Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

[Brother_Lucas]

Hello..This is my first post on this forum but I have been following you for some weeks now. I'm in desperate need of advice for one matter that has occured on the last six months. My daughter is 17 years old, and is a very difficult child... On these last months, I have found out many facts that have made me concerned about the life of my beloved daughter. Firstly she started dressing like emo or something, that simetimes she reffers to it as "gothic". She listens to some weird music with weird lyrics (one is called raining blood). But it's not only this... One day I opened her laptop and used her password on facebook and I found out that she was talking with men of age over 26-27 for sexual matters. This made me lose my temper ground her and remove her PC from her room immediately. I can understand some strange behaviour because her mother's death came out of nowhere and it was a huge shock for her... But I cannot tolerate her behaviour!!! I think I cannot control her anymore. I need to talk to her and make her understand that she has to follow the word of the Lord. But how should I do this? In case I fail with the words what can I do? I'm prepared to do anything in order to save her soul...

Praise Jesus

[Brother_Ard]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

First of all, i don't think this is the right section for such posts.

Friend, I used to have such problems with my daughter too, your post is really touching and reminded me the way i solved it. All you have to do is, take a vacation together, especially if something tragic happened in her life recently...

The goth/emo -I don't even know what that is exactly- symptoms probably will just go away if both of you start having a really good time... I would suggest to search for a destination with lot of activities, for her and you...

Also you should try teach her the ways of our Lord, and the path to true salvation...

Hope i helped,
Brother_Ard

[James Hutchins]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

I'd switch the emo right out of her, then have her spend a few days in the basement prayer closet. Come June, I'd let her out after she's had a moment of quiet time to think about what she did. Worked for my rebellious one. In fact, the other kids all snapped out of it and got with the program. Every one now toes that line.

[James Hutchins]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

First of all, i don't think this is the right section for such posts.

Friend, I used to have such problems with my daughter too, your post is really touching and reminded me the way i solved it. All you have to do is, take a vacation together, especially if something tragic happened in her life recently...

The goth/emo -I don't even know what that is exactly- symptoms probably will just go away if both of you start having a really good time... I would suggest to search for a destination with lot of activities, for her and you...

Also you should try teach her the ways of our Lord, and the path to true salvation...

Hope i helped,
Brother_Ard

Well, aren't you the pot calling the kettle black!

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[Noah Dint]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

One day I opened her laptop and used her password on facebook.... I'm prepared to do anything in order to save her soul...

Praise Jesus

Well isn't that special. You allowed your 17 year old girl on the computer unsupervised and now don't know what to do? There should be a manditory parenting class for some people.

Evidently you weren't willing to do "anything" to begin with now were you?

Amazing. Simply amazing.

-ND

[GOD=life]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

The answer is simple: keep her under control until she's 18 and then send her to Reverend Jim:

http://www.landoverbaptist.net/showthread.php?t=27676

Oh, and it's FREE too!

[James Hutchins]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

I bet these boys are greeks. You know how they are!

[Brother_Lucas]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

You allowed your 17 year old girl on the computer unsupervised and now don't know what to do? There should be a manditory parenting class for some people.

Unfortunatelly, I know I failed in some things.. So I totaly agree with you. But now what? You fail and stop? No. So, I just wanted to have some advice from someone who had the same problem... I love my child and can't let like this. I just started reading topics here about "gothic" and I'm shocked!!!!

The first thing was erasing all her accounts on social networks.

Now I think this will follow:

I'd switch the emo right out of her, then have her spend a few days in the basement prayer closet. Come June, I'd let her out after she's had a moment of quiet time to think about what she did. Worked for my rebellious one. In fact, the other kids all snapped out of it and got with the program. Every one now toes that line.

I pray it works...

[Cranky Old Man]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

Just keep beating her until she turns sane again.

[Pastor Ezekiel]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

I'd like to know what your home pastor has to say about this. Why are you bringing it to us?

Please make a thread of your own in the "Introductions" section of the forum, so that we can properly greet you. Tell us about yourself, your church, and how you came to find Jesus.

[Nobar King]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

It would be wise for you to get another woman in your life to help you raise this girl. You will have trouble doing it all yourself. See needs a mother figure to help her develop her house cleaning skills.

[TheTrooper]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

Hello Brother Lucas.

You might not take my advice on this, seeing as i am only 17 myself. But i have gone through the same phase your daughter is going through right now.

I got through to my mom by talking to her. she tried forcing it and forcing it, and made me rebel more and more. be there for her. if she's having a bad day, let her talk to you without you criticizing it. let her speak her mind. let her be able to come to you when she's ready.

like i said before. you probably wont take my advice but it worked for me. if it doesn't then maybe you should love her how she is.

[Bob4God]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

let her speak her mind. let her be able to come to you when she's ready.

Excuse me, but where in the Holy Bible does it say to let women speak their minds?

I'll tell you what it DOES say:

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. -1 Timothy 2:11

[Mrs. Mary Whitford]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

Hello Brother Lucas.

You might not take my advice on this, seeing as i am only 17 myself. But i have gone through the same phase your daughter is going through right now.

I got through to my mom by talking to her. she tried forcing it and forcing it, and made me rebel more and more. be there for her. if she's having a bad day, let her talk to you without you criticizing it. let her speak her mind. let her be able to come to you when she's ready.

like i said before. you probably wont take my advice but it worked for me. if it doesn't then maybe you should love her how she is.

Hmmm. Thank you for helping, but nowhere in your "advice" do I see JESUS. The Lord is the answer to every question, every quandary, every quibble.
So try again, but this time try to include more Christ.

[TheTrooper]

Re: Problems with my daughter...I need advice.

sexism is wrong and i feel offended. i have the right to speak my mind as every single MAN out there.

and maybe his daughter needs love from her biological father. maybe she doesn't feel she's getting enough love from him?