[James Hutchins]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

I am a man, I have no idea how a woman's mind works. I know what God says.

[GOD=life]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

and the bible was NOT WRITTEN BY GOD! But by men!

God begs to differ

Anyway, back to the topic at hand. A woman who is raped should marry her rapist:

Deuteronomy 22:29 Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.

Some other things God has to say about the matter that may be related to possible lifestyle choices:

Deuteronomy 22:5 The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.

Deuteronomy 22:11 Thou shalt not wear a garment of divers sorts, as of woolen and linen together.

Deuteronomy 22:12 Thou shalt make thee fringes upon the four quarters of thy vesture, wherewith thou coverest thyself.


As for having sex with other men (or women ) after being raped, this may be relevant. I'm not 100% sure though, because technically they aren't married yet.

Deuteronomy 22:22 If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel.

[GOD=life]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

The woman must suffer even more with this digusting human being?

Everything happens for a reason in line with God's plan.

The woman in question got a wake-up call from God to change her lifestyle choices (and probably also her wardrobe!). The man in question also got a huge wake-up call from God in that he must take responsibility for his actions and marry the woman he had raped. Obviously, he felt a strong attraction towards her, so after saying "A", it is only reasonable he says "B" and becomes a decent married man and takes care of the woman.

Over time, he will certainly be able to prove through dedication that he can provide her with stability and she can learn to love him and provide him with a stable household so that they have a solid family framework in which to raise kids.

[CanuckG]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

Everything happens for a reason in line with God's plan.

The woman in question got a wake-up call from God to change her lifestyle choices (and probably also her wardrobe!). The man in question also got a huge wake-up call from God in that he must take responsibility for his actions and marry the woman he had raped. Obviously, he felt a strong attraction towards her, so after saying "A", it is only reasonable he says "B" and becomes a decent married man and takes care of the woman.

Over time, he will certainly be able to prove through dedication that he can provide her with stability and she can learn to love him and provide him with a stable household so that they have a solid family framework in which to raise kids.

Wake-up call? What about the woman who are dressing properly according to you that are then kidnapped and brutally raped? They should have no choice to marry their rapist and HOPE and PRAY that this man can support her. No man who wants to rape someone plans on staying long-term. They do it out of the pleasure and adrenaline.

Dedication? Solid Family Framework?

I'm sorry but you're way off on this one. But I respect your opinion.

[SophieEdward]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

But what if the rapist was not a respectable Christian?

What if he was just a drunk man who acted upon impulse and raped a young, defenceless woman?

What if he has no interest in paying the father and marrying the girl?

Would the girl be labeled as a Harlot with a bastard-child forever because of something a dishonorable man did?

[James Hutchins]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

But what if the rapist was not a respectable Christian?

What if he was just a drunk man who acted upon impulse and raped a young, defenceless woman?

What if he has no interest in paying the father and marrying the girl?

Would the girl be labeled as a Harlot with a bastard-child forever because of something a dishonorable man did?

No such thing as a defensless woamn, doth she not have arms? A shrill voice?

Then he is a evil man, he is obliged to make the offer.

Yes, being she has had sex out of wedlock, no matter the reason.

[CanuckG]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

No, he is right on the money. He is following God's Word. Life can be tough. Work through it, it is good for you.

You're correct it can be tough but that's why we have the choices and freedom to make things better. Not "accept what happens".

Common sense 101.

[James Hutchins]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

Wake-up call? What about the woman who are dressing properly according to you that are then kidnapped and brutally raped? They should have no choice to marry their rapist and HOPE and PRAY that this man can support her. No man who wants to rape someone plans on staying long-term. They do it out of the pleasure and adrenaline.

Dedication? Solid Family Framework?

I'm sorry but you're way off on this one. But I respect your opinion.

No, he is right on the money. He is following God's Word. Life can be tough. Work through it, it is good for you.

[SophieEdward]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

Yes, a woman has arms and a shrill voice, but men are often stronger. Also there are some people who are too cowardly to help prevent a raping.

A rapist who is not Christian will feel no obligation to marry his victem.

And does it not seem unfair and unreasonable that a woman who has sex against her will is still punished?

[GOD=life]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

And does it not seem unfair and unreasonable that a woman who has sex against her will is still punished?

It may be against her will, but not against God's will. Everything happens for a reason...

And you say a woman has a shrill voice? Let her use that voice then to alert others. It is but little trouble to punch in "911" in your mobile phone.

Deuteronomy 22:24 Then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, being in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbor's wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you.

[James Hutchins]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

Yes, a woman has arms and a shrill voice, but men are often stronger. Also there are some people who are too cowardly to help prevent a raping.

A rapist who is not Christian will feel no obligation to marry his victem.

It is up to the father of the female to impress upon the rapist his responsibility.

And does it not seem unfair and unreasonable that a woman who has sex against her will is still punished?

Punished???? How is she being punished? She could be fortunate to gain a husband who now has at least fifty shekels! That sounds like a win-win to me.

[SophieEdward]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

Any woman with a rapist for a husband is not lucky to me.

Also, what if the rapist does not accept the father's invitation to marry his daughter?

[James Hutchins]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

Any woman with a rapist for a husband is not lucky to me.

Then it is better for her to be known as a harlot with a bastard child?

Also, what if the rapist does not accept the father's invitation to marry his daughter?

It is the fathers responsibility to ensure it does happen.

Do not get God wrong, when a rape happens, things MUST be done.

[SophieEdward]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

I am not saying God is wrong, I am saying that people are often wrong. How can a father force a man to marry a woman whom he doesn't want to marry?

And a woman with a bastard child would not be the worst thing that has ever happened. I would respect a woman who could raise a good child without an evil man to hinder her.

[jennifer-Jane]

Re: What can you do if your daughter refuses to marry her rapist?

I am not saying God is wrong, I am saying that people are often wrong. How can a father force a man to marry a woman whom he doesn't want to marry?

And a woman with a bastard child would not be the worst thing that has ever happened. I would respect a woman who could raise a good child without an evil man to hinder her.

Damn right sophie

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