I was abused as a child

[Prayer Warrior]

I'm really concerned. Throughout my entire life, neither my parents nor my teachers ever beat me. I don't recall doing anything that would warrant being beaten, but there are probably bad things I did that I don't remember.

Sirach 30:1
He that loveth his son causeth him oft to feel the rod, that
he may have joy of him in the end.

I really feel like I missed out a crucial part of my development. I'm even worried that my parents hated me!

Proverbs 13:24
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes

I can't understand why they would neglect such an important aspect of my life.

I wanted to honor my father and mother ( Ephesians 6:2)! While simultaneously hating them of course ( Luke 14:26 ). I never wanted to bring them shame.
Proverbs 29:15
The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.


My life could be in danger!
Proverbs 23:13
Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.


What should I do? Now that I'm an adult is being beaten no longer necessarily? Would it even help at this point? Does it have to be from my parents for it to count?

[Ezekiel Bathfire]

Re: I was abused as a child

I'm really concerned. Throughout my entire life, neither my parents nor my teachers ever beat me. I don't recall doing anything that would warrant being beaten, but there are probably bad things I did that I don't remember.

What should I do? Now that I'm an adult is being beaten no longer necessarily? Would it even help at this point? Does it have to be from my parents for it to count?

The point is not whether you remember doing things wrongly, but whether God remembers your doing things wrongly.

You must admit that your childhood behavior is unlikely to have been that of Jesus, and yet mysteriously you received no Godly rebukes.

I suspect that it may well be that you fall into the "Romans 9" category:

Ro:9:20: Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why hast thou made me thus?
Ro:9:21: Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?
Ro:9:22: What if God, willing to shew his wrath, and to make his power known, endured with much longsuffering the vessels of wrath fitted to destruction:
Ro:9:23: And that he might make known the riches of his glory on the vessels of mercy, which he had afore prepared unto glory,

Here we see that some people are born Hell-bound - they appear on earth simply for the purpose of living out a life and then stoking the fires of Hell.

Why should God cause your father to ignore your vile sins? Well, what point would there be in teaching you right from wrong? You are Damned anyway.

Like so many, you have profited in this life but you will reap your just desserts in the Life Hereafter.

On the question of whether your father should be the only person to beat you, the answer, to my mind, is 'Yes' - we can't have other people going round beating children can we? That would be barbaric.

[Deaner]

Re: I was abused as a child

Excellent answer Brother Bathfire.

It would seem you have soothed the wounded soul of this Christ Seeker who suffers from never having a beating by his own father. Can you imagine the emotional pain he may never recover from?

Mr. Warrior;

How's about you private message me and we will make a mutually convenient time to meet. I will bring along some of our rather larger Christian Brethren and we will give you an ass kicking that you will never forget. We will cover the lengths of your property. When you beg us to stop it will get worse. We will call you "son" and tell you we love you and so does Christ. It at least will be the first step in your recovery and the first beating is free. Future beatings will cost you but a small donation to our church.

We jokingly call this "giving 'till it hurts" to try and put some comedic levity into this serious situation.

Please write me as soon as you can. This is not something to be taken lightly. Satan lies in wait ready to call you "sissy" or "pussy". We are here to defend your honour.

YIC

Brother Deaner

[Professor Bessemer]

Re: I was abused as a child

I'm really concerned. Throughout my entire life, neither my parents nor my teachers ever beat me. I don't recall doing anything that would warrant being beaten, but there are probably bad things I did that I don't remember.

Sirach 30:1
He that loveth his son causeth him oft to feel the rod, that
he may have joy of him in the end.

I really feel like I missed out a crucial part of my development. I'm even worried that my parents hated me!

Proverbs 13:24
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes

I can't understand why they would neglect such an important aspect of my life.

I wanted to honor my father and mother ( Ephesians 6:2)! While simultaneously hating them of course ( Luke 14:26 ). I never wanted to bring them shame.
Proverbs 29:15
The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.


My life could be in danger!
Proverbs 23:13
Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.


What should I do? Now that I'm an adult is being beaten no longer necessarily? Would it even help at this point? Does it have to be from my parents for it to count?

God and His plan can sometimes confound us with their incomprehensible perfection. While both Brother Bathfire and Brother Deaner are correct, I just feel I need to add something. Whenever I believe that I have not been correctly disciplined by The Lord, I am comforted by the following verses and their perfect cause and effect logic. I hope they help with your confusion about your neglectful parents.

And the angel of the Lord found her by a fountain of water in the wilderness, by the fountain in the way to Shur.

And he said, Hagar, Sarai's maid, whence camest thou? and whither wilt thou go? And she said, I flee from the face of my mistress Sarai.

And the angel of the Lord said unto her, Return to thy mistress, and submit thyself under her hands.

And the angel of the Lord said unto her, I will multiply thy seed exceedingly, that it shall not be numbered for multitude.

And the angel of the Lord said unto her, Behold, thou art with child and shalt bear a son, and shalt call his name Ishmael; because the Lord hath heard thy affliction.

And he will be a wild man; his hand will be against every man, and every man's hand against him; and he shall dwell in the presence of all his brethren.
Genesis 16:7-12

[James Hutchins]

Re: I was abused as a child

I am often abused by children though I'd rather not talk about it. All I'll say is it must be my trusting nature.

[Professor Bessemer]

Re: I was abused as a child

I am often abused by children though I'd rather not talk about it. All I'll say is it must be my trusting nature.

Child sexual predators are a real problem. But because of their age, they are usually just given a slap on the wrist. Hopefully, when Mitt Romney is president, he will make dealing with these underage perverts a priority.

[James Hutchins]

Re: I was abused as a child

Child sexual predators are a real problem. But because of their age, they are usually just given a slap on the wrist. Hopefully, when Mitt Romney is president, he will make dealing with these underage perverts a priority.

I pray for Mitt every day, even if he is a moron. This country needs to get back to common decency.
I cannot tell you the number of times I have tried to defend myself only to find that I am the one being persecuted by the police. The see the child and the bruises on them yet ignore mine. Just because mine are on the inside, way down deep inside does not mean they are not there.
I am just thankful a good joo attorney and donations to election campaigns makes these 'misunderstandings' go away.

[Redeemed Papist]

Re: I was abused as a child

When I read articles like this and see the emotional scarring that wishy washy liberal parenting causes in the poor adult looking back on years of failure and lack of guidance... Well my heart fairly reaches out. The lack of moral compass that results form not having the fear of God beaten into you; the knowledge that your father hated you. How does a man bear it?

Well have no fear for my children! They are asleep now, but I know where my rod is and it is watchful. The slightest thing and they'll be howling. "Praise Jesus!" I always get them to scream with every stroke. At some point today, like every other day they'll deserve it. They won't ever doubt that daddy loves them.

[Levi Jones]

Re: I was abused as a child

I feel so bad for children whose parents don't love them. Those poor souls. Won't someone think of the children?

Those parents should have their children taken away to be raised with a proper upbringing like our parents gave us.

I often show my children father's love by inviting them to select their own branch from a tree. If it's too thin and prone to breaking, I select it for them.

My babies will not die from my lack of applying the rod.

[Prayer Warrior]

Re: I was abused as a child

Thank you for all of your kind words.

When I think about all the past sins I might have done without even realizing it, I am reminded of Job 1:5 . How Job sacrificed just on the off chance one of his son's did do something wrong. I feel I am in a similar circumstance. I thank God for everyday that he hasn't stricken me dead.

Here we see that some people are born Hell-bound - they appear on earth simply for the purpose of living out a life and then stoking the fires of Hell.

Why should God cause your father to ignore your vile sins? Well, what point would there be in teaching you right from wrong? You are Damned anyway.

Like so many, you have profited in this life but you will reap your just desserts in the Life Hereafter.

On the question of whether your father should be the only person to beat you, the answer, to my mind, is 'Yes' - we can't have other people going round beating children can we? That would be barbaric.

Thank you for this very informative post. I sincerely hope that I do not fall into the group of people God lovingly created in order to condemn and serve as an example to others (Or simply for reasons that are too complex for me to understand. It is not my place to question how the Lord works). If this were the case, would there be anyway for me to repent anyway for me to still repent and accept Jesus? I would not want to go against God's divine and loving plan, but I would also not like to be condemned to hell.

I very much appreciate Deaner's generous offer, along with Professor Bessemer 's example of the Lord's perfect and logical reasoning. So then I take it being beaten in this way will be effective both gaining the Lord's favor and repairing the emotional harm caused by not being beaten, even though it isn't technically done by my father? If so, how many beatings do you think it would take in order to be rehabilitated?

Yours in Christ,

Prayer Warrior

[Capt. Aaron Portway]

Re: I was abused as a child

Thank you for all of your kind words.

When I think about all the past sins I might have done without even realizing it, I am reminded of Job 1:5 . How Job sacrificed just on the off chance one of his son's did do something wrong. I feel I am in a similar circumstance. I thank God for everyday that he hasn't stricken me dead.



Thank you for this very informative post. I sincerely hope that I do not fall into the group of people God lovingly created in order to condemn and serve as an example to others (Or simply for reasons that are too complex for me to understand. It is not my place to question how the Lord works). If this were the case, would there be anyway for me to repent anyway for me to still repent and accept Jesus? I would not want to go against God's divine and loving plan, but I would also not like to be condemned to hell.

I very much appreciate Deaner's generous offer, along with Professor Bessemer's example of the Lord's perfect and logical reasoning. So then I take it being beaten in this way will be effective both gaining the Lord's favor and repairing the emotional harm caused by not being beaten, even though it isn't technically done by my father? If so, how many beatings do you think it would take in order to be rehabilitated?

Yours in Christ,

Prayer Warrior

Brother Deaner and his boys have a real knack for knowing exactly how many ass-whoopings it takes to get a sinner like you right with God. Let them decide when God thinks you've had enough, they're professionals.