hi everyone

[MaryAnne76]

Im new here, guided to the internet by my husband who is a committed and practising Christian. He wishes me to find out more about it, as before meeting him I have not been particularly religious, but i was christened as a baby and attended christian schools. My husband feels my lack of knowledge is currently contributing to problems in our relationship.

I have 1 boy aged 12 called Seth, who lives with us. I am 40 years old and my husband is 52.

Thanks for reading

Mary Anne

[Romeo Rovagnati]

Re: hi everyone

Hello Marianna, welcome to the Landover Baptist Church forum, wich i'm not really part, since i am a Catholic priest from Rome.

Why are you wearing that leaves crown on your head? Are you sure you're not an hippy?

Anyway, like any other member of the Church would say, post your favorite Bible verse.

[MaryAnne76]

Re: hi everyone

Hello Marianna, welcome to the Landover Baptist Church forum, wich i'm not really part, since i am a Catholic priest from Rome.

Why are you wearing that leaves crown on your head? Are you sure you're not an hippy?

Anyway, like any other member of the Church would say, post your favorite Bible verse.

Thank you for the welcome. That crown is an overlay of flowers from a photo editing app, I hope its appropriate, it was just my most recent picture and i liked the flowers lol.

The verse my husband has most recently impressed upon me is

Timothy3:16 all scriptures is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.

This is because he wants me to learn more about his faith because i know basically nothing at the moment.

Mary Anne

[Pim Pendergast]

Re: hi everyone

Welcome to the forum, Mary Anne. If you're suffering from a lack of knowledge about the Bible, you've come to the right place. Of course, you should read it for yourself. What church are you and your husband affiliated with? In what areas do you think you need to learn more about God's Word?

[MaryAnne76]

Re: hi everyone

Welcome to the forum, Mary Anne. If you're suffering from a lack of knowledge about the Bible, you've come to the right place. Of course, you should read it for yourself. What church are you and your husband affiliated with? In what areas do you think you need to learn more about God's Word?

Thank you for responding! I am completely lacking any kind of knowledge about the bible...i hope im still allowed here in spite of that but i feel its best to be honest. My husband is very religious and I knew this about him before we got married, but i think i overlooked the potential my lack of knowledge would have on our marriage and how things that are probably very normal to most pracising Christians are still new to me. However, I know enough to know that my marriage is sacred, my partner has been chosen by God and I have to place faith in that.


My husband and I live in New York. My husband attends a Christian cultural center in our area, he attends 3x per week, once on Sundays and also twice after work for an hour or two to attend a service. Initially when I moved in with him, he asked me if i would attend and I said no. This was partially because I thought that it was his thing, but also because i have social anxiety and dont cope very well in large group settings.


Looking back, I now think that has hurt him a lot. When i realized the extent of his faith i offered to attend and he now wont allow me and says that i need to start learning at home first to evidence my committment before he allows me into his God's House. Thats the reason that I am here really.


In respect of the difficulties in my marriage due to this, i know that this is an introduction thread so ill be broad and brief. After moving in with him, he had certain expectations of me that were not mentioned when we were dating. Most I have complied with, some i have partially complied with and there is one particular request that I have refused to comply with. My husband has prayed for me but not in the same room as me, and one night after a particularly heated discussion it resulted in him locking me in our spare room which isnt decorated yet and has no furniture and keeping me in there for 12 hours with just a glass of water. It was a long hard night and I didnt know that it was going to happen in advance.


Obviously this is a broad overview to give you some idea of whats been happening in my marriage, and there is no moral reason for me to terminate my marriage, so i guess im looking for guidance, direction and to try and evidence that I am committed to the partnership.

[Basilissa]

Re: hi everyone

Thank you for the welcome. That crown is an overlay of flowers from a photo editing app, I hope its appropriate, it was just my most recent picture and i liked the flowers lol.

The verse my husband has most recently impressed upon me is

Timothy3:16 all scriptures is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.

This is because he wants me to learn more about his faith because i know basically nothing at the moment.

Mary Anne

Hello and to our Godly forum, Mary Anne!

That is an excellent choice of verse - it's exactly what we do here on the forum, correcting and instructing in righteousness!

However, we prefer the King James Bible version:

2 Timothy 3:16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:

[MaryAnne76]

Re: hi everyone

Hello and to our Godly forum, Mary Anne!

That is an excellent choice of verse - it's exactly what we do here on the forum, correcting and instructing in righteousness!

However, we prefer the King James Bible version:

2 Timothy 3:16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:

Hi and thank you for the welcome. After posting my initial post last night I started reading some of the posts and directives given especially relating to marriage and read that the King James bible version is preferred. I don't have a copy of that in the house but will ask my husband if we can purchase one today. I will look for an online version in the meantime so that I can follow the verses given here more accurately. Thank you for pointing this out.

[Basilissa]

Re: hi everyone

Hi and thank you for the welcome. After posting my initial post last night I started reading some of the posts and directives given especially relating to marriage and read that the King James bible version is preferred. I don't have a copy of that in the house but will ask my husband if we can purchase one today. I will look for an online version in the meantime so that I can follow the verses given here more accurately. Thank you for pointing this out.

In the meantime, you can access it online:

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/

[MaryAnne76]

Re: hi everyone

In the meantime, you can access it online:

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/

Thank you so much!

[Mary Etheldreda]

Re: hi everyone

Here you are!

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/

Welcome to the forums!

I find it rather amazing that you can have lived with your husband for 13 years and not know a thing about his faith. What an amazing God we serve! Yours will be a transformation of the ages!

Likewise, I say unto you,
there is joy in the presence
of the angels of God
over one sinner that repenteth.
Luke 15:10

[MaryAnne76]

Re: hi everyone

Hi, sorry I should have clarified. We have been married for only 6 months. I am from the United Kingdom originally and we met in New York 3 years ago when I was working as an aid worker over here on an exchange for a year. We had a long distance relationship when i returned to the UK and eventually he asked me to move over to be his wife and I did.

I never lived with him until I moved in with him so although I knew he was devoted to his faith, i never saw it in day to day life, if that makes sense.

[Basilissa]

Re: hi everyone

Hi, sorry I should have clarified. We have been married for only 6 months. I am from the United Kingdom originally and we met in New York 3 years ago when I was working as an aid worker over here on an exchange for a year. We had a long distance relationship when i returned to the UK and eventually he asked me to move over to be his wife and I did.

I never lived with him until I moved in with him so although I knew he was devoted to his faith, i never saw it in day to day life, if that makes sense.

So... whose son is Seth, then?

Is he a bastard?

Deuteronomy 23:2 A bastard shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord; even to his tenth generation shall he not enter into the congregation of the Lord.

[Mary Etheldreda]

Re: hi everyone

I never lived with him until I moved in with him so although I knew he was devoted to his faith, i never saw it in day to day life, if that makes sense.

It sounds like both of you could benefit from some Biblical marriage guidance! Christian Domestic Discipline will help you learn how and why to be faithful unto Christ by being faithful unto your husband! We have a number of threads discussing such issues. You can peruse and contribute as the Holy Spirit moves you!

[MaryAnne76]

Re: hi everyone

So... whose son is Seth, then?

Is he a bastard?

Deuteronomy 23:2 A bastard shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord; even to his tenth generation shall he not enter into the congregation of the Lord.

Seth is my son via my first marriage. Unfortunately we parted as he left me for someone at his work he had an affair with. He continues to live in the UK but we have minimal contact. He doesn't make an effort to keep in touch with Seth much, leaving him without a father figure in his life. When my current husband came around he seemed so different to my previous experience...he had morals and offered to take on a parental role with my son. After years of being alone it seemed like fate, Gods work my husband calls it.


I didnt have much to lose, so I left the UK with my son and arrived here. Its a bit of a complicated story, I know.

[MaryAnne76]

Re: hi everyone

It sounds like both of you could benefit from some Biblical marriage guidance! Christian Domestic Discipline will help you learn how and why to be faithful unto Christ by being faithful unto your husband! We have a number of threads discussing such issues. You can peruse and contribute as the Holy Spirit moves you!

Thanks Mary Etheldreda....I can assure you I am faithful to my husband. Even i know that committing adultery is a mortal sin, but i have noone else in this place apart from my son. My husband does not want me to work so we are pretty much together all the time when he is not working. I would never not be faithful, but i do believe i need marriage guidance. I asked my husband if we should go to counselling but he has refused saying the answers are all in the holy book if only i would learn listen and understand?


The major difficulty in my marriage is that i am struggling to accept some of his direction...he wont let me attend the church because i refused to initially go, I have ended up here in an attempt to try and understand his direction better. I will check those threads out.