies her husband his marital rights? What a sick, evil and manipulative little witch.
After reading this whole letter thro a bunch of times, I can only come to the conclusion that this woman is a lunatic. Remember, she actually admits to being in therapy. Why else would she be seeing a head-doctor? Seriously, how dare she deny her husband what is rightfully his through Marriage, then have the nerve to ‘claim’ he raped her. Being ‘too tired’ or ‘not in the mood’ or ‘in too much pain after a car wreck’ is just another excuse for being a lazy inconsiderate selfish self-centered woman. No doubt she was driving the car at the time, so it is probably her own fault that her husband’s needs were left unattended to! Yes, ladies, our poor husbands DO have needs, and it is our job to satisfy them, no matter how much pain we are in. I would never dream of using any pathetic excuse to deny MY husband of what is rightfully his.
Friends, let me tell you the FACTS about Marital Rape – MARITAL RAPE IS A MYTH!
Historically, nearly all cultures have a concept of spouses' conjugal rights to sexual intercourse with each other. Mainly because of the influence of Christian teaching in Western culture, in particular, Paul's teachings of, "Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5, KJV.
This can be seen in Common Law, in force in North America and the British Commonwealth, where the very concept of marital rape was treated as an impossibility and an utterly ridiculous notion. This was illustrated most vividly by Sir Matthew Hale, in his classic legal treatise, History of the Pleas of the Crown, where he wrote that such a rape could not be recognized since the wife.
Hale stated, "But the husband cannot be guilty of a rape committed by himself upon his lawful wife, for by their mutual matrimonial consent and contract the wife hath given up herself in this kind unto her husband which she cannot retract."
YES, MARITAL RAPE IS A MYTH! IT IS LIBERAL FEMNAZI MAN-HATING PROPAGANDA AND BRAINWASHING, AND ANYONE WHO TELLS YOU OTHERWISE IS A FILTHY CHRIST-HATING GOD-MOCKING LIAR!
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