[Thomas Helwys]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

I do not know how good I am, it seems to me to call myself good would be getting above my station and would indicate pride in myself or boasting, which would be a sin.

I am a homemaker, so I keep the house clean and tidy at all times. This can be trying with 3 small children and one (we believe one, but there might be 2 in there) on the way, but it is my privelage to have a home to keep, so I keep it nice.

I have charted for my husband our discipline and maintainence spankings, and what tools have the greatest effect so they can be used on an infraction level basis.

I have a star chart for naughty or good behaviour for me and my older 2 children. Thihelps my husband to see at a glance what areas need addressing.

I have a menu for dinner and breakfast each day. My husband can choose from any of 14 dishes, which reduces in number over the duration of a fortnight until our next shopping trip.

I do not answer back to him, nor do I sit on the furniture when he is home unless I have been invited to do so

I obey most of his orders without complaint, there are some however I find distressing and I am not sure if I should obey as is my place as a woman or if his orders are a sign Satan is taking over his soul. I hope I can find the answers here, so that I can be a better wife for him

I bathe his feet every Saturday

There are always freshly baked cookies, cakes or pies. I also make ice cream.

If he is out, I stay up until he is home, so I can massage his shoulders or be available for his desires.

When his friends are over for games or sports, I keep the beer and snacks coming, and the children out of the way. Man time is important.

For now that is all I can think of.

I can think of many wives here at Landover Baptist Church who can learn a great deal from your Christian humility. Though I'd like to see more scripture references

[Mrs. Elizabeth Johnson]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

What lovely job you are doing. May I suggest adding more Scripture to back up what your actions? I had trouble doing that at first, but once you do, it's a lovely habit that will also help you behave much better!

[whiteroses]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

Apologies, you are both correct. I believe a good quote for being a good wife is Isaiah 26:3, 'thou will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee, because he trusteth in thee'

Our husbands trust us to be the best we can for them, and we should repay this trust by doing all that we can to keep him happy and rested.

[Witch Hammer]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

You graph your own misbehavior on a star chart? That is so charming! How often do you give your husband cause to beat the devil out of you? Women are flawed, evil creatures by their very nature and should be chastened preemptively and often, otherwise, even the "perfect" wife will become content and start resting on her laurels...not good. A good Christian husband should make sure that his wife is constantly frazzled, on-edge and pregnant.

[whiteroses]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

You graph your own misbehavior on a star chart? That is so charming! How often do you give your husband cause to beat the devil out of you? Women are flawed, evil creatures by their very nature and should be chastened preemptively and often, otherwise, even the "perfect" wife will become content and start resting on her laurels...not good. A good Christian husband should make sure that his wife is constantly frazzled, on-edge and pregnant.

Yes good sir I do. There are many transgressions that one might make. A burnt pie, or wearing undergarments that do not correspond to my husbands mood. Dinner being early, or late by even a minute. When he changes a nappy due to my being otherwise engaged with one of our other children.

He has some......games he will also play, where I have yet to find a way to win. So he would give a maintainence beating weekly, with a sliding sclae - from a slap to a strapping with his belt or a wooden cane, depending on the transgression. He also will punish me if I derive pleasure of my own when we are intimate, those occasions are for him. My body frequently responds to his in a lustful manner, which is unbecoming in a christian woman and we hope to fix this soon.

I have been pregnant for almost the entire duration of our marriage. We will be married two years this December, and we have twin boys of 15 months, a daughter of 7 months and I am again with child this last 4 months.

May I ask a question to the older members of this forum? If my husband wishes to us my mouth or bottom as he would use my female parts, is it a sin to do this? Or is it a sin to object to it? Please forgive my ignorance. I do not wish to antagonise the Lord, or my husband.

[Basilissa]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

Yes good sir I do. There are many transgressions that one might make. A burnt pie, or wearing undergarments that do not correspond to my husbands mood. Dinner being early, or late by even a minute. When he changes a nappy due to my being otherwise engaged with one of our other children.

He has some......games he will also play, where I have yet to find a way to win. So he would give a maintainence beating weekly, with a sliding sclae - from a slap to a strapping with his belt or a wooden cane, depending on the transgression. He also will punish me if I derive pleasure of my own when we are intimate, those occasions are for him. My body frequently responds to his in a lustful manner, which is unbecoming in a christian woman and we hope to fix this soon.

I have been pregnant for almost the entire duration of our marriage. We will be married two years this December, and we have twin boys of 15 months, a daughter of 7 months and I am again with child this last 4 months.

May I ask a question to the older members of this forum? If my husband wishes to us my mouth or bottom as he would use my female parts, is it a sin to do this? Or is it a sin to object to it? Please forgive my ignorance. I do not wish to antagonise the Lord, or my husband.

Hello, dear. I'm not really sure how to tell you this, so I'll just be blunt:

Your husband is a sodomite on his way to :

Deuteronomy 23:17 There shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel, nor a sodomite of the sons of Israel.

There is only one proper home for a penis, and it is not a mouth or a rear end!

[Esther B.]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

I was going to say the same thing as Basilissa. There is one other thing I'd like to add. Sex is only to be used for the purpose of creating new Soldiers for Christ, and that is not possible if the mouth or bottom is used.

[BrotherLarry]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

What lovely job you are doing. May I suggest adding more Scripture to back up what your actions? I had trouble doing that at first, but once you do, it's a lovely habit that will also help you behave much better!

Sister Stark,

May I begin by saying you are very beautiful.

The Lord loves when we quote His Word and promises us that He will not ignore it (Isaiah 55:11). It is honorable that you are aware of this. God will richly reward you for helping others to grow in Him.

May I finish by once again saying you are very beautiful.

Come Lord Jesus,
BrotherLarry

[Joanna Lytton-Vasey]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

I was going to say the same thing as Basilissa. There is one other thing I'd like to add. Sex is only to be used for the purpose of creating new Soldiers for Christ, and that is not possible if the mouth or bottom is used.

Yes. I assume by bottom she means back bottom, not front bottom? Any interest in that area is the sign of a sodomite.

(This Sister has suggested elsewhere that her husband shows unnatural interest in tending her lady-garden, and I wonder if he may be a hairdresser.)

[Mary Etheldreda]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

Hello, dear. I'm not really sure how to tell you this, so I'll just be blunt:

Your husband is a sodomite on his way to :

Deuteronomy 23:17 There shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel, nor a sodomite of the sons of Israel.

There is only one proper home for a penis, and it is not a mouth or a rear end!

Sister, you are quite right. There is only one place for the penis, and that is its rightful home, the wife's birth cannon. I will say, however, in the spirit of sharing wisdom in truth and love (Ephesians 4:15), that there may be times when a True Christian™ has been led by the Holy Spirit Himself to ferret out sin and demonic influences through unconventional means. We know from history the Lord Almighty Himself can create pregnancy where there could be none (Matthew 1:23), so how difficult could it be to move the man's seed from various organs and orifices to the womb of the submissive wife to nurture and protect the righteous seed of the faithful? Let's not forget that the loving wife will follow the orders of her devout, True Christian™ husband even if in her flesh she feels demeaned, disgusted, and even frightened and horrified. We know all good things come to those who are in His Good Grace (Romans 8:28), and that includes accepting in faith the command laid on the faithful husband by his own Master and Redeemer. After all, surely Joshua felt foolish marching around the city of Jericho with naught but a few trumpets and musicians, not yet knowing how the LORD would be glorified through his obedience (Joshua 6:4). Let us recall the Divine Plan need not make sense to us, it needs only be honored by us.

If a True Christian™ husband commands his wife to do something that doesn't make sense,
she ought to remember he is only following orders from his commander.

I hope you understand that this applies only to True Christian™ men, as all others are clearly working from a position of gratifying the lusts of the flesh. True Christian™ men have given up those childish ways and are simply following orders (John 14:15). Let's not shed tears over the humility our flesh suffers, no matter how repulsive the orders, no matter how disgraceful the action, no matter how frightening the event, no matter how demeaning and humiliating the circumstances. These things are all trifles when considering our Heavenly Reward for unconditional obedience.

[Joanna Lytton-Vasey]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

Thank you for the explanation, Sister Mary Etheldreda - admirably clear and succinct (for a woman, adds my husband). This of course is the point we must all remember:

I hope you understand that this applies only to True Christian™ men, as all others are clearly working from a position of gratifying the lusts of the flesh.

As an aside, I hope you don't mind if I print off your charming graphic and place a copy in each child's room? Proverbs 22:6, you know. With the addition of a little color, even young Nathaniel (2) should soon understand it.

[Mary Etheldreda]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

As an aside, I hope you don't mind if I print off your charming graphic and place a copy in each child's room?

I certainly don't mind, dear. As you know, anything found on the internet is considered public domain, unless it happens to be about certain whorish celebrities, in which case it's magically private.

[Mrs. Elizabeth Johnson]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

I certainly don't mind, dear. As you know, anything found on the internet is considered public domain, unless it happens to be about certain whorish celebrities, in which case it's magically private.

Mrs. Etheldreda,

I really like the last part about the celebrities! I personally was angry not at the sharing of the photos, but at the women who created them and whored themselves! If they took the photo, they wanted attention, and when they got wanted, they cried of abuse and criminal actions! Goes to show how much those women need a strong Christian, male in their life!

YiC,
Elizabeth

[Mary Etheldreda]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

Mrs. Etheldreda,

I really like the last part about the celebrities! I personally was angry not at the sharing of the photos, but at the women who created them and whored themselves! If they took the photo, they wanted attention, and when they got wanted, they cried of abuse and criminal actions! Goes to show how much those women need a strong Christian, male in their life!

YiC,
Elizabeth

Indeed, dear! This is very profound, if you don't mind my saying so. A woman who lacks the influence of a strong, Christian male (father, uncle, husband eventually) will naturally be reduced to feeding the appetites of the flesh: lust and pride. It's a shame, to be sure, but not a shame for the sake of their privacy. It is a shame that so many people have missed this important point.

[Mrs. Elizabeth Johnson]

Re: How to be a Good True Christian™ Wife

Indeed, dear! This is very profound, if you don't mind my saying so. A woman who lacks the influence of a strong, Christian male (father, uncle, husband eventually) will naturally be reduced to feeding the appetites of the flesh: lust and pride. It's a shame, to be sure, but not a shame for the sake of their privacy. It is a shame that so many people have missed this important point.

Mrs. Etheldreda,

I hope this a wake up call to the rest of the women in America. May I be so bold to say that all schools need to make this a lesson on modesty and the value of male discipline! I think 1 Corinthians 6:19 - 20 and Ephesisans 5:23 would be a good verse to include in the lesson, for after all we do not own ourselves as women, the Lord and our husbands do! "What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost [which is] in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?" and "For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body."

YiC,
Elizabeth